I am currently living with my boyfriend in his country on the other side of the world from all my family who i left to be with him, ive left him a few times to go to my family, but this time my family really need me and hes tellin me if i leave, its over....forever...and if I dont go to my family,,,,i lose their trust for me and $2000 from the ticket back,,,,,,,HELP
2006-10-19 02:43:05 · 23 answers · asked by elenaki_5 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well from your ID name it sounds like you might be here in Greece. If I am right...it sounds like you have an egotistical boyfriend and it gets worse once he becomes your husband.
I made the mistake and married one of those guys(selfish) (man-gas)big ego! Many people warned me of that "type" but No I didn't listen. If I can help someone, I will try to give you advice. But you have the final decision. Do what that little still voice tells you. I ignored that voice and hoped things would get better bc I loved him...but guess what? Just got worse. So I made my bed and laid in there for 8 long miserable teary years.
Be strong and courageous. Have no fear. Pray also...Prayer is very powerful. Get the book "power of a praying woman" by Stormie Omartian. Very Good! It helped me so much!
I pray the Lord guides you to make the right decision.
2006-10-23 02:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, family comes first. If he really loves you, he'll be supportive and understand that your family needs you right now. If he has a problem with that, then that's HIS problem and not yours. If you have made this big sacrifice to leave your family and live with him on the other side of the world, then he's just plain selfish and controlling.
Bottom line is...what is your heart telling you to do?
2006-10-19 13:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family needs u because of some kind of emergency then go to them. Your boyfriend is just being selfish at this point so if he wants to leave u because of it, then so be it.
The way I see it, unless your boyfriend is already your husband, then he isn't really your family yet and even if he was, he should still show u understanding and give u the space to go see your family who needs u right now.
2006-10-19 10:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is giving you an ultimatim over your family...leave your boyfriend. Only those people who are control freaks would do something like that. You should never be in a situation where you have to choose your boyfriend or your family (not unless someone is abusing them, then the decision to choose should not be difficult).
2006-10-19 10:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family should always come first. They are the ones that will be there for the rest of your life. Theres no guarantee that this boyfriend will stick around forever. But your family will,
2006-10-19 11:10:55 · answer #5 · answered by nefertiti186 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. You know why you love your family. You know they need you now. You'll grow to resent your boyfriend if something happens and you weren't there to help. A lot goes along with love. Support, understanding, trust. Sounds like you don't have any of that abroad...
2006-10-19 09:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by areyoukidding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family comes first. Your BF is being very selfish. You have but one family. If you lose their trust, then you lose them. If your BF really loves you he would understand that going to your family is the right thing to do and if he can't understand that, he doesn't respect you. If you lose him and will find someone else, but you can't find a new family.
2006-10-19 09:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by gab_b_i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this if he truely loved you. would He threaten you and make you feel that your family is of less importence than him. But again if your family has caused problems for your relationship with him it could also be that they are trying to chosse what they feel is best and not aloughing you to decide for yourself. But I however don't know. only you and the parties involved do so you have to view it from both sides and ask yourself those questions.
Best of luck and God Bless.
2006-10-19 09:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him this...
If you had a daughter and she moved across the world with her boyfriend and one day something horrible happened and you needed her home, what would you expect her to do?
If he says he'd expect her to come home and leave her boyfriend forever...then he is really telling you to get lost.
If he says he'd expect her to stay and be with her boyfriend...then he isn't too bright at all!
2006-10-19 09:55:58 · answer #9 · answered by Timeless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on, you mean your boyfriend is threatening your relationship because you want to visit your family? He does not own you, tell him to grow up! That's a power issue he has over you.
2006-10-19 10:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by ladyvincicode 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋