He's been talked to death - but what would you do? He developmentally slow (injury as a child) and doesn't understand "consequences", sees it all backwards - if you take something from him as punishment - he blames you for making a bad choice to take the item etc....HELP!
2006-10-19 04:00:17 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is going to be 15 soon, and I believe just pot. He's doing it because he wants to be cool - and its his other cousin (not my side of the fam) giving it to him.
He's in Taekwando and skate boarding. He won't be going to college - he's in a streamlined course to earn a IAP diploma - essentially an equivalency diploma.
2006-10-19 04:20:46 · update #1
talking only help his guilt but don't help him in the long run, What is your long term plan for this child?
is He going to college? What are you planning for him. If you aim low then he can never go higher then you aim. if you set a high standard then the worst case is he become a good health person.
don't let fear of punishment lack of discipline stop you. you need to give him a "tight" structure schedule in his life and follow that up with study and study and good work out.
good luck
2006-10-19 04:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're the guardian of your nephew I don't know why your panties are in a bunch about it.
If you are- than I feel very sorry for you because there is not much you can do. I suggest putting him into a bootcamp program or a government program (Call the courthouse for more information) in Washington they have a program where if the child runs away, skips school, is violent, they will be taken to Juvenille Hall for the night- its voluntary and it does not go on their record- its simply to discipline them. If you are the guardian, everyone who is disciplining him needs to be firm and concise about what is OK and what is not. It can't be OK to do this one day and than wrong to do it another- and it can't be 'mom says its ok' when 'dad says it not!'. And I wouldn't jump to conclusion about him seeing it backwards, your discipline can make him feel attacked therefore get defensive and close up, act unphased by your nagging. I suggest instead of "talking him to death" (my mother used to do that when I was growing up and thats why we don't have a relationship today and she will never meet her grand kids) I suggest supporting him the best you can, talking to him, trying to understadn why he's doing what he's doing- why is he taking drugs? Put him in rehab if he's addicted. Is he doing drugs to fit in? Are those his only friends? And he's probably skipping school with friends. If he's doing it by himself is it because he is frustrated in class, can't understand? Possibly he has ADHD or ADD and needs to be on medication so he can focus in class... He might need to be home schooled to get away from the bad crowd or tutored so he feels better about his education. Possibly introduce him to a hobby or sport that will take his mind off everything- have him do something he cares about (example: Football players have to make grade to play, if he loves football, he will care about school to a degree)... etc... Good luck.
And I want to reiterate again, if you aren't the guardian, butt out.
2006-10-19 11:10:06 · answer #2 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you considered having him in counseling? Or even a special school (not necessarily for developmental part). A school where they work more one-on-one and with less of an opportunity to leave and/or do drugs.
2006-10-19 11:06:16 · answer #3 · answered by sandysstyles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. what drugs is he taking and how old is he? It all depends on this, i am a teenager so i know why we do this kind of stuff. Answer those two questions and maybe i could give you some advice. and dont listen to that jackass before me
2006-10-19 11:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by sexyback69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, NO VIOLENCE IS NEEDED. Talk to him nicely, get those words into his head. Bring him to a psychological counsellor and let him realise that there are people around him who cares and love him.
Hope this helps.
2006-10-19 11:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rehab, psycologist, and smack that asssss
2006-10-19 11:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ground him and send him to drug rehab.
2006-10-19 11:01:51 · answer #7 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋