d. im 14 so i dont know how he'll react
2006-10-19 05:45:43 · 16 answers · asked by Zac 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
con grates on your family being accepting. When you say you have "been a girl for two days" I assume you mean you have been dressing and acting as a female for two days.
As much as I wished I could tell you everyone will be as accepting as your mother has been, I can not.
Being a teenager is very hard, being a transgendered one I can only imagine would be way harder. I can't really advice you as to tell your friend or not, I just wish you the best in what ever your choice is.
2006-10-19 05:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great! You picked a tough life! I hope that you have a hard enough outer shell to deal with the negativity that you will encounter in your lifetime, but still be able to love, and be loved. I know a few transgendered people, and they have such a wall around them... they seem lonely in some way... Don't just change the outside, but work hard on the inside so you are a complete girl!
Tough question... should you tell your friend? You'll have to do it at the right time... feel it out. If he's your friend, he will be your friend no matter what. If you are only in High School, he might not be mature enough... You'll have to accept whatever comes...
This is what I'm talking about. If he rejects you, don't let it deaden your spirit... You will have to deal with this sort of thing often.
Love,
Gregory
2006-10-19 12:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Zac, I think it's time to change your name and avatar!
If you've been living as a girl for the past few days, then won't the friend notice?
I don't think at all that you're mentally ill or that what you're doing is wrong, okay? That said, this sort of thing can be very taxing on you and you should begin seeing a psychologist. I've known people who go to one and realize that they were actually transgendered and some who realize that they weren't. I'm not judging, I'm just saying it's a difficult time and you might not at your age be empowered to know everything emotionally, physiologically, and psychologically about your situation and that discussing your life with a professional might help you get through it okay.
No matter what happens, be confident in who you are and don't let anyone get you down.
2006-10-19 15:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by zea_m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you're ready first. Make sure that you're ready to tell him and deal with what reaction you get. Some people have gotten support, while others have gotten outed all around their school by their former friend. If he bashes gays, odds are they'll not react well. If they're a member of your school's GSA, then odds are you'll get a supportive reaction. Also, make sure you're ready to field somequestions. Some people don't ask anything, while others will give you some of the strangest questions that you may not have the answer to yet. Just be honest with what you know. I wish you the best, whenever you decide to come out.
Blessed be )O(
Sarah
2006-10-19 13:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well done
it is not easy telling people you are now somebody else
it depends on your friend and how understanding they are
if you think they will understand and stand by you tell them
but if you think this would only course problems with other friends and school then don't
people fear what they don't understand
so if you can tell your friend, that it is what you need to do, to live make sure he understands you need to be under the radar
and no matter what he should not tell any one you where a boy
i assume you are going to change schools some time soon but this is not easy either getting used to dressing acting and then going into the girls room are all something to learn
i don't know where you are
but just remember if you have to get changed at school or somewhere where other girls are you may need to get around it by getting your mum to somehow exclude you from these activities
sorry i am going on again
tell him if you think it is wise to do so
you will need a friend or two to get though this it is not easy but once you work out your suport team they will help you all of the way
2006-10-19 13:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Zara3 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Good for u. There are 2 reactions I can think of.
1)Shock, then being friends again.
2)Shock, deciding not to be friends with you again.
That's all I got also I'm a gal and have always been a gal so my only main thing to say is panty hose is not that comfertable no matter what anyone else says.
2006-10-19 14:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Zac,
You are 14yrs old (if you are being honest), this is a choice that you are making as part of your possible future into adult life, so you need to be honest with yourself and your friend, but most important is your honesty with yourself. If your friend does not accept this then he is not a valued friend, it will hurt if he rejects you , but you must not reject yourself. If he accepts it then he his a true friend. Also know that sometimes one may be in shock of the unfamiliar and it may take time to adjust and as a teenager most are afraid of how their peers will look at them, so he may feel he is being judged too and walk away, but inside he still is a friend, just a weak one. Just be prepared and expect all possibilities. Good luck in your endeavors.
2006-10-19 13:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by Wheels 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning to stay a girl then he will find out anyway and I think it would be better coming from you. If he decides you cant be friends then you must go on you will make friends that will accept you for who you are. Always be true to yourself.
2006-10-20 00:37:11 · answer #8 · answered by mamacitac9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if your friend can't figure it out, it's best left unsaid.
Does it really matter? A friend's a friend regardless.
Let him take the lead. If he wants to know, he'll ask YOU.
Best of luck.
2006-10-19 12:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by DanZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you really gonna take the advice of strangers on yahoo....?If your mother is so supportive you should take the advice that she is willing to share with you, she knows you and your friends better than we do.
2006-10-19 14:54:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋