my sil is an addict, we've tried to help, she's not ready. she just got out of jail and moved back into her parents where her kids live (they have custody) since being home she has stolen from her parents and kids, she's brought the kids with her when she's gone to buy drugs, and on more than three occassions drug dealers have shown up at the house at 2-3 in the morning wanting money she has owed them. my in laws are too old to deal with this, but nobody wants to kick her out. dcf gave the grandparents custody bc of her drug problem 2 yrs ago, but if she ever used and lived there they would take the kids away, or to other family membs. my in laws deny the problem, but i feel the kids are in danger. i have a knot in my stomach everyday over what to do, it isn't right to have them in danger, but how do i turn in family? please help, i have no idea what to do.
2006-10-19 04:23:28 · 14 answers · asked by jwpsgirls 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She has already ruined her life don't let her ruin her kids too. Even though it is your family she is putting other family members in danger. I know it's hard but I had a brother that turned in my dad and when he got out he was a totaly different person. Do it!!! You'll help the kids.
2006-10-19 04:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First is this your husband's sister? If so what does he say about it. Second someone has got to do something to protect these kids and right now it doesn't sound like that is happening. The courts saw there was a problem when they gave the grandparents custody and made the restriction for her to not be around. Yes this is their daughter and they don't want to see the bad so they deny it and hopes it goes away and in doing so allow not only the children but themselves to be put in danger. If dcs steps in chances are another family memeber wouldn't get the children IF they couldn't even be involved to get them out of the situation. I know many might disagree but I personally feel you should first go to the grandparents with your concerns and tell them straight out that you are worried about the kids safety as well as theirs and see what they have to say, if they are not willing to get their daughter out of the house then yes definitly go to dcs and tell them what you have observed and what your fears are. It is understandable you don't want to turn in family and it will cause problems but you have to keep those kids safe. Adults are responsible for their own actions and know what is what a child is innocent and depend on adults for their safety.
2006-10-19 04:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about her and the kids then you need to call local Law enforcment and explain the problem to then, this is a seriuos matter that you need to take care of, not only would you be doing this for the kids but her as well she will end up dead and maybe take one of the kids with her if someone doesn't step in NOW!!!! She will not change unless she wants to but, she has NO right to be around those kids they didn't ask for a drugie mom!!! Call the cops and report her!! Eventually she will relize what and why you turned her in, and if she doesn't then she will end up being shot or dying from her addiction!! I have seen this happen before!
2006-10-19 04:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by randyssgirl25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very hard decision. But to me there is only one point of view. If some is a danger to kids, either theres or anyones, then they must be kept away from them. If there are drug dealers showing up at the house and she takes them to buy drugs then there should be no reason that children should be any where near here. I would report her, it might be painful and this might sound corny but think of the children.
2006-10-19 04:27:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do it anonymously. Then just play dumb when they come. That is a very hard decision to make. To me, the children are more important. They cant take care of themselves so that is what a parents job is. If that parent can't do it then I feel it is our responsibility as family to step in and help. All children deserve to have a chance at a future and sometimes having junkie parents, they don't get the chance they deserve and grow up thinking that the behavior of the parents is perfectly acceptable for them as well. Do what your heart says is the right thing. It's a very hard decision so I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-19 04:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by bnvs232000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The kids DESERVE a chance at a normal life without being exposed to an addict, drugs, or even killers showing up at their home wee hours in the morning. If the grandparents arent willing to put the kids safety FIRST.....Some one has too. Place the call and know that you are doing the right thing. G'luck!
2006-10-19 04:30:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With drug dealers knocking on the door at all hours of the morning, someone could get hurt and it may be an innocent bystander. Have you thought of an intervention? Where you have a huge family meeting and try to get her into rehab?
2006-10-19 04:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by ...mr2fister... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, those children should not be subjected to any drugs or drug related dealings. You have to turn her in for the benefit of the children. If the other family members do not see it that way then shame on them.
2006-10-19 04:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you turn in family?.....YOU just DO!! It's very simple.
You can report anything anonymously you know! You don't have to give your name when you make a call to childrens services, Or you can give your name (to establish credibility) but ask them not to reveal it. I've had to do the same with my sister when she was mistreating her kids.....very hard to do, but when it comes to saving an innocent child, I got no problem pi$$ing someone off. In a choice of child or family member....The child comes first!!!!
2006-10-19 04:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, calling children's services should be your first step. It can't be done anonymously, i don't think, but you can request that they don't mention your name. You can't make her stop using, but you can get the kids out of a dangerous environment.
2006-10-19 04:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mo the treehugger! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋