It's 4 months down the line and It still hurts so much He feels the same way but we are both doing the 'right thing' by staying away from each other.
2006-10-19 03:48:47 · 17 answers · asked by Ellie G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
for me and mine its 4 years down the road, and it still hurts sometimes. for your sanity, you have to let go.you have to move on with your life and tell yourself you will be together someday, if it's meant to be. keep busy, keep bettering yourself. make your life into something you can be proud of, grow everyday. that way if you guys have a chance to be together someday, you will be giving him the new and improved version of the one he fell in love with so long ago....
either that or you say screw doing whats right and just go get him!
2006-10-19 04:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am seperated from my wife. I am not over the hump yet, but what has helped me is getting some finality, some closure.
You need to work out with the person, if you definately are not going to see each other anymore. Once you can get your head around that as a committment, it is easier to move on.
It is crucial to 'take control of your thoughts'. When you begin thinking about him, turn your attention to something else, a new hobby, old/new friends, work, planning a social event or the weekend, exercise, whatever... keep busy. I
have also found prayer helps for a broken heart, i.e. 'The Lord is healing my heart', or if you are not religious, 'my heart is being healed'. Keep positive thoughts going through your mind.
Best of luck!
2006-10-19 04:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. It's been 17 years since I've seen him. We both went separate ways, both got married, had kids. I was lucky enough to track him down through the inter-net and we've been able to have a really nice friendship. We talk about once a week or so and it's nice.
In the beginning it was very hard, but you move on somehow. Things will get better for you are meant to be together, you will be. I guess to really be able to answer your question, why can't you be together?
Good luck to you.
2006-10-19 05:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by breezygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in love with someone right now that I can't "really" be with. It has gone on for 2 years now. I know he is the one, but I also know that he will never leave the "other woman" Do yourself a favor, seek happiness. The "right" thing is not always the best thing. If you really can't be with this person, do whatever you can to make it work with the one you are with. If you are really in love, then distance may not be the cure.
2006-10-19 06:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Whoagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am there for 12 years now. It never stops hurting. I have been to therapy, taken meds, etc. I will always love this man no matter what and it hurts so damn bad.
I feel for you, because I know what it's like.
I am involved with someone, but noone can ever take his place. I have tried. It's no use.
I wish I had more encouraging words for you, but I am where you are nly 11 years and 8 months ahead of you.
Much love
2006-10-19 04:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going thru the same thing, it has been almost 2 years. I am sorry but there is no quick fix for this, and no time does not heal all wounds! I began serving God and thru Christ I have found a peace to accept the way my life has to be. Now I still ask God to send me a mate. I suppose God is making me wait for a reason and thru knowing that I can trust that He knows best and that is what I want for my life. Also thru this I have realized how to be a better spouse or GF for my man (when I get one) I have learned and grown to be a better person... Be Blessed, I`ll remember you in my prayers... ..Rev.Susan
2006-10-19 03:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by Susan Beck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world...my ex and I still feel the same for each other and he has already moved on..(actaully he cheated on me with the girl and they are still together but having lots of problems..hehehehe) but everytime we get around each other we get to talking about what could have been and whatever. We have two children together so I am forced to see him all the time, but there is still a lot of feelings that we both still have for each other but we know that we can't be together it just doesn't work. But it does get easier I promise...just hang in there and be strong and will all be ok. You just need to keep yourself busy..
2006-10-19 03:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by MLP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through it now. It is hard. I guess the best advise I can give is know that you can love however, reasons that we sometimes don't understand keep people from being together. In time your heart will place him in a different place. He may always be a part of you but allow room so when it is time for the guy who does belong there to be able to fit. chin up..............
2006-10-19 03:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by cutetoes68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm there with a close friend of the family. I don't want to ruin our family relationships, so I backed off. Now, I am not thinking about her so much, but her flirting still makes me somewhat interested!
2006-10-19 03:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does hurt and it well hurt for awhile but if ur meant to be together u well be together if not u well find ur self find other people that u like and that u can get along with alot better and be happy again.So keep ur head up !!
2006-10-19 03:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by melissa_werner2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋