I see people always getting pressured to get married. I say don't get married, or if you do get a prenup. What are your thoughts?
2006-10-19 05:20:23 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
No one should be pressured to get married. But nor is marriage overrated, for those of us who did it without pressure. Statistically, married people are healthier and wealthier. A married household is the ideal environment in which to raise children. I love being married and if my husband died, I would marry again because it is an awesome way to live! I wish those who marry because they feel pressure to do so would quit it, because they are driving up the divorce rate and giving a great institution a bad name.
2006-10-19 05:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is to protect the children. If you do not have children I don't really care if you get married or not but do not bring a child into this world without a commitment to his/her mother.
What makes you so afraid of marriage? Yes the divorce rate is high but you can still have a great marriage if you pick the right mate and work at it. You should not get married if you are selfish, self-centered, power hungry, have low self esteem, hateful, or a bum or like to sleep around. If you are not mature enough save the both of you the headaches and pain. Don't get married because others want you to or you feel you have to. But don't start having kids either.
Find that perfect someone and you will know it is time to take the leap.
2006-10-19 05:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course this is just my opinion; I've been married for 28 years now and it is wonderful. We do have our ups and downs. Divorce, sure we've come close, but were too poor at the time to afford it. Thank God for that because today with childeren grown and grandchildren we've both realize what is really important, honesty, communication, blah blah blah. Sure you've heard it all, but marriage with the right person turns out to be great. We have one bank account and have complete trust in one another. Just take your time, find the right person and don't let anyone push you into something you know isn't right. If you have to ask "Is the the right thing to do", then it probably isn't. Good luck
2006-10-19 05:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kenneth P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prenups are only for those who don't trust the person they are about to make a lifetime commitment too.
don't be pressured to be married, but don't be too afraid of commitment to not get married.
2006-10-19 05:25:45 · answer #4 · answered by more than a hat rack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are so spineless as to get married because of "pressure" they have bigger problems with themselves than marriage.
As for the pre-nup, I would find it offensive, and I don't even have anything to protect. Have a pre-nup, then don't share resources in the marriage either.
2006-10-19 05:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by kingstubborn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only get married if YOU want to. It is an individual choice, and in general, no one should let themselves get pressed into marriage.
"Have a pre-nup, then don't share resources in the marriage either."
Certain accepets of each of the individual's lives in the marraige should be separate. But that is just my opinion. :D
2006-10-19 05:24:16 · answer #6 · answered by Birds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Overrated? Most Definitely. Overrated, Overdone, Overboard....it's more bother than it's worth, besides, who benefits in the end? not the kids but the Lawyers and Churches, both of whom make plenty of money in the beginning and in the end.
2006-10-19 05:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are guys afraid to commit? definately a prenup i do agree
2006-10-19 05:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by aquaris01975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, I would love the man that wants to spend the rest of my life make me sign something JUST IN CASE he decided down the road that he doesn't want to spend the rest of his life with me anymore, and therefore wants all of his material things back because thats whats on his mind instead of making a marriage loving and ever lasting...Sounds VERY romantic..
*sarcasm*
2006-10-19 05:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
totally agree it's propoganda, i don't see what a piece of paper and a ring has to do with anything. as long you are with someone
and that level of commitment is all good between the both of you then everything is ok, marriage just mean that you are trapped
2006-10-19 05:25:24 · answer #10 · answered by agata 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋