My husband has not touched me in 2 weeks and it makes no sense!! Our sex life has always been bad, but now it's worse! When I ask him why, he says, "sex is not the most important thing". And now it's the playoffs for the Mets, so I guess I won't be having sex for another week or more! What is wrong with him? We don't fight often and it's not like I am disgusting either, so I'm just not sure what his issue could be...any ideas?
2006-10-19 03:05:25 · 29 answers · asked by Michelle10477 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like hes messing around. Is he gone alot?
2006-10-19 03:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could try being spontaneous, make it a lil more exciting for him, as well as you. Have you tried talking to him and asking him what the deal is. Sex is a very emotional, very important part of any marriage. Was sex before you got married bad as well? by your comment "Our sex life has always been bad...." Does that mean from the very begining that you started having sex? If you don't argue often, and hes not being sneaky, and you have no other reason to be suspicious, then I would not worry...because things should seem normal. Maybe he is insecure about his performance in the bedroom, or maybe he expects more than what he is getting? Not to step on your toes of course. I hope all is well soon.
I took a look at your other questions as well, if you have a 9 1/2 month old and are newly pregnant with another, wow, sounds like your sex life aint too shabby!! You must be getting it at least sometimes! Maybe he is worried about hurting the baby with sex while you are pregnant. Even though I told my husband sex is great while you are pregnant, he was still....how can I put it.....very gentle, when I got it at all. Just a thought. Maybe your hubby is looking at the best interest of someone besides himself!! Very unlike a man, but it seems possible.
2006-10-19 10:15:55 · answer #2 · answered by Amber L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 2 possible answers to this. first let me start by saying I was married and I got divorced after a year and 4 months. I don't know you or him obviously (hardest thought to swallow but....) it's possible he has someone on the side for sex only because you satisfy him in all other aspects. Another is he just doesn't have a normal sex drive. If sex was never a big role in your relationship then after some time it would dissipate. In the same sense when 2 people who started having lots of sex at the start and then slows down on doing the nasty. Unfortunately for you, you already started with minimal sex so as time went on the usual dissipation of sexual encounters that always occurs brings your relationship, the sex part, to a halt. Have you tried being a little forceful? not being a dominatrix or anything just being a little aggressive....I know I enjoy that. Good luck.
Peace
2006-10-19 10:16:45 · answer #3 · answered by no-it-all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to say I have no idea how you feel considering my husband has NEVER, EVER denied me sex, we're even going to have sex at the 7th inning stretch tonight. The only thing I can think of is he's cheating or losing interest. Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but it's really important. Don't worry, it's not you, it's him!!
2006-10-19 17:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men get bored with sex if it's the same old thing time after time. I 've never been bored with sex with my wife. Because she will do things to make it more enjoyable. For example, she will say and do things that make me feel like I'm hung like a horse, although I know I'm not. But she will go out of her way to make it seem more incredible that it actually is. And we've been married for 25 years and I have no reason to cheat. Before her, I'd been with a lot of women and none of them can measure up to her in the bedroom.
If he's not cheating you need to spice it up a little. You'll enjoy it more and I think you'll be pleasantly surprised yourself.
Loosen up.
2006-10-19 10:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Cal 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Low libido can be caused by several different things. Is he taking any new medications? Does he have problems at work? Is he stressed out a lot? Is he depressed? Any medical conditions?
The list goes on forever. Whatever you do don't take it personal.
If none of the things I listed seem to be a problem for him. You are going to have to talk about it seriously. If he cannot satisfy you in this area you are in for a looooooooong marriage. I suggest you get couples counseling and make sure there aren't any underlying problems you aren't aware of or are ignoring.
Wish i had a quick fix but just being sexy or romantic candle lit dinners and lingerie aren't going to solve this problem.
This is something you are going to have to work on as a couple.
Good luck!
2006-10-19 10:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's having sex with someone else. Well seriously two weeks is not that long. Ive heard of couples not having sex for months, thats where I would begin to question his fidelity. My fiance and I go through spurts where we dont make love either. I think you need to let your husband know you are a woman and you have physical needs and wants. As your partner in life he should turn the tv off and take the time satisfy you, even if he isn't necessarily in the mood. He should want to please you and want to make you happy. On the same note you have to respect his wishes as well. And dont forget women go through their sexual peak later on in life.
2006-10-19 10:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by nefertiti186 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to agree with most of the answers posted.
1. He is either gay or 2. He is cheating on you.
I would suggest making more of an effort on him for sex. Wear sexy clothing for him, heels and stockings should do it. Try fondling him or performing oral sex on him when he is not expecting it. Maybe even while he is watching TV. He will have the best of both world’s sex and sports. If he still turns you down I would keep better tabs on him because it sounds like someone else is.
(No man would ever turn down receiving oral sex)
2006-10-19 10:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by JazzMan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hes either too tired,,or hes into other things at this time. My man and i dont have sex all the time,,and we are in love....and yes there are other things besides sex in a relationship. We cant be in the mood all the time. Me personally i love sex all the time so if hes slacking then i just take it from him;
2006-10-19 10:10:07 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's cheating. What guy in this world refuses sex any sex? I don't think there is none. Do some investigating. I hope I'm wrong in your case but this is the first sign. Good luck!
2006-10-19 10:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Michelle, what are the chances that your husband may be gay? That is if you are sure he is not cheating on you. I know that's not what you want to hear, but it is better to be prepared. why don't you ask him straight what is going on? Don't be satisfied with his lame excuses of sex not being that important. I wish you luck and sincerely hope I'm wrong.
2006-10-19 10:44:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋