My sis-in-law has no problem being nude in our house when she visits over summer vacation. She is 20 and my husband is 25. She will come home from the pool and remove her bathing suit right in front of us, or she will join us for breakfast totally naked, like it's totally natural. My hubby says she's been doing it since she was young, and nobody in the family frowns on it. Is this normal? It's hurting my relationship with my spouse. HELP!!!!
2006-10-19 05:58:36 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Neither your husband nor your sister in law know anything about boundries. This is surely not normal. Your sister in law should not be doing this, your husband is her brother and this surely does not sound healthy, At 20 she should be knowing this! Your concerns are valid and i can empathize with you. Wonder if you have addressed this to your sister in law or your husband.
Have you discussed this with anyone in your family? Do you have support in your in laws? Whether you have support or not i think it is important that this is addressed. You are not on the wrong, walking naked is something not normal.
I agree with you when you said this was affecting your relationship with your husband, looks like he is ok and hence you are confused, angry, and concerned hence you have posted this on Yahoo.
Your in laws seem strange including your husband. If nothing changes what do you plan to do? Consider serious help.
2006-10-19 06:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by thachu5 5 · 0⤊ 7⤋
Nude Sister In Law
2016-10-20 08:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband's family is full of perverts or nutcases.
If my sister walked into my house, stripped naked, and acted like that was the normal thing. I'd have her institutionalized.
NORMAL??? For the Hefner family maybe... Why would her brother not mind? What kind of freak show did you marry into?
Do they make out on the living room couch too?
You ask at lunch time also... Thanks...
You tell your hubby... LOOK, we live in a CIVILIZED AND DECENT society here. This is NOT normal... I am EXTREMELY UNCOMFORTABLE WITH THIS ACTIVITY... Ask her to please remain clothed when she is in the common areas... When she's in her room by herself, she can open up the windows and be naked... When she's NOT, at the very least put on a FREAKING ROBE!!!
THIS IS THE HOUSING RULE FOR CLOTHING!!! THIS IS NOT A NUDIST COLONY... RESPECT THE RULES OR GET OUT!!
2006-10-19 06:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
How could your husband's sister walking around the nude be hurting your marriage? What is actually on your mind here?
If it's that big of an issue, tell her to stop by my place; i always have the guest room available.
Seriously, tell her how you feel, ask her to at least wear a see-thru robe at breakfast… the best of both world there, and no feelings hurt.
But really, if you like looking at her, ask her for some alone time. That would be the only thing i see here that would hurt your marriage.
Wish you luck!
2006-10-19 06:10:52 · answer #4 · answered by diagofaldi 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
WTF...are you serious... I would be irate! That is your home as well as your husbands. I would set some ground rules of what is acceptable and not in my home. My guest would abide by them or they wouldn't visit me in my home??? Your husband seriously needs to find his back bone.... I have a younger brother who has snorted the better part of his youth and most of his adult life away. Just because he has been doing it most of his life doesn't mean it is acceptable in my home or any of my other family members. Your sister in law is rude and inconsiderate of others and should be told just that. I pray that you have no children in your home that observe such behavior.
If that doesn't work tell him you are going to invite your obese 58 year old uncle over and pay him to sit around nude.. even kick a leg up on the breakfast table and fondle his jewels... see how your hubby stomachs that....
2006-10-19 06:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Your house, your rules, and you have to have a united front with your hubby. HOWEVER, since you didn't mention kids anywhere, and it's your hubbys sister so he isn't interested in her sexually, you might just want to make some comments like, "Sis, are you putting on weight?", or "Is your left breast lower than the right one?" to make her a bit more self conscience..... Good luck!
2006-10-19 06:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
If it was your sister I think there would be a problem. It seems like you are pretty uncomfortable with this anyway. Try getting to the root of it. If you talk to her about it without a my way or the highway attitude you may learn something about her. Obviously you're concerned about your husbands feelings and don't want to offend her- this may be the way to go about it. She must be a pretty open person, thus open to discuss this issue. That's not to say that eventually it won't have to come down to ``my house, my rules.''
2006-10-19 06:44:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony F 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell her you feel uncomfortable with her walking around naked and would appreciate it if she keeps her clothes on. I think it's being very disrespectful towards you. She doesn't need to be walking nude around you and there is something wrong with your husband thinking it's OK! No, this is not normal and it is out, out rude. I am definitely on your side it would upset me too.
2006-10-19 06:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Susie B 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you don't want her to do that then let her know or tell your husband to mention it to her. It does seem odd that your husband doesn't mind his 20 year old sister walking around in the house nude though lol
2006-10-19 06:01:21 · answer #9 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can answer your own question with the question that you asked. I'ts your house. Set the rules and boundaries in your house. Your sister in law is not young anymore. She is being disrespectful to you and your spouse. What was acceptable before is not acceptable now. Put your foot down in your own house.
2006-10-19 06:04:38 · answer #10 · answered by Mae G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋