Me and my fiance have been together for 5 years and are getting married next year. He cheated on me a couple of years ago and he says that he didn't sleep with her and ow has nothing to do with her. I think he did and doesn't want to tell me, i would rather know the truth before we get married. can anyone help
2006-10-19 04:32:23 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Marrage is based on trust, If you dont trust him now whats the point, it would all be just a sham.
2006-10-19 04:37:06 · answer #1 · answered by Arnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a couple of years ago you should really have moved on. Either you forgive him, put it down to a mistake or you end it straight away. You don't wait for 2 years and then wonder about it.
Has he been good since the or do you think he has done it again? Is that why you have asked the question now? If he has been good and you truly believe he can be trusted, and ofcourse you love him, then stop asking about something that is in the past. Whatever the truth is it doesn't matter. All that matters is do you love him, do you trust him and can you put it behind you? If the answer to any of these questions is no then break up with him before you commit yourself to marriage and move on.
Good Luck
2006-10-19 11:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this happened a couple of years ago and it's still niggling at you tell him that you will not get married until you know the truth.
He might not be lying but until you hear the words that he did you may not believe him anyway...trust is an awful thing to loose in someone and it's very hard to regain it.
I honestly don't think its a good idea to go ahead with marrying this guy especially the way you are feeling now...if you never get the truth from him this will come up in future arguements.
If he has nothing to do with this girl then it proves that its you he wants, especially if you got engaged after it all happened, you need to ask yourself if you trust him enough not to do it again and if the answer is no then get out now...if the answer is yes, then enjoy planning your wedding day.
2006-10-19 12:08:23 · answer #3 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bit hard to help as you've done all you can to get the truth out of your partner, if he did cheat & doesn't want to tell you no amount of asking him will make him cave in! If he didn't cheat though & you keep on asking him eventually it will get irritating & he may want a break from it all. If you're getting married next year it's probably wise to sit down & explain to him that if he did sleep with her you want to know now so you can both get past it, make it clear that you will want to make the relationship work but you need him to be honest with you! If he still insists nothing happened you need to move past it or your marriage won't last!
2006-10-19 11:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by C Greene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG what are you still doing with this guy..if you marry him it will be the biggest mistake you ever make...girl...if he's cheated on you before and denied it...he's lying...please cancel this wedding...if your gut instinct tells you he did, then he did, don't let this guy ruin your life...i am serious....if you marry him you will be a very unhappy wife....cut him loose before things get worse...sweetheart there's no smoke without fire...he must have done something for this to come up....you will be very unhappy...i swear....men (not all men) just some are good at lying and they ALWAYS have an alibi....he and his mates are thick as thieves and very loyal to one another so your never going to know the real truth, but follow your instincts, save yourself from a disastrous marriage...plus before people start spending hundreds for this wedding spare them the grief....the only thing you can do is cancel...or put the wedding back until he owns up, or at least till you find out, you deserve that much darlin...he may never own up but at least you wont be walking up the aisle of doom....plus you'll be muc happier once you find out..it will hurt at first but we are all adapted to heal...
2006-10-19 11:46:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have a happy marriage and a happy future together, you have to let this go. He has told you he didn't sleep with her so you should believe that. Why are you digging up the past? Why does it matter if he slept with the gilr or not?! The important thing is you are still together, its you he wants to spend the rest of his life with and that means a hell of a lot more than whether he slept with some girl or not two years ago.
2006-10-19 11:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. Its a couple of years ago now, if he doesn`t see her anymore she`s not a problem. Don`t spoil a five year relationship worrying about this. Get married and be happy!
2006-10-19 12:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by vivi-mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to decide weather you trust him or not. Any how the girl he slept with was 2 years ago. So you will have to start afresh
without faith and trust there is no point in getting married
2006-10-19 11:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating never trust anyone who has cheated as they will cheat again I know I'm speaking from experience as it has been done on me a girl I was with for 6 yrs
2006-10-19 11:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by Ivan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still thinking about it 2 years later then you need to have some marriage guidance before you go ahead next year or it might all end in tears!
2006-10-19 11:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WAS YEARS AGO!! You kept the man so what dif does it make NOW??? If you dont trust him DONT marry him BUT you kept him so I dont feel you should bring up the past. If you couldnt deal with him cheating on you YEARS AGO. You should have left him YEARS AGO. Get a grip hon.
2006-10-19 11:35:40 · answer #11 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋