I've moved to Providence about two months ago and before i left I started talking to this girl, and she's awesome... I think the feelings are mutual, but i'm not sure...and I'm too shy to ask... how can i without being too straghtforward....ans if she does like me...is it too far? or do you think that it'lll work? She's two hours away....
2006-10-19 04:06:15 · 18 answers · asked by Chef Shortie 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
why is this posted in GLBT...i'll tell you why...I"M A LESBIAN!!!
2006-10-19 04:09:51 · update #1
Thanks guys...
I'll be more clear....
She's single too...
I'm 18 and she's 19
and she's in CT(good guess!)
2006-10-19 04:19:07 · update #2
Until you'll ask you will never know.But is it worth it? Time will show.
2006-10-19 04:11:16 · answer #1 · answered by kinga310 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey Shortie, I'm assuming that she either lives in mass or CT. If that's the case why don't you make a plan to go to one of the casinos together. You can go just as friends and see if anything develops. My Brother works at the Hard Rock and this is a great place to go on a Friday or Saturday. There is usually a band and the two of you can just sit and get to know each other. If you decide that you would like a quieter place to talk, go down to the Mezz...you don't have to be 21 and the atmosphere is good. Low lights, comfy intimate couches and great food. Not too expensive and the music is usually Techno or they have a D.J. If you go have a great time and let me know how it all turns out. I lived in Warwick for about 3 years and I danced at the Foxy, Providence is an Awesome city. I LOVED living there...
2006-10-19 11:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by skipper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't all that far away considering. Shyness is hard to overcome but there is only one way, communication. Take baby steps, give her a call and say hi, I'm settled in now, here's my new address, phone, whatever you want to give her. Have a housewarming and invite her. Ask her if she would like to go out for dinner(two hours is alittle too much for coffee), when you have established connection again.
If she's at all interested you will know. If she is, and things are progressing, invite her to come see Providence, she can stay with you, you'll sleep on the couch or you have a guest room. Pace yourself. If you never make the attempt you will never know what might have been. Believe me, in 20 years you will be kicking yourself.
2006-10-19 11:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1- Too shy to ask: May I suggest you continue to just get to know her then? And when the time is right, when either of you feels confident enough to ask about or mention feelings, then ask. But let your goal be to get to know each other well...take your time and use it as a chance to become more familiar with each other.
2- Too far? (2 hours away): I was talking w/ a friend the other day about this same situation, really. And I reminded him that my girlfriend's 17+ hours away by plane...and we're planning our wedding! So yeah, I'm a believer of long-distnace relationships.
How can it work? you communicate through phone, text messaging, internet (chat, voice chat, video chat), send stuff through the mail, and 2 hours away isn't bad...you can still visit at least a few times a month.
So I suggest: take your time, have hope, and work towards it.
I'll admit though...it's interesting that you (a fellow) are asking about a girl you like in this category (I saw the question before I saw the category).
2006-10-19 11:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Turmoyl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Shortie,
Perhaps find a event or show, or such about half way between the two of you, something maybe you both would be interested in. Then ask her if she would like to join you. keep it light and friendly. Also make sure she is not already seeing someone. Two hours is not that bad, to start with and grow with, just depends on how much your both willing to put into it.
Good luck, I will keep my fingers crossed for you.
2006-10-19 11:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The distance is really not a factor unless you make it one. Know a gal who's "Partner" lives in TX and she lives15 hours away from her.
Get a bit of a friendship going first, it will be less of a strain on your shyness. Then, if things are still looking up ask her out and YOU drive to her for the date. Keep it simple, slow and simple. Be a lot easier on the nerves.
Luck & Love
2006-10-19 11:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by dragon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if a relationship is in your future, it will have to be based upon communication. Why not start now? Tell her how you feel.
2006-10-19 11:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by William B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about writing her a poem (you can also copy one), on a nice paper and sent it to her by snail mail? Then see how she reacts.
2006-10-19 11:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being honest with your feelings.
Maybe say, "How would you feel about going on a date?"
2006-10-19 11:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In the beginning is like nectar, but in the end it will turn into poison. You will be frustrated. Don't get into it!
If you are willing to know more please write me down.
2006-10-19 11:11:39 · answer #10 · answered by aumklim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋