Why do men still lie about having an affair, even when they are confronted with the evidence?

Question

Even when you have pictures, and other proof that they are cheating on you, why do they still lie, deny it, and try and act like you are the crazy jealous one.

Answer 1

The lie because to them that still isn't proof. Its not real proof until your standing there seeing it with your own eyes, and sad to say even then they'll try to make up something.
But what exactly are you looking for in this question?
You have all the proof...The question should be why do you stay?
You need to shake things up a bit since it seems as if you want to stay. I bet if you start doing your own thing, he'll have a fit. You see it's okay for them to cheat, but if they even think that your doing something they will flip.
Change up your pattern, he probably knows your every move...change it up. I'm not telling you to cheat, but I am tellin you to play the game.
Act like your too busy, take the long way home,
when he calls don't always answer, make him wait.
Change up your pattern with just doing a little sometimes can make big changes.

Answer 2

Men by nature are meant to be the boss. Men believe women are the weaker sex and always try to remain the stronger one. Just like an employer will want a marketer that can sell ice to the Eskimos, denying an affair even when confronted with evidence is a way of proving the men race the stronger and smarter sex.

I will like it to be noted that not all men indulge in this, a man that is God fearing will naturally apologize and try doing better. it means such a man is not rotten in that act and can be salvaged. A man that consistently deny such allegation is a man that is dead in that act and will take the grace of God to be salvaged. I will advise the woman that is hooked with such a man to either deal with it or quit the relationship as the man is not willing to repent.

Answer 3

Why all the lies ? Sometimes, he doesn't know how to end your agony over losing him and is all torn up inside over doing what is best for everyone concerned. Your family, his family . . . but most important of all, it is you, his woman. He really does love you. If he didn't, all those fights and arguments would not be happening. It is the fear of hurting you that scares him. The fear turns to anger when you become angry and show the pain you have for what you don't understand. You feel betrayed, and you lash out at him for betraying you. The denial, the lies, are a survival mechanism to keep from going completely nuts . . . It is extremely hard for him, too. All the counseling ? You know he really tried as hard as you did. But the fact still remains. The two of you have grown apart due to nobody's fault. Just the way it is. The other reasons are child custody, and alimony judgment all are negatively affected by extramarital affairs.

Answer 4

That's a very good question. My friend's husband was cheating with someone who WAS a member of our group of friends. Most everyone had heard of things happening between the two, but no one had really SEEN anything. The wife caught him red handed at the married couples house. The guy denied it at first but finally admitted it. I don't get it. If you are caught, then you are caught so just fess up to it. Maybe it has to do with the fact that men don't want to believe that they CAN get caught and go into denial and try to blame shift. I'll never understand it. I am so very sorry this happened to you. No woman deserves to go through something like that.

Answer 5

Those men are banking on the fact that they WILL be believed and it's easier for them to try to turn the tables than to admit what they've done. They have learned this behavior sometimes works, from pulling it on other women,and they probably pulled it on their moms many years ago when caught for something else. Unfortunately, some women DO believe the lies and let the cheating continue.

Answer 6

2 possibilities.
Either the evidence sucks (taken out of context, alot of things can seem one way or be another! Example: Pictures of me out with my best guyfriend at dinner... a shot night show its just us two at dinner... another shot could be of us hugging as we say goodbye)
OR its because the guy thinks he's sly enough to convince you that its not the way it seems. I've confronted a guy about lying and all he kept saying was "I don't know what you're talking about." I pressed (calmly- thats key so he doesn't get too defensive and shut down) and finally he admitted it and felt terrible. People are like that.. caught lying they'll try to cover it up

Answer 7

I TOTALLY know what you mean. They all do it! It's like why can't they just come out and admit that THEY did wrong and not you. They always have to put the blame on someone else. Every man that I have been with was this way. I am sorry I dont have an answer for you, but I thought it would help that someone else feels the same way.

Answer 8

If you have been the jealous type in the past... he knows he can use that now... putting the spot light on your jealousy... trying to take the heat off him... and posing that this is all in your head... He got caught with his pants down... he know it... I'ld quit talking to him about and kick his A**ss to the curb...

If he admitted to it immediately after you confronting... and began to show remorse... saying it wouldn't happen again and him being sincere... I would tell you to consider working it out... So... being that he is a big chicken... walk away... you can do better... there are men out there that aren't pure pieces of SH##it.
Hope this helped!!!!

Answer 9

People lie for one simple major reason...out of FEAR.

Fear of being found out.
Fear of heavy confrontation.
Fear of being guilty.
Fear of being punished.
And the worst of all,
Fear of not being accepted and lose the one they love.

So, it is no surprise when men lie about their affairs, they will try to divert the problem to their women. Hence, the problem now lies on the women and women are now in the limelight. So, the men will have the easier way out of their lies.

Answer 10

Because nine times out of ten we women want so bad to stay with our man that we are willing to accept anything they say. Even with proof of the infidelity we will make excuses. Men are such smooth talkers that they can sometimes convince us that what we saw wasn't really what we saw. The famous switching it around on us is how they manage to do that. That is only because like I said earlier we "love" them so much that we are willing to overlook it...sometimes. If you are smart you will get out and quick because it won't end and you are putting yourself at risk.