my company would like to sponsor me for my diploma course and later to degree (if i can pass). the problem is that, i've got 3 kids. 8 yr old, 3 yr old and 2 yr old, and i don't think i can cope. i really want to upgrade myself, but with my current condition with the kids and all, i'm afraid i'll drop out half way. i really want to persue this, but do you think its a must? i mean, with most of the late evenings for 3 yrs (diploma) and 5 yrs (degree), do you think it is fair for the kids? give me your opinions, i need them!
2006-10-19 02:44:04 · 5 answers · asked by Jules Kay 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Personally, I feel that you need to discuss with your husband on this issue. The main issue here is that you need to cope with the stress from 3 areas namely: 1) Family, 2) Work and 3) Studies. There are people who succeed as they have the support from their family members.
Secondly, I don't know how long have you left school but taking part time course is not as relax as full time course as you have other commitment at the same time. Moreover you must be mentally prepared as it would be very tough and tedious.
So you have to consider carefully on this matter before you mde the decision. Hope my information is useful to you
I have studied part time courses for about 10 years and I am giving a break at this moment after such a long time.
2006-10-19 13:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you considered online courses? It might be a better alternative since you have 3 little ones to look after. It'll allow you flexability since you'll be able to log in day or night and it's not confining like an actual classroom. You won't have to worry about finding a babysitter, not spending enough times with the kids, etc. Unlike the person said above, I do think you should worry about how fair it is to your children, because in the end, they do need a mother, not a substitute or one they barely see. This is why I think online courses may be your best bet. You can still find ways to be with your children and also further yourself as far as career and education without feeling guilty.
2006-10-19 09:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by trafficjams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel pressured to get the degree, think through whether it will get you where you need to be in the long run. Definitely consider whether you will have time for your kids, obviously you're already working and taking time away from them so, you might want to consider which is more important. A lot of people have put their jobs a head of their kids thinking it would give their kids a better future when actually all they wanted was their parents at home. So, maybe talk to your kids about it.
2006-10-19 10:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by Fun2010 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is something you should do and let me explain why I feel that way. First, you will be setting an example for your kids that says education is important no matter the SHORT TERM cost. It will not be costing you much money to get your diploma and degree and the time will be well spent. You could even encourage your children in their schooling by doing your work when they do their homework!
Second, you will markedly increase your ability to make a better income. This will help your children to realize their futures in an easier and more comfortable manner. It will help you to provide better for them. If your company is wanting to sponsor you for this, then perhaps they would also like to see you improve so they can improve your status at work.
Lastly, I find your argument for not going back to school as weak. Your kids need an educated mother not an excuse machine. Kids learn as much by observation and watching what we do as they do at school (probably more!). Your 8 year old may be embarrassed but will find it cool when mom asks for his/her help on something! The younger kids will be a challenge but let me assure you it is worth it. I have recently returned to school to complete my Masters and PhD degrees. I have a 2 year old who is supremely high maintenence and my wife works all day as I read and study all day. I still find plenty of time to entertain my little one as well as find ways to include her in my own work (believe me, I am doing on average 200 pages of reading per week plus writing papers!)
Here is my advice, do not worry about how FAIR it is for the kids that some of your time is used to make your life and their life better! They will adjust and cope better than you probably. Sure they will notice mom is busy but you are going to have to structure your day differently and start using a planner more so you can be successful. Ultimately you will thank yourself for it and your kids will look up to you as they realize the sacrifice you made to make their life better.
2006-10-19 09:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by ThinkingMan2006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
look for a recognised school which can allow you to do the part-time diploma and degree at home at your own pace.
cheers!
mercury of love
2006-10-19 09:57:41 · answer #5 · answered by mercury of love 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋