Please help best friend has a problem at work is there any advice u can give so she can handle the situation?

Question

My best friend as been at her job for 6 months and 2 weeks after she started her boss started bulling her, she has reported her for not going in early on short notice, bitched about her, she has been so horrible that she has made her cry, It had stopped for a while but now is ten times worst and her boss has turned the other collegues on her and they all have a go had her, but 1 of her "workmates" was managing the shop yesterday and he tokk a 1 hour 45 mins break, came back smelling of alcohol and made my mate do all the work.

so any advice would much appreciated

My best friend has been looking for work but the problem is she has recently been diagnosed with epilipsy and is having trouble finding a new job and her collegues she this has a vunerability in her

Answer 1

She must keep a diary of all the things that happen - dates, times, who is doing it etc. Then she can either go to Human resources within the company or contact someone like ACAS for advice. She needs all the details to hand though. I wish her luck x

Answer 2

Sometimes it's best to get a new job. Give 2 weeks notice, grit your teeth and keep working hard until your last day and then leave for a better job with nicer colleagues. Involving HR or co-workers rarely works if the boss is truly despicable.

Also, even though it is hard to do, she might look at herself and try and see what situations cause the bullying. Is there anything that she is doing (making mistakes, talking on the phone, coming in late) that might be adding to the situation. Maybe not, but there may be some behavior that she can work on to help prevent a similar situation in the next job. Good luck--there's nothing worse than spending 40+ hours a week at a job you don't like.

Answer 3

She could talk to the boss and find out what the problem really is. Or go above their head and lodge a complaint with HR, or file a grievance if there is a union there at work. But I'd look for another job and once found, give 2 week notice and tell the boss to kiss her *ss when she leaves. It is easier to find a job when you already have one. Good luck.

Answer 4

I've seen lots of people bullied in very different companies and in very different situations - commercial, public sector, young, old, senior, junior...

I've also seen different approaches to it - using Unions, the HR dept, going to senior managers etc but I have never yet seen it resolved in a way that hasn't affected a person's prospects within an organisation not to mention the effects it's had on their self-esteem and personal life.

The conclusion I've come to is that unfortunately most of us spend more time with our work colleagues than our families, so it's important that we work with people who treat each other with respect and dignity. Life is just too short to do otherwise.

I'd urge your friend not to underestimate the impact this situation could have on her and to find a job with colleagues who deserve her.

Leaving isn't a cop out, it's about spending your energy on something more productive than fighting a group of people who are actually five year olds masquerading as adults.

Apologies if this sounds a bit worthy, but as you may have gathered this is a subject that I feel really strongly about :-)

Hope it works out for your friend.

Answer 5

If the company isn't big enough to have a Trade Union, tell her to keep a note of everything that happens and the times then take it to a solicitor. It's harrassment of the work place at its worst.

The longer she lets this go on the worse it will get.

Answer 6

Is she a member of a union, Your friend is clearly being bullied. She can put a grievance in against the boss, or write to their head office and report her. This woman should not be allowed to get away with subjecting her to such ordeals, who does she think she is. As for her colleagues they are just as bad. It is not going to help your friends condition is it.
Tell her not to let them get away with it, there are laws that prevent this sort of behaviour tell her to use them.Also tell her to record time and date all incidents. Hope things get resolved for her.

Answer 7

It should be reported to a more senior staff member. Or your friend could leave, as harsh as that sounds.
Either that or tell your friend to toughen up, they only bully cos they think they can get away with it. Obviously they haven't grown out of their school playgroung bullying tactics. All it will take is for your friend to stick up for herself for them to realise she is not the easy pushover they think she is.
It is outrageous that in this day and age this behaviour is allowed to continue.
You must be a great support to your friend and quite clearly care a lot, if you think it is getting too much for her then tell her to leave, no job is worth that.

Answer 8

this occurs with me very almost each twelve months. people flow on. each so often they only get unwell of their lives and prefer some substitute so as that they flow directly to diverse people and grow to be their "BFFFLs". You by no skill know with people. one among my stable pals advised me i replaced one twelve months, gave me the chilly shoulder and left. And me and all people knew it wasnt me that replaced, it grew to become into her. And we havent talked slightly in any respect apart from at an assembly whilst she asked if i ought to scooch over so as that she ought to sit down there. So yeah, people substitute darling, merely settle for it and stay with it, or seek advice from her and easily ASK HER.

Answer 9

Only suggestion I have is look for another job. It's never easy to work where you are not appreciated and if her coworkers are teaming up with her boss it will probably continue.

Answer 10

If its a large company then you can report them to head office, or maybe a trade union?