I am girl who in 7 grade i try do well in school but friday i get interums from school and in 2 class i did not do much of work so i getting Ds. My parents very upset and i got a sore spanking and they say will check work i do for rest of semestr to make sure i do all of it and get grades up and xtra chores with allowant taken way. Do other family get so upset over bad grade? Is fair punish me so much? I did promise try harder at school
2006-10-19 02:50:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
your parents are right in getting upset & keeping a watch on your studies.i am myself in 8th grade & my parents are really strict about my studies.with their inspirations & scoldings as well, i am doing really well in school.'n i am sure u'll do very well this time.though the punishment is harsh, but a person can become successful by crossing these hardships.you can surely do better than before. My blessings are with u.wish u ALL THE BEST!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-19 03:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by sugu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one of those parents that are strict about grades and schoolwork. I had a strict mother and she demanded me make all A's...And I did. But I liked to learn and had no problems doing my homework.
My oldest daughter (8th grade) takes a long time to get her homework done. Always has since she has been in school. Her grades are not bad, points she loses is usually for turning the assignment in late or not at all. The assignments she does turn in she makes A's, so I am strict with that, turn it in, I know you can do it! I won't let her go outside until her homework is done. Same thing for the weekends, no friends, phone or TV until all homework is done. I used to check all her assignments daily, now she never knows when I will check. It is more on a random basis, but if it is not done and she said it was, then she is grounded for the weekend. It seems like it has been doing good this way. She didn't do as well when I was on her all the time, seems like it stressed her out too much to concentrate. And she isn't a great test taker. She does alright, but not always an A. Those I tell her she needs to try her best and that's all I can ask, she needs to study and if she needs help to let us know. She has been doing fine this year on it.
My youngest daughter (2nd grade) is great with homework, she gets it done on her own right away and tells me what she needs to do...I can only hope that it will remain that way!
I don't think that your parents should be spanking you for grades, nor piling on extra chores...how can you study, if you have extra chores? There just isn't enough time. My daughters have to get their homework done first, chores are secondary, a way to earn their allowance...Homework is a child's "job", their responsiblity and it should come before any fun activities. I have raised my voice at my daughter for her bad grades, but have tried my best to not let that happen anymore, it doesn't solve anything and just stresses her out more. And a promise is good to make, but as most children, they typically do not follow through on those promises. At least not as promised. You will have to prove to your parents that you will try harder. Good Luck to you and I hope it all works out. It is tough I know and it is tough on parents too, there are no instruction books on how to cope with different problems that arise when raising your children and what to do, it is all by trial and error. Know that your parents only want what is best for you.
2006-10-19 10:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Peachz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am strict on my kids with grades, I want them to complete all of their work which is the most important, they learn responsibility which will help them later in life. If they get a bad grade, I sit them down and ask them if they understand what is being taught, if they don't I sit down with them and show them how to do it. I don't yell at them at all, no one can be perfect all the time, yelling at them is not going to help the situation, I would certainly never spank them for a bad grade at all. Just complete your work no matter how much you don't want to.Both of my kids are A-B students so I must be doing something right. I do think your punishment is a little severe( especially the spanking part). Good luck
2006-10-19 09:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by Urchin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My father would whoop me with the belt when I got bad grades in school. I never had to do extra chores though, and I never had an allowance, so they couldn't take it away. They just want the best for you. There are a lot of women out there who live with a man and have kids and have no job, or have a job flipping burgers because they didn't have education,
They don't want you to be like that.
2006-10-19 09:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Billys girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aren't you a little old for a spanking?
Just hang in there and keep trying you'll get it...
My parents weren't AS strict as yours but yes I would get into some trouble if I didn't pull decent grades, but in time they got a lot more forgiving... I never got spankings tho.
2006-10-19 09:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Melis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in the 7th grade and you're parents spank you? Wow, I'm glad I don't have your parents. My parents emphasized doing the best I can. If I brought home lower than a C+, they would sit me down and figure out a schedule with me so that I would apply myself to all my studies. Maybe you can do that to show your parents that you're serious about improving your grades. It really helped me.
2006-10-19 10:03:12 · answer #6 · answered by ☆skyblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my parents were very strict with academics that i ended up hating school.
i am a good student meaning i get A's and B's but there was this time that i got a D and my parents were so upset that they ground me for a week. And they spank me too... i hated homeworks since then. i guess the best approach for this would be for parents to be not so strict cause they dont know how much this affect the child. talk to them. let them understand... i hope this helped you.
2006-10-19 09:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by stupid cupid 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are absolutely correct in taking the actions they have. They are only looking out for you and your future. A good education is essential in this world. You cannot succeed without it.
All parents should take an active interest in their childrem's education. Those that do will raise children who can possibly play a major role in making our country stronger and safer to live in. You should give your parents a hug and a kiss and thank them for caring about you.
2006-10-19 09:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by ironduke8159 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An education is one of the most important things you can get from life and do for yourself. Once you realize this and take the initiative on your own and get the grades for you then your parents will not need to intervene. Be thankful that they care. There is no reason to get a "C" on any assignment let alone a "D" !
2006-10-19 09:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by tbear 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A spanking? A bit old for a 7th grader.
We are tough on grades, but we examine what went wrong and remove privledges (TV, Game Cube, drawing), but NEVER corporal punishment
2006-10-19 09:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋