I'm getting married in 3 days!?

Question

Ok im getting married in 3 days and i know i should be overjoyed but yesturday he started some strange behavior. Ok he likes being very rough while we're playing and haas always like hit me and we will hit each other back then have rough play but yest. he seemed serious. We weren't fighting or anything and all of a sudden he hitme really hard and when i hit him back he said dont hit me back either then started laughing but i did hit him bak and this time it was harder and then he held my arms down and got on top of me and started biting me. he was laughin and everything but do u think he was serious or just really rough play. I eventually got to hit him back but then he got an attitude. I have bruises ande everything

Answer 1

Nothing looks nicer than bruises with a wedding dress. Sounds like you may be in for more than you bargained for after this happy day. Perhaps he's starting to show his true colours now that he knows he and you will be wed, or perhaps he's just overly nervous about the big day. Regardless a man should not strike a woman ever and make her fear him so all I can say is be careful with this rough play as it may end up being a lot rougher than you had realized. Hope you have a happy wedding day and all works out good for you and your soon to be husband.

Answer 2

Hmmmmmm, I think hubby to be could be an abuser. Careful dear. How long have you known him? Have you done a back ground check? Is he a God fearing man?

As Judge Mabelline would say, "look deep before you leap".

Losing a few dollars on a wedding and perhaps endure a lil embarrassment is better than committing to a relationship that could potentially be dangerous and suffering the pain and cost of divorce.

Hopefully there aren't any children involved, please wait before you have children with him even if you do decide to go forward with the wedding. t;s easier to leave when you do not have children.

Answer 3

Well, u have answered ur question - Attitude - I suppose, he's suddenly got it, since he's going to marry u and may be wants to have the upper hand as a husband. Don't worry, it'll pass. May be he is having the butterflies in his stomach as the D Day approaches and its showing off. Just back off, relax & get set to prepare for the marriage. Everything is going to work out great & fine.

Advance Congrats and All the Best.. God Bless....

Answer 4

omg!! this doesn't sound good.. seems like hes got abit of issues.. talk to him about it.. has he had violence issues in the past or anything?? i think you should do a background check and ask him about it, if he really meant to hit you and tell him it hurt.. i think you should really think twice..

because if he's hit you once and you got all bruises.. he can do it again.. and it will be even harder after your married because he might feel like he can do what he likes now your married..

i hope 4 ur sake it was all just a sick joke.. but remeber communication is key in any good relationship so just ask him.. good luck :)

Answer 5

I REALLY think you need to sit him down and talk to him about this..... if it is escalating then you need to ask yourself "Do I want this".... because this kind of thing can get WAY out of hand.... and the worset case scenario , you really don't want to deal with!

If you are having doubts now about marrying him then you need to ask youself lots of questions....ie:- do *I* want this kind of sexual life or not? Do I love him enough to put up with it? A lot of battered wives say they do love the husband enough but they are brainwashed into thinking they do....and if you think this is nothing like your relationship you may be deluding yourself! It might be that he got carried away..... BUT ... you need to be sure and you need to have boundaries so that you both know where you stand!
ALL weddings can be cancelled right up till the last minute...never EVER think you HAVE to go through with it, you don't!
If you are doubting.....postpone it at the very least.....people may be peed off but hey, this is YOUR life we are talking about!

And also remember that sex is supposed to be pleasurable, intimate and you are at your most vulnerable at that time.... so you be careful and be safe!!! DON'T put up with it if you don't like it..... and if he says he will not do it again, you HAVE to be 100% certain!!

Take care

Answer 6

I suppose he could be stressed out because of the impending marriage, which could cause him to behave strangely. However, failing that, and that's a stretch, I would think you should be seeing some pretty big red flags. Is there anyone who knows you both and has a level head on their shoulders that you could talk with about this?

Answer 7

My grandparents got married 2 weeks after meeting

Answer 8

Sounds pretty kinky to me. I think your fiance has a domineering streak in him. Not neccessarily a good thing unless you like to be a submissive partner. I'd find out before the wedding if I were you.

Answer 9

i would try to double think that decision. guys tend to put on a show before tying you down to marraige. So maybe you need to re-evaluate your fiance and see if he is really the guy for you. You dont want to marry someone that does a flip on you on the honeymoon.

Answer 10

TALK TO HIM!

You will be (possibly) marrying this man this week-end and you can't seem to ask him what the H*LL he is doing!

Talk to the Minister who will be marrying you, talk to your parents, talk to some-one whose advice you trust.

If you were my daughter, I would want you to postpone the wedding and re-think the whole thing, I would not want you married to some-one who would just "hit you really hard".

Good Luck, dear - you'll need it!