After 25 years of marriage she had a long distance affair, spent less than 28 days in person with this guy before they got married less than a month after the divorce was final and less than 9 months after first starting this reationship. In addition, she moved 2500 miles to be with him leaving her teenaged daughters, job and friends behind. Will this work?
2006-10-19 02:42:13 · 12 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Probably not, but at this point there isn't anything you can do. I'm sorry she did this to you. There really isn't anyway she could have known this person well enough to know if he was truthful, but leaving her family behind makes me wonder if he is just using her. maybe he knows how to get to her by saying all the right things, but is afraid everyone else will be able to see through it. I really wish you the best, and I hope you will be able to forgive her in time, she really does seem to be confused. Good Luck !!!
and to the Big Feminist...that is plain nasty !!!!!sorry if I dont have the name right, but you'll know who you are.
2006-10-19 02:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care? There is a great book I recommend called "It's called a break up because it's broken." There are some really easy strategies in it about looking to your own directions instead of fantasising about something that no longer exists with that person you might be obsessing about. Is your goal for her to come back to you? Hopefully you can grow and learn from this situation and not bring it back to yourself again. Take some time to heal and use some initiative to get over your issues and in time you won't care what she does. Those kids will love you wherever they live. Move on buddy. I know this is tough love but it has to be said. Focus your energy on yourself and wonderful things will happen. Keep going how you are and you will become bitter and twisted - and you are better than that!
2006-10-19 02:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by Clever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can read between the lines it's still hard for you to accept her being with another man, Michael. Thats understandable after a marriage of 25 years. But believe me, the pain will go away in time. She is no longer your problem to worry over. The best you can do is to get on with your life.
2006-10-19 02:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you care? Hopefully not wanting her back because she doesn't seem to be the caring type. Not to be too rude I hope. But as long as you know that you are doing the right thing by your children and you're alright, don't worry about her to much especially if she doesn't if care of the path she is taking.
2006-10-19 02:46:14 · answer #4 · answered by tasgilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give it a second thought , and yes ... find someone else .. the sooner the better
2006-10-19 02:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Archi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that but does it matter? you need to take care of you now. she made her bed. its hard but you will be happy again. you have to stop thinking of their lives and think of yours. you have a new chance at life....run with it
2006-10-19 12:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probally not, but she deserves it not too leaving her kids
2006-10-19 02:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by James R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you say EX???? Ex means ex.....let him screw up his own life..concentrate on your own....
2006-10-19 03:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I doubt it.
2006-10-19 02:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a safe bet that it wont. its his problem now though isn't it?
2006-10-19 02:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋