I really love my best friend. Beyond the point of being "best friends" I really want a relationship with him. When I think of him I think about what it would be like to just be with him. I when I go to bed at night I think about what it would feel like falling asleep and waking up in his arms. Every time I hug him I feel like I want to just hold on forever. Kinda like I want to be a part of him. When ever he's talking to me, I just want to start kissing him. I have his picture on my wall, and whenever I look it it makes me smile. He can cheer me up without even being there. When he was going though some stuff and he was feeling down, I was crying for him. I love him so much. I know that I shouldn't be feeling this strongly for someone, but I can't help but feeling like he is an important part of my world. I feel like my heart could explode with all this love I have for him if I don't do something about it. How do I tell my best friend of 5 years that I am so in love with him?
2006-10-19 03:08:17 · 33 answers · asked by Alexia S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
LONG QUESTION
THE ANSWER IS SIMPLE
JUST TELL HIM
2006-10-19 03:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pardon the ignorance, but it is never made explicitly in your post that you are female. I am working on the assumption that you are. The next assumption I am going to make is that you and your best friend are both over the legal age of consent - your post is written in a surprisingly mature style, unlike a lot of the drivel on this site. If either of these assumptions are incorrect, then you have a nightmare on your hands - I can't help, and neither can anyone else.
So, the answer is simple. You hug him all the time, as you say in your post, and he accepts that. Next time you do so, kiss him. Easy. The move from hug to kiss is a simple and natural one, and his reaction will tell you everything you need to know.
Good luck.
2006-10-19 03:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by ANGUS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. I had been friends with this guy since we were 4 years old. I felt the same way. First what I did, was I told him how I felt. I know it hard but you have to. Its not fair to you to keep feelings surpressed. Reassure him time and time again that if he doesnt return those feelings towards you, thats ITS OKAY. Let him know there will be no hard feelings, and no akwardness. Who knows, he might just like you back.
I dated my best friends for 6 months. It was great, he was my first boyfriend. And we loved eachother so much. Sometimes i wonder why it didn't work, but now I see that it simply wasnt meant to be. We still are best friends today.
Whatever you, don't loose this great friendship, don't EVER loose wat you have now.
2006-10-19 03:13:09 · answer #3 · answered by Misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its like only 10 % of the time that will work out with best friends the sadest part is the best friendship gets lost in all of it
BUT hey maybe you are in the 10 % i really wish that is the case
i cant tell you what to do anymore then the next person
if he's your best friend you should be able to talk to him about anything which i am sure you have already
good luck ......... sorry for the sucky advice
2006-10-19 08:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by terry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could tell him but what if he doesnt feel the same, could your friendship go back to the way it was. If you get together and it doesnt work out you could lose him forever.
but what if you dont tell him and he feels the same and you miss out on something brilliant?
I had the same experience a few year ago and felt exactly the same about my best friend. He was a fantastic friend but the worst boyfriend ive ever had , we havent spoken in years and hopefully wont ever have to again. Im sorry i took the chance
2006-10-19 03:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by danni.k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you a happy ending to this one.....
I am with my best friend of 16 years now...
We met when we were 11 years old and become best friends immediately we then got together at 16 and are stil together now at 27.. My best friend, my soul mate who I plan to marry soon.
I truly believe that there is that 1 person out there for everyone so do not miss your 1... TELL HIM! It sounds to me that you have a fantastic relationship and it can only get better believe me.
Good luck keep me informed!
K x
2006-10-19 03:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by Updowndizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u seem to be deeply in love with him..what u should do is talk to him nicely..try to give him signals that u love him...flirt with him a little bit..but not too much..i guess he wouldnt mind since he's ur bestfriend..then try to get closer to him..like walk with him everywhere, tell him sweet words..tell him what type of guy u like..(what u describe must suit ur bestfriend so that he knows he's the type of guy u liked)..from then on he should be getting the hint already..if he show's no interest in u then its either u look for another guy or keep on trying to win his heart..it all depends on ur will..support him when he's in trouble or being teased.show how much u care for him..then when its the right time tell him that u like him..n see whats his reply..
good luck n hope he accepts u
2006-10-19 03:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling because I am in love with one of my friend too. but he is in a relationship so that is a no no . you should find out how he feels about you first. you could start by saying "do you find that I am attractive and if we where not good friends would you go out with me" see how he takes it. and you would know where to go from there.
P.S I wish you luck and i hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-19 03:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be in love with you but frightened that your friendship might be spoilt by a sexual relationship which does not last.Ask him questions like what is your favourite place and what is your favourite thing to do.If the answers fit with your ideas go on to questions like who would you like to spend more time with.Help him to realise that the most wonderful thing in the world is to be in love with your best friend.It worked for me but it took about two years before we risked a full relationship.After that it was for life.
2006-10-19 04:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gently!!! Ask him if he has had any similiar feelings that you feel for him. Tell him that yall have been close for a long time. Make sure you are ready for him to say that he might not have the same feelings.Then let him know exactly how you feel, just the way you typed it here! GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-10-19 03:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by lwaite74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem in my life and it sucks...we are so close and i feel as if i dont want to ruin that. but you have to tell him cause one day he is going to be gone in that way, scooped up by another girl that makes him feel like he makes you feel. you have to take a chance before its too late. you never know he may feel the same.
2006-10-19 03:49:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋