I've been in this relationship for over 7 years and I love this lady very much and she tells me every day that she loves me but for over 3 years there has been next to nothing in the bedroom,like mabe 10 times if that she is going through the change and I can see its hard on her and I try to support her but I need some understanding also I don't want to lose her but I don't want to live like this forever.We have talked but it hasn't done any good.She has been to the dr.s we've tryed herbs, health food stores even the internet and nothings helped her.So if anyone has some good advice I'm willing to listen.Thank you
2006-10-19 03:39:15 · 11 answers · asked by lonewolf 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe you should try to approach this situation in a different way.
She obviously knows how you feel, and she is probably feeling as is she is the one who create this whole problem. Were as she didn't, it is just how life is for a women. So maybe you should not to seem so upset by the fact that you haven't got any action lately. Spoil her, treat her like a real queen, go for long romantic walks, take her out for supper some where she has never been.Romantic picnics, When she comes home from work run her a bath, light some candles, play soft music in the back round, offer her a glass of wine. Try to make her feel special in other words.
She is going through a very difficult part of her life right now. Some women are Lucky, they don't suffer so badly. But come on try a little harder. And just maybe you could get a surprise.
And if that doesn't help. Ask a Dr what you could do to help ease
things. Well Good luck
2006-10-19 03:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, some will say that bedroom activity is very important, and some will say it's not. The bottom line is it's always important in the beginning for the new excitement of everything and to see if your compatible, but then later it kinda falls to the side a little as you move into different levels of yourself and your relationship. That is OKAY!! how is the rest of the relationship? that will give sing of the truth. Sexual activity and it's level it's a personal need your dealing with, if you feel you have higher needs then she does, then do what you have too to deal with that because you can't change her an trying too will only add stress and tension to the relationship...I say let it go and it will work itself out in all due time.
2006-10-19 03:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by distalbicept 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to pursue alternatives and couples therapy. u will hear things u dont want 2 but may need to make adjustments to ur life as well. u also need her committment to do this.
explore alternative means of sexual gratification with her. if she is not willing to pursue these things u might have to go because that is a long lonely road to go. but for love's sake u have 2 try really hard to get past it. dry spells happen. stress, worry, isolation from family or friends, does she have a confidant or outlet in her life? So many things could be hurting HER that could be keeping u out.
2006-10-19 03:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by cyberdjunk69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman and if you were my husband I would say it is okay to get it elsewhere as long as thats all thats going on. Maybe even be there when it happens just to be sure. Who knows, maybe that would add some excitement and help. But I am a little strange like that so don't expect many women to feel the same way.
2006-10-19 03:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by junebug501 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on her age she may be going through the "change of life" if not, at least she is going to the dr for help.
I'm not ready for marriage myself but I would not give more than 3 yrs of my life to one guy, that is well enough time to know if we should marry or not.
10 times over 3 yrs will not work for me but if you can handle that and continue to be faithful to her and always love her, then give it your all.
But you need to truly investigate to find out if it is a health issue or a lack of interest.
2006-10-19 03:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, then leaving her is definitely not going to help her at all. If you truly care about her health and well-being you'll be patient and be there for her as much as possible. Three years is a while to wait so maybe you could talk to her about doing things that won't make her uncomfortable. Sex can be done in many ways.
2006-10-19 03:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Ally S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you read the book called THE SECRET OF FAMILY HAPPINESS a very pratical and reliable book. It has helped many couples. You can ask it from one of Jehovah's witnesses.
2006-10-19 03:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by justpristine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember the old saying, "The grass might appear greener in the other pasture, but is it really"?
2006-10-19 03:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw all of that natural homeopathic crap. Two word for both of you..... Hormone therapy!
2006-10-19 03:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u should not end it
2006-10-19 03:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by michelle_flame_blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋