the other day she said that she would like to "hire me" for a few days. now, i am not sure if that means that she was going to pay me or not, but i babysit for her frequently, under different circumstances, and she always insists that i take pay. i work daily as well, and she doesn't know this yet, but i am taking off work for 3 days so i can be at her house all day.
i'm 17, and i have 7 pets, and my job helps me have money to take care of them. now, they won't starve to death if i take off work for that amount of time, but i'll be losing 3 days worth of pay.
what should i do?
2006-10-19 03:54:49 · 21 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
it's not a normal sickness.
a few years back, she had a brain tumor removed. and she is still dealing with after-effects.
2006-10-19 04:02:00 · update #1
and i want to help her! and it's not like it's hard work, her baby is an angel!
so i dunno. lol
2006-10-19 04:02:46 · update #2
Take the money if she offers it to you. You are doing something wonderful and she is rewarding you for it. As long as you are there for her then its not rude to take pay.
you are doing a great thing!
2006-10-19 05:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her about it - just say, "You know what I am going to do? I am going to take a few days off of work so I can help you...." and so on - Then she might offer something that will work for both of you -- if she said hire that means $$ - it may not be as much as you are used too but somethings things mean more than money....she will always remember you were there wen she needed someone and that can always pay off in the future if not right now....
2006-10-19 10:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This woman obviously trusts you, and if she was a good and dear friend of mine, I would have no hesitation in taking 3 days off to look after her baby. As long as it is only 3 days. She probably couldnt pay you as much as you would earn in your job. You say she doesnt know you have a day job, so you need to tell her first and say you would be happy to take the 3 days off to help her out, but you couldnt afford to do it for any longer than that. Maybe if she knew you had a day job she wouldnt even ask you.
It is totally up to you, but I get the impression she is not as much a friend than someone who you babysit for. If you are concerned you are going to lose money by looking after her baby, then you need to consider if it will cause you any hardship. If it will then you just cannot do it. I am sure there could be other people she could ask, and maybe because she doesnt know you have another job, she may think she is doing you a favour by offering to pay you to look after her baby. If she is a dear friend, then like I said I would have no hesitation in doing it.....as long as it didnt cause me any financial hardship.
2006-10-19 11:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well normally when someone says that they want to hire you that means that you are going to get paid for it.. discuss this with her and find out if it is going to be worth taking days off from your job.. If not try to find someone that doesn't work and that you think will be responsible enough to help out with her child.
Don't let it be a hardship on you and taking care of your own responsibilitys..
do what you think is best for you..
I know you said she is a family friend so there should be others in the family that can help out too.. so do what you can..
2006-10-19 11:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the pay, since you are giving up your time that you would be working otherwise - plus, she offered. See it as a win win for both of you: she will be getting someone she trusts to care for her baby (instead of hiring though some kind of temp service - she would be paying anyway, but not know the person), and you will be getting a bonus to do a good thing for a friend.
2006-10-19 11:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by nixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her know that you are taking the time off of work to babysit her baby, and if shes paid you in the past she more then likely pay you for babysitting without having to be asked because she sounds like a nice friend.
2006-10-19 16:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have a history of taking money from her for babysitting, you shouldn't feel awkward in the least when she pays you to care for the child during her illness.
She is probably feeling grateful and relieved that you are someone that she knows and trusts and will care for the baby well!
Kudos to you for helping your friend out. Especially taking 3 days off from work to do it! Don't feel guilty about taking the money!!!
2006-10-19 10:58:04 · answer #7 · answered by catherine02116 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is crazy that you took off 3 days to help her out... but that is also being a good friend. IF it was me i would not be taking off work to do this...and my best friend would understand that...but the same token too i would definitely be there when i go off work to see what she needed... That is why family is there to help. I would see if her mom or someone can watch the baby till you get off work or something.. .remember you have a life and you can't put it on hold because someone gets sick... i am sure she will understand that...
2006-10-19 10:59:15 · answer #8 · answered by DO IT! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the $$, let your family friend do what is right and pay for the care of her baby. If you have issues with this, use the $$ to buy something for the baby she needs.
2006-10-19 10:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, if you are giving up 3 days of work to care for the child/children you should get paid. Ask her for money.......this is not fair to you at all. As I see it........you are being taken advantage of now. When she insists that you take the pay, you TAKE it !!! You deserve it !!! Get paid for those 3 days OK?
Good Luck !!!
2006-10-19 11:00:00 · answer #10 · answered by DERLANDSON 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋