What is love and marraige about or being inlove and married?
I feel like My husband and I dont really have any chemistry, or no passion, or romance, and I try to show him, telling him what I want, and just pointing out little scenes on tv, etc. but he just doesn't get it. He says I'm a follower and gullable, and I know I'm not.. We have known each other for 10yrs, and all he knows is how I was when I was younger, yes I was gullable and naive, we all were at some point in our younger age and so was he, but I came a long way, and i dont trust anybody, and i dont agree with everything people say. I have my own mind and thoughts, but he I feel he doesnt see me for the woman I am today. I think our age has alot to do with it. We're 10yrs apart, him being older. Could it be the age??? I just feel that if I can see his growth, why cant he see mine? and I'm so ready to give up on this marraige.of only 1 1/2 yrs.. b/c I cant go on this way. I know love comes in many forms, even the smallest.
2006-10-19 03:24:32 · 6 answers · asked by Sicilian Princess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love is a profound feeling of tender affection for or intense attraction to another. It is considered a deep, ineffable feeling shared in passionate or intimate interpersonal relationships. However, in different contexts, the word love has a variety of related but distinct meanings: in addition to romantic love, which is characterized by a mix of emotional and sexual desire, other forms include Platonic love, religious love, familial love, and the more casual application of the term to anyone or anything that one considers strongly pleasurable, enjoyable, or desirable, including activities and foods. This diverse range of meanings in a single word is commonly contrasted with the plurality of Greek words for love, reflecting the word's versatility and complexity.
Although clearly and consistently defining love is a difficult task, and often a subject of much debate, different aspects of the word can be clarified by determining what isn't "love". As a general expression of positive sentiment (a stronger form of like), love is commonly contrasted with hate (or neutral apathy); as a less sexual and more "pure" form of romantic attachment, love is commonly contrasted with lust; and as an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, love is commonly contrasted with friendship, though other definitions of the word love may be applied to close friendships in certain contexts.
2006-10-19 04:43:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, being in love is waking in the morning, looking over at your partner, & smiling to yourself because they're there.
My wife & I are 11 years apart, but this doesn't stop the romance. I personally hate tv scenes that portray the 'right' way to interact with one another: that's just a script writers version of what will sell ratings: the real world is very different. Hell, if there's too much coming from the tv into your lives then throw the thing out, or break the remote: your lives together are more important than that.
2006-10-19 10:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all about you, isn't it?
You seem to lack attention and seem inmature and unnable to adjust to your life. Life is not what the movies portray, that is popcorn sellers done by actors, buy the don't depict normal life.
Love is endurance, respect, commitment and long lasting companionship, do you think that romances in movies would last in real life? You are confused between fantasy and reality.
Did you got married because you wanted to big party and the white dress? The party is OVER princess so get over it; welcome to life after the honeymoon.
If you are STILL looking for movie-like romances... good luck. They don't exist. Don't ruin your marriage pursuing things that don't exist.
If you are bored and need attention, then get a job o get a hobbie. Volunteer in a woman's shelter and see how lucky you really are.
If you still feel that your relationship is lacking connection, I suggest marriage counseling, for you to see the BIG picture and for him to learn how to cope with your needy self.
Good luck
2006-10-19 10:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
being married isn't always easy. my husband and i have struggled a lot, and have been married only 2 years. it is definitely easier to see my husbands faults than his good points, and vise versa. we recently went to a seminar to hear a guy named Emmerson Eggerich talk about his book, Love and Respect (in marriage). it is helping our relationship already, after just 3 weeks. i would strongly recommend his book. it is helping me to see my husband in a different light, and understand him a little better. the jist of the book is learning how to respect our husbands, which causes them to love us in return. i wish you the best- God bless
2006-10-19 10:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by cupcake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no real answer to this question but what I have learned of what love is to me and that is the word LOVE itself holds the answer.......
(L)isten: and validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.
2006-10-20 13:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree wholeheartedly with BLUNT. Grow up.
2006-10-19 11:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋