Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 7 months and I think that I am pregnate and I don't know what to do. We are haveing so many problems now. I'm a senior in high school and he dropped out of his freshmen year at college. I don't think that we will be able to support the baby. He thinks I should get an abortion but I'm completly against killing an innocent baby. He wants me to give the baby up for adoption but I don't think that i could do that either. We fight about these issues all the time and we almost break up all of the time. Yesterday I walked home from subway because we got in a fight. He isn't very considerate at all. I think that he thinks that this is all my fault but it isn't. I don't know what I should do. I haven't told my parents because they would bite my head off, so I am asking strangers what they think. Please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-19 02:40:34 · 10 answers · asked by ? 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Find your local women's care center and you can find someone to talk to.
It sounds like your boyfriend doesn't want to have anything to with this baby and doesn't have the maturity to understand his responsibility. Don't count on his help. To be frank, he sounds like a real tool.
You do need to talk to your parents because if you have this baby, they are going to need to take part in raising it. If they don't want to help, it will be very difficult for you to do this alone. You obviously don't want to terminate this pregnancy, and I admire you for that. You should consider adoption. There are thousands of couples who are emotionally, mentally, and financially prepared to raise a child, but they cannot conceive. Try to consider what would be best for your baby.
2006-10-19 02:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by _LitMatch_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is get a definite answer if you are pregnant or not. You can either buy a home test or visit your local health department or women's clinic to get tested.
If it happens that you are pregnant, talk with a counselor at the health department or women's clinic. They can give you sound guidance on the path which is best for your situation. Other than that, if your boyfriend is unwilling to help care and support you and the baby, do not stress yourself over him. Tell your parents and make sure they know that, yes, you made a mistake, but that the baby should not suffer in your stead. You have 9 months to prepare, don't waste a day, and don't waste a day on a guy that has shown you he does not have the maturity to bear his own part. Once the baby is born, the legal system can help you out with that part. Your parents....yeah, they more than likely will be angry, but they also love you. That's what's most important right now. Do not put your or your baby's health in jeopardy because you are afraid of their anger. I guarantee you the repercussions that you will face from not doing so will be much greater.
Good Luck!
LilD
2006-10-19 02:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by lildansr_23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first you should go to the store and get a pregnancy test. Depending if it's positive then go to a doctor and get one there also. I see that you are completely aware of your options if you are pregnant. So let's look at your options. First, you can have an abortion. you stated you are against that so that option is gone. Second, giving the child up for adoption. You said that you don't think you could do that either. So that option is gone. Third option, having the baby and keeping it. This is the only option you are not against. So I think you answered your own question.
So yes it's going to be hard talking to your parents about this but if they love you they will support your decision. Keep your chin up being a young mom will be hard but it's not the end of the world you will make it :)
2006-10-19 03:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by guugles2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you should find out for sure if you are pregnant or not. In the meantime, stop having sex with this moron. If in fact you are pregnant, then you should start talking with your parents. It is hard enough having children when you are older (and have a job), you are going to need all the help (both financial and emotional) you can get. There are LOTS of women who have been in your situation and have had very positive outcomes.
By the way, the responsibility of supporting any child is both the mom's and the dad's. Do not let this guy tell you what to do with your body or this baby. You weren't the only one who brought this child into this world, so he's going to have to pay to support it. Good luck.
2006-10-19 02:47:47 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a clinic that will go either way and talk to someone there...about the choice of abortion, adoption or motherhood. As for your parents... you may be suprised ... give them a chance. You know that they will blow up at first .. that's expected but then they will calm down and help you to make the best decision...I also suggest that you take a test first before you do anything and find out if you are pregnant for sure.
2006-10-19 02:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by dena_lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of alll STOP worrying about him. you have to have to have to take care of YOU. and that baby and you needs to be seen by a dr. these are the critical times in a pregnancy. do not deny this child the proper care and concern because ya ll made a mistake. and i think you are doing the right thing of walking away from him...you do not need the added stress. maybe you should really consider taking a break from this guy. and as much as you think you can't tell your parents...find that courage. you can't hide it forever. PLEASE go to the dr., do it for the baby. at 18 days old it has a heartbeat. my sister just found out yesterday that she is going to have a miscarriage or they are going to go in and get the embyro because it is not developing. she was to be 6 weeks along. i cried all night because i had already attached myself to this baby. get over the fact that you two didn't want this to happen. accept it that it is God's plan...good luck to you and yours.
2006-10-19 02:53:14 · answer #6 · answered by ak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our 1st was unplanned and we were in our 20's. It can be done but very hard no doubt. My husband was adopted, he says put it up/give it away before ya suck it out. Good luck he may come around but he may hate you and the kid, talk to a pro (counsler, religious, ect.)and bring them with ya to tell your parents.
2006-10-19 02:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by francessanderell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, dude... in any case, prunes will flush your method out. if in case you have a trojan horse in you consume grape nuts(cereal) or whatever with a ton of fiber and drink prune juice. it must flush you correct out and whatever else for your method that would be inflicting it.
2016-08-31 23:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by dassler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better head for the Doctor... then the welfare office, as it sounds like he's going to be a deatbeat anyway.
2006-10-19 02:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by Audio God™ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
guidence counceller - talk to 1
2006-10-19 02:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋