I have been trying to get pregnant for months and i'm starting to wonder if there is something wrong with me. When i was 15 i was raped and became pregnant and was forced to have an abortion. I have a four year old son and when he was 9months i concieved again. (well at this time me and his father called it quits and decided against my beliefs, having an abortion would be the best option. (he lived in california and me on michigan, and one baby on my own was all I could handle) Well i'm remarried to a man i love woth all my heart and i want to give him a baby, he has loved and raised my son as his own for almost three years now. Every month i get excited and the day before i go buy a pregnancy test i get my period. I very scared that my abortions have taken away any chance of me being able to give the man i love what he so desperatley wants to be a part of with me. I have no insurance and I'm scared if i find out i can't concieve he won't want to spend his life with me I'm scared Sugg?
2006-10-19 04:16:13 · 7 answers · asked by jillybean 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
what u say is certainly possible; however, I think I would speak to the doctor and have them run a few tests. It might now be u---might be the guy since you have produced children before
2006-10-19 04:20:52 · answer #1 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After two abortions, I'm thinking that you probably have a pretty fair share of scar tissue in your uterus, which would make it pretty hard for an egg to latch on once it is fertilized.
I would get checked out at a clinic to see if there is any chance that you have issues. You should be able to go to a free clinic to get checked out. If anything, go get a well-woman exam.
If he loves you, and it sounds like he loves you as well as your son, that should be enough for him.
Don't stress. That decreases your chance of getting pregnant also.
2006-10-19 11:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know about your cycles and are you timing it right to concieve during the "fertile window"? I thought there must've been something wrong with me after not concieving after 6 months and then came across a book "Taking charge of your fertility" by Toni Weschler - I have learnt a truck load of information from this. Maybe look into getting it and best of luck to you.
PS I think I am having implantation bleeding today after learning when my body is fertile this past cycle...
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2006-10-19 12:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by MrsO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To conceive you must have sex on a day that your eggs are being released.
After the 3rd day from the day that menses started put a thermometer into your mouth and check your body temperature every morning before you start turning in bed. The best time is at about 4 a.m. Maintain a chart. You will find that on one day the body temperature drops from 1/2 degree to one degree. This is the day that your eggs are being released. If you want to get pregnant this is the day that you must have sex. Tell your husband to ejaculate on his inward thrust so that the sperms will shoot deep inside.
After having sex you must stay in bed for about 30 mins with your knees bent up with a pillow under your buttocks so that the sperms will not pour out - to enable them to travel up.
Get your husband to save his sperms in the testacles for at least 3 days before sex to enable them to mature well to do their job.
2006-10-19 21:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by donp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a little time. The older you are, the longer it takes, generally, to get pregnant.
Also, you are really trying hard to get pregnant and that, ironically, makes it harder to conceive. Just relax and let nature take it's course.
And if you are so worried that you will lose this man if you don't get pregnant, you might want to reconsider having a child with him. Seriously.
2006-10-19 11:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by Miss E. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him about your previous experiences with abortion?
If not, he does NOT need to know.
And while I hope you are able to conceive (and many women who have had abortions are still about to bring a baby to term), this is something you should discuss with your doctor...and there are plenty of free clinics out there to help you.
I wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-19 11:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not time for you to have more chidren.God will not give you more than you can handle.Don't be scareed.
2006-10-19 11:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋