what would you say to console a friend when a young relative is dying?

Answer 1

There's not much you can say, really. Just honestly tell them that you don't know what to say, but that you'll always be there if they need to talk or just to cry it out.

Answer 2

I lost my 16 year old cousin 4 years ago. Its hard for anyone to say anything that helps. They need to understand that is what is in their plan. Whether you are religious or not I believe things happen in our lives for the right reasons. My cousin had cancer he was better off not suffering. Once he passed his parents went through a messy divorce, his dad had an affair and remarried. He is better off not being here to see what his parents have been up to. As sad as it is its part of his plan. It might not seem that way today, but one day you will see what the reason was. Something like that brings a family closer together. Maybe its the answer to help a family in trouble. There is always a reason for a persons passing be that when they are young or old.

Answer 3

The best thing you could ever say is nothing. I know it sounds strange, but some people would rather have a friend be by their side in this situation, while others want consoling words. I don't know your friend, but I think you should be at her side at all times. Isn't that what friends are for?

Answer 4

When a friend's loved one is dying there really isnt much that you can say to console them, all you can do is be there for them, talk to them, tell them that you will be there if they want to talk, never say it will get easier, because it doesnt, it just gets easier to cope with, a little.

If they know that you truely care, and are upset for them, then they will feel a little comfort. Be a friend.

Answer 5

Oh boy, i dont think that there is really much that you can say that is going to make that much difference, all you can do is be there for them when they need you the most. As trebs has said it would be useful to have a little more info, but i think the main point is just to let them know that you will always be there for them and just be a true and understanding friend

Answer 6

There are no words in the whole world that would make someone sudddenly feel better over loosing someone.

Just let them know you are there for them at any time of day and night. That they wont feel like this forever and there will come a time when talking about that loved one will bring a smile rather than tear.

Thought Field Therapy can really help with grief. I recently treated someone for the loss of a loved one and instead of thinking of the loss when they thought about that person they now think about the happy times and smile. They look and feel like a different person.

www.anderson-therapy.com - contact me if you want help in finding someone in your area who can help.

Answer 7

coming from a family who recently lost a young sibling i would say just be there for them, you don't need to say anything once you're there thats all that matters and if they need to talk just be there to listen. i would say to them that you honestly dont know what to say so you are there for them to listen and whatever else when they are ready. your prescence will be enough. believe me once you have the people around you thats all that matters.
words are cheap its the actions that counts.

and honestly the more normal you are with them the better it will be they will be sick of the i'm sorry's, the i dont know what to says the feel sorry for looks, try be as normal as possible that helped me through my bad time being able to laugh with my friends and be somewhat normal.
its also the being there after the person has died that is when they will need you the most.

ps. i am very very sorry for your friends situation xx

Answer 8

This depends on the relationship between them both. "Young death" is commonly thought of as being "unnatural" because we all should live-out our lives until we get old.
If the relationship is close- What you can say is this: "I have found a support group or person who has gone through the same thing as you are experiencing, why don't you talk with them?". You see it is easier to talk with someone who can "relate" understands the depth/magnitude of loss.
If the relationship is not close: Offer your condolences and make an offer to help if needed.
God Bless

Answer 9

tell them you have no idea what to say but you can listen. then just hang out with them, go around and watch telly. give them a quick call just to say hello in the morning, that kind of thing. and you know, do practical things - dont know the situation, but if its useful for them, do a quick shop for groceries, maybe cook some stuff and put it in the freezer, that kind of thing....

Answer 10

The person is going to a better place and the suffering will be gone. or everyone has a ticket to depart so we can't interfere with the universe destiny plan for us.