How do you end a relationship with a friend that takes, takes, takes and gives nothing in return?

Answer 1

You can pretend he/she died.
If he calls, don't answer. If he comes over, don't answer the door.
If he bothers you at work, tell your supervisor that you need to file harassment charges if he doesn't leave you alone. Your supervisor will tell his boss to intervene.
Don't go to places you both go, for a little while, so he doesn't BUMP into you. After a few weeks, if you run into him/her you can smile =nod= and keep moving-like you thought you saw a ghost.
It takes some discipline on your part, not to give in, but it is a small price to pay to get a user out of your life.
This person is EITHER your friend or a user. Can't be both.
A friend is not interested in take, take, and not giving. Sometimes any relationship may be a little un-equal, like if that other person is having some personal problems, but eventually YOU get to be the one being helped and taken care of.
If it is really lop-sided, what are YOU getting out of being in the deal at all?
I had a girlfriend of 20 years who started drinking a lot. She knew she was having a problem and just kept going. Then she started drinking and driving herself home. Her daughter and I, and getting into accidents. Finally, she got a DUI and dropped out of college, and just deteriorated. When she got the DUI, I told her if she would let me drive her, I would go to AA with her.
I finally told her that I couldn't stand seeing her kill herself, and that I loved her, and would be her friend forever, but I had to stay out of her life until she decided to get help.
I hear from her daughter about twice a year, and that is it.
It is heart-breaking, but I felt like she was too addicted. She wasn't my friend anymore. She was a bag of bones with a beer bottle attached to her face. SAD

Answer 2

If its a friend that you care about I wouldn't suggest ending the relationship. I would say why don't you talk to them and let them know that you feel as though all they do is take and don't give anything in return. If the problem persist then end it but only after you give it a try. Nothing beats a failure but a try my friend. And if at first you don't succeed you try, try and try again. You defenitely don't want to end something you never gave a chance to work. I hope it all works out for you and wish you the best in whatever you decide to do.

Answer 3

Well you at least answer the question as to why you need to end this relationship. Now how??? Do a face to face with this person. Tell him or her that because this relationship is so one sided that it is not good for you and you do not want to be friends with them anymore. If they ask why have examples of the taking and never giving. Then do not call them, no e-mails no contact. If you do happen to run into them, be polite but no more. Leave and do something else. Be firm in your commitment if this is really what you want to do.

Answer 4

Be honest and put all your cards on the table. It may hurt at first but in the end, you'll probably see that it was the right thing to do. It's not right that you give and give and give and recieve nothing in return. That person obviously doesnt care about your feeling enough to give you what you need in return for you helping them.

Answer 5

You have two choices.
1) tell them directly to their face that you feel they drain you of energy by taking all the time and you need a break or
2) you can be casual in pulling away, by not being free whenever they invite you to join them at events ie: "I'm busy" "Got other plans", etc Eventually they'll get the message.

Answer 6

well, usually we do things because we want to do them, but we ask nothing in return but a little gratitude.

on the other hand there the opportunists...take and take, and take ... that's not fair now is it... it is not a true friend, but before you decide that .. put your friend to the test by revealing these feelings. we' ll see

Answer 7

Wow, I had that same problem.
I just stopped calling, stopped answering, stopped making plans, and made myself really busy, until eventually she moved. But if I had more courage, I wish I had told her off..... that she was a total leech, all she did use people and all she cared about was herself. She was stuck up and had never been a true friend to me.
So maybe if you just tell her off, you wont regret Not telling her off like i do! Good luck!

Answer 8

Every relationship is suppose to be reciprocal. give and receive in return. so if you dont receive from a friend, simply stop giving and watch what will happen. perhaps he might realize.

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Answer 9

Well, if he/she is just a friend tell them you don't want to see them anymore. If that's too blunt, then tell them you're busy when they want something; don't answer their phone calls, go out with new friends, etc.
Eventually they should get the idea. If that doesn't work, go back to my first sentence.

Answer 10

Well,simple! Try to ask something from him/her.You may not have gotten anything from him/her because he/she feels that you don't need it.This time,let him/her know that you wanna feel loved through that gesture.He/she may be so immature to realize it yet.Anyhow if he/she could not satisfy that longing of yours,then tell him/her to give you enough space this time.You may explain it (everything)to him/her,that's fine.As long as he's/she's aware that you need to be filled up because you already feel emptiness in your heart."Open rebuke is better than secret love."So,go ahead! open up with him/her now.