He went to try out for three solid days. And he thought he was going to make the team. But when he got to school this morning and looked at the list on the coaches door he found he didn't make it. I am upset for him. Because he really wanted to make it. Is there something I can do. Because I really want to go "***** slap" the coach (I don't want to commit murder here...just joking)
2006-10-19 04:20:09 · 16 answers · asked by christina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I understand it is a dissappointment to him and to you.........however you need to help your son realize that this is not the end of the world, that NOT everyone makes the team. Tell him he just to work a little harder and practice for next time. Also check in to see if your local YMCA has a team that he can join, or other local sports teams sponsered by area buisness'.
No offense to you nor your son, but this is a big problem everywhere. Everyone now a days gets so upset if their child doesn't make the team they try out for. but if you look way back in the day, not everyone made the team and that was ok. the kid got over it eventually and got on with life. and kept trying out the next time and the next. Or the realized that ok, this sport is not for me no matter how much I like it, maybe I'm just not good enough and went on to something else and what do you they made that team and it was the best thing they have ever done.
Don't give up, and tell your son the same. IF this is what he is really passionate about, then don't be upset with the ones that did make it or the coach for not putting him on the list. Just keep up the practice and try again next year.
2006-10-19 04:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by sesamenc 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Slapping the coach, getting upset or even commiting murder won't make a basketball player out of your son. 3 days is nothing, people train for years and still miss out on a team. Tell him to keep on training all year and try out for the grade 8 basketball team. Pereserverance, hard work, skill, and talent will get him into the team, not a mum who teaches him to be a whinger. Nothing good comes cheap, if he is committed he will try harder and get this 3 days idea out of your head. Ask Michael Jordan how long he trained for.
2006-10-19 04:30:18 · answer #2 · answered by johnno K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enroll him in a basketball camp. Look at colleges in your area, they usually have good programs for kids. Also, he can always ask the coach to help out by being a team manager. He can keep score books, help organize team get togethers, and be there for support. The coach might look at that and be like....Wow this kid really wants to be here, and will take that into consideration next year. I played ball in highschool, just let him know if he wants it bad enough, he can do anything.
2006-10-19 04:30:14 · answer #3 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH God, I know how your feeling!! MURDER is high on the list!! lol
You need to go to the superintendent of the school system. In the 7th grade, it's not right to be turning kids down for athletic sports. It should be the jr. high years when their learning and putting in their all to see if they will be good enough for High school and college! What the school has to do then, is let there be a B scaud or a C scaud teams. NO student in JR. High should be turned down to be on a team!!
Attend your school board meeting and keep pushing for things to change. Start a petition address it witht eh board.
OUR children have plenty of years ahead of them where their selfesteems can be destroyed!! WHY allow the school system to destroy it for them, before their even out in the big mean world!!
Wish I was there with you........I wouldn't allow you to put a stop to it, I'd push you tell you got something done!! :-)
2006-10-19 04:31:28 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of whacking the coach, next summer enroll him in a basketball camp. Great for learning the basics and honing the skills he already has. If you can, contact the coach to see why he didn't make the team. He can work on his moves with friends and the camp will do wonders for him.
2006-10-19 04:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by tallerfella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's a shame and he was probably qualified to play and all, and there are even politics that go into selecting players, but if he doesn't make it he doesn't make it.
You need to teach him that this is how things go in life.
Sometimes you win and other times you do not. Life doesn't always go your way. Things don't always work out to your favor. It's easy to be a good sport or a good person when you have everything going your way. What counts is how you are when things don't go your way.
You're suppose to be teaching this to your children. Please do so. The rest of us don't want to deal with another spoiled kid that thinks the world owes him, or her something.
I'm not trying to be harsh toward you, but I believe what I am telling you, and it's the right thing to do for HIS sake.
2006-10-19 04:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Michael Jordan got kicked off his high school basketball team. Coach said he didn't have what it takes. What a moron the coach must be. Well you know the story. Persistance. Pracitce and perseverance. That's all I can suggest to you. Luck
2006-10-19 04:27:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jayme C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reassure him that he did his best. Maybe take him out to dinner at his favorite spot. Try looking into a coach or someone that can help him tighten up his techniques so when he goes out for the team next year, he will make it!
2006-10-19 04:39:09 · answer #8 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it and help him do the same. You know yourself that we dont get everything we want. It will be a life long lesson, dont show disappoint in him or trash talk the coach. I know what your are going though. I went through the same thing with my daughter last year - just support them the best you can and let time heal the hurt he is feeling.
2006-10-19 04:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by salter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awe...poor guy! That is never fun, especially at that age. Unfortunately, it DOES happen- you just need to continuously reassure him that he was not the only one cut- there is only room for "x" amount of players... Just encourage him to continue practicing, thus improving his skills for the next year's tryouts. If he remains feeling down about the situation look for another extra curricular activity that he may find enjoyment in doing. Keep him as busy as possible: that way he lacks time to dwell on it and remain in "the dumps."
2006-10-19 04:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by PBnJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋