I Just found out that my boyfriend has the garrage key to his son's moms house. he saids that the reason why he has it is because it has been a couple of times that his son forgets things that he needs and his mom is never home for him to just go in and get whatever he needs.( which is true his boy is always forgeting things specially because he plays alot of sports and there's always something missing from his Soccer/football/baseball bag) I know for a fact that my boyfriend would not cheat on me so its not that i am being insecure, I just feel wierd about the fact that he has full access to her house. He doesnt think that is a big deal and he said that it shouldnt bother me at all because i know that the only reason he has access to her place is for his son. I am over reacting?
2006-10-19 04:07:18 · 37 answers · asked by Angel Eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes. It's understandable though. It's one of those things that a person has to deal with when their partner has a child from a previous relationship. You have nothing to worry about trust me. When his son is old enough he should be the one that has the key and not your boyfriend. But for now this is the best solution to a problem that you know exists. If you trust him, don't worry.
2006-10-19 04:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not mean he is cheating, but it is a little weird! It would bug me! My ex husband and I have a great relationship, but if my daughter leaves something, I place it on the back porch so he can swing by and pick it up. If and when you and your boyfriend get close tell him it makes you feel uncomfortable that he has such free access to her home and you see it as free access to her life. Tell him you hate to be jealous, but you are a little bit. I have been married for four month to an amazing man. He has an ex wife. It would bother me to no end if he had a key to his ex's home. Now his thirteen year old daughter, who lives with us could have one. So, depending on the age of the child, maybe the key could be his sons responsibility when he visits dad. Good luck! Try not to let it bother you.....especially if you have found a great guy! I know it is hard.... Ex's should all move FAR away!
2006-10-19 04:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I'm glad you know and trust him which is key in a relationship. When there is a child involved however he is the main focus for your man and that's the way it should be. I would be concerned with this also, but if I knew that he wouldn't cheat on me then it would not be a big deal. I'm sure at first it is overwhelming and seems unreasonable. It must be a recent discovery, I wouldn't worry too much . Be there for the child and and talk with your man. I'm sure you'll get over this.
Good Luck!
2006-10-19 04:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Shelly7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a thing wrong with the man having a key. There could be many valid reasons for him to enter the home, or help the son get in.
2006-10-19 04:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said yourself that you trust him, so take it easy, buttercup. Actually, it's pretty cool that your boyfriend and his ex are cooperating in this manner for the sake of the son. I mean, he's not cleaning her house or mowing her lawn, right? He just gets stuff for the son, so it's not like he's still playing house with her. I can understand you being touchy about the ex, but it does seem like the key is only for the kid's benefit.
2006-10-19 04:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mo the treehugger! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to let you know. His ex will always be in his life. They had a child and as a parent he should have every right to be able to help him. Even if that means having a key to get in the house. His son lives their!!!
2006-10-19 04:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by reneeslong 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kind of.. You have a right to feel how ever you feel about thing you just need to try and understnd why you feel insecure. My ex has a key to my house and I have one to his. WE do share children and that is the only reason. Just like you said kids forget things. You just need to relax and think your lucky stars that she could still trust him enough to let him have a key. That says alot about maturity and a working co-parenting relationship.
2006-10-19 04:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Jax 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning a future with this boyfriend, you will need to learn trust. If he gives you a reason not to trust him, that's a different story. But the reason seems valid and you should understand that his son will always be his son, and there will be contact with her for that reason. Don't look for things to worry about.
2006-10-19 04:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you, nuts? Don't go there or he may give you the key and you will have to run back and forth getting stuff for the kid. I keep extra car keys for daughters and granddaughters as they are always locking themselves out of their vehicles. I walk lopsided from all the stupid keys I carry. The wife uses caller ID and won't answer the phone so she doesn't have to drop everything and go unlock a car.
2006-10-19 04:12:35 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only reason it would bother you is if he had access to her, right? it is not the stuff for his son you are worried about it is just is ex....but if you say you know for a fact he wouldn't cheat - (which sometimes it is hard to know because sometimes it just 'happens') then you shouldn't worry about it -- if he won't cheat, what else is there that he would want that you don't want him to have access to?
2006-10-19 04:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋