I will give details, and bellow post the email I would like people to read and help me understanding what it could mean. We were in a nice relationship and I left her because she seemed made efforts treating me bad to leave her, I tried to make it work, I couldn't, I left. Later I tried to come back and see if we can work things out, she didn't want us to be together. All she said is that she was enjoying her single-life with her friends and nights out and it was doing great, also doing things she wouldn't be able to do if she was in a relationship. I asked if she was letting me go, said that I am not available, are you taking me?, no, I am not taking you. I tried everything to be back with her for a while, and I couldn't. Until I asked for a final decision, said "no", I contacted her to see if she was happy with that decision, she said yes, to please not to contact her. That if in 6 months she changes her mind, she will try to find me, and if I am with someone, it was her problem.
2006-10-19 02:58:09 · 16 answers · asked by livingthe30s 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So a month after that she called me to just ask a dumb question and also said "I miss talking with you, and took her words back" asked if I was dating, I didn't pay attention and I just keep moving on. A month later, this: (What you gusy think?)
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So does this mean you don't hate me? ;)
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> Hi there, thanks for writing and keeping the communication open, it's good. Thanks for the thoughts of the other day and the hopes, I hope the same for you on your end. Take care.
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>I know you hate me, but I've been thinking about you a lot lately and just hope your doing well. It feels so strange having absolutely no communication with you considering you were such a huge part of my life at one time. I was going by wickham park the other day and remembered the time we took a midnight walk and both got freaked out, lol. I had such a great time back then. Thank you so much for all the wonderful memories! Again, I really do hope your doing well Take care.
2006-10-19 03:05:29 · update #1
its confusing to you now because you still have feelings for her.take some advise, if you attempt a relationship again with this person, she will do it again. this is a little game and you may not be the prize. people want what they cant have and with her thinking you hate her she will continue to send you those messages and make you feel guilt. it sounds like there may have been another person entering her life and it may not have worked out so she trying to get you. she may be around for a little while but do you want to chance it? good luck
2006-10-19 12:10:43 · answer #1 · answered by jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how her bringing up the past and bothering to 'come after you' and write after she stopped dating you would suggest to you (a guy) that she was still interested.
But women are a little different, from what I have observed and experienced. Women can distinguish friendship from dating a little easier than men can. Even after they break up with a guy, if they had a 'good' relationship with him and some good memories, they can't just suddenly forget about it. They would like to keep the friendship, even if the romantic angle has been momentarily dropped.
It's possible that she's a little unsure of her decision, but you cannot depend on that being true here -- you will save much heartache and grief by accepting that the romantic angle is over.
So what I got out of her e-mail to you is, "I don't want to get back together, but I didn't want you out of my life completely and I miss you when I think about the good times we had as friends. I hope your life is going well, and maybe we could still maintain the friendship like we used to?"
If you want the friendship and can handle the thought of being friends with her without a romantic angle, then go for it.
But if it's too hard to you to do right now, then I would tell her you do care about her, valued the time you spent together, and you will try to occassionally let her know what's up with you (if you plan to send her an annual holidays card, for example). And otherwise let things go.
2006-10-19 11:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is telling you to leave her alone. She has moved on and no longer wants to be with you. As for the 6 months thing thats just something that you both know wont happen!
Spend you time and energy on something else...she doesn't want you but someone else will.
2006-10-19 10:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means let her go and move on with your life. How many times does she have to tell u this before u actually get it?
2006-10-19 10:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means hit the road jack you're crowding my space. perhaps you were over bearing, too demanding perhaps, or up under her all the time and insecure.
She must be a hotty, you're bugging her. Sorry my dear but the girl is "outta your life". Move on, don't be a victim.
2006-10-19 10:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by Jazz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move forward, forget about her, someone a whole lot better is out there for you. Good luck, dude.
2006-10-19 10:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you appear so desperate.
You have to be happy within first to be happy in a relationship
2006-10-19 10:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Existentialist_Guru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she isn't interested in you and to give it up. Move on, have fun, live your life- and like she said- if she wants ya she'll call ya... my advise is not to hold your breath.
2006-10-19 10:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are almost to the point of stalking this girl. She has told you over and over that she isn't interested. You have to accept this and deal with your own emotions. This isn't healthy.
2006-10-19 10:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over. Move on and be happy. Good luck!
2006-10-19 10:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋