We were together a year. We shared a connection that was very real. He told me he didn't think we should see each other anymore about a week ago, but I didn't get real closure. It was totally unexpected. He left some things kinda up in the air, like whether we should be friends or ignore each other. Neither one of us could imagine never speaking again... the word "goodbye" couldn't be spoken by either one of us. I sent him a note the day after, and he responded with, "I would LOVE to speak to you, I care about you & how you're doing, but for now, I think it's best we don't. As a father I have to do this." See, his ex wants him back. He's said he knows it will never work, but she's threatening him & playing headgames & he's confused. We used to share EVERYTHING. I'm grieving right now, & the thing I miss most is our phone conversations (it was a LDR). I am so tempted to call him, but I know I shouldn't. How do I stop myself from contacting him during my weak moments?
2006-10-19 04:50:42 · 4 answers · asked by ouch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to take one day at a time. Chances are the ex is going to get him back. I have heard the same story as you heard about he knows it is not going to work with his ex. Unfortunately he can say it till he is blue in the face but honey, that man is going back to his ex. For your sake, you really need to have some dignity and not call him. I can say this because the same thing happened to me. It will be 3 months now and every day seems to be a battle about contacting him but I get my strength from the good Lord above and He gives me the courage to be strong and not fold. If this does not work with the ex and him and down the road he calls you, you remind yourself of this hurt and pain that you are going thru now and do you ever want to feel this again? I hope this helps you, it seems to help me when I can help others with this kind of pain. Every day I see more light at the end of the tunnel.
2006-10-19 05:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put one foot in front of the other . Only one year and a long distance relationship on top of that girl, get real with yourself you deserve better than that . Go out and find a real love story !
2006-10-19 12:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line is only you can give yourself closure. You have to pray for strength to move on. Give him the space he needs to tend to his situation. Long distance relationships are hard enough without having to deal with his issues.
2006-10-19 12:37:46 · answer #3 · answered by walter K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop rationalizing, be an adult, create your own closure
2006-10-19 11:56:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋