boyfriend after 9 years and he can't even be honest, what am I suppose to do now??
2006-10-19 02:14:33 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
didn't say it was just a gay problem, we don't deserve compassion and support?? i like the song though, gay sir rah sir rah
2006-10-19 02:20:47 · update #1
either ask him to leave or you need to pack up and leave. It's very unhealthy for you to stay in the same home, in the situation your in, but I think you already know that. As for him, I clearly don't know him so I can't say anything about him, except he has moved on, and so now you need to as well. Remember the good times you had together and tuck them away, and look forward to living the rest of your life, with a new partner that will care and respect you.
2006-10-19 04:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy fella! Take a deep breath and look at your options.
Calmly and with much self control start your new life.
That part isn't easy, I know-been there, done that.
Honesty is something that most folks have a hard time achieving.
For, whatever reason, you now find yourself out of a loving relationship, so now it's your turn to seek the future and someone else. Just don't do what he did to you. If nothing else, BE HONEST WITH A PERSON. The rest will come in line.
2006-10-19 10:11:34 · answer #2 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some couples live together after a breakup and can deal with each other finding new partners. Most don't live together after a breakup. My ex, after 10+ years, moved out owing me $30K and found the "love of his life" within 2 months. This "love" turns out to be wealthier than I am and pays for everything, and my ex is 44 years old! I mean, grow up already; 44 is too old to be a kept boy.
Back to you: can you move out? Can he? From your question it doesn't sound like a pleasant living situation. Does he have the boyfriend over to the house? Maybe some groundrules can be laid if you continue to live together, like no guests and always go over to their place instead.
2006-10-19 11:20:07 · answer #3 · answered by dougeebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do now is get your gay *** out of there! After 9 years?! He should be exiled. It is completely wrong to treat someone like that. You need to find you a man that will worship the ground you walk on and wouldn't do anything to jeopardize the relationship. It will be hard, but you've got to be strong and willing to get over him. Don't go into another relationship still carrying baggage from your last. Its not fair to the partner. Its all easier said than done, but you can do it. If he can't be honest with you, you need to be honest with yourself and realize, its not really worth it.
2006-10-19 09:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by KrisKarson 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Gay sir rah sir rah , what ever will be will be , the future is ours to see. thats not an exclusive homo problem , that happens all over.
2006-10-19 09:19:06 · answer #5 · answered by noname 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Take a deep breath, forgive, but never forget. Learn from this and move forward. Mase put it best when he said "Breathe, Stretch, Shake, Let it go"!
2006-10-19 09:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Barak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show him how dumb he was to let you go.
Get your self a fine piece of *** and take him home.
If I was him, I'd be all over you like white on rice.
J-
2006-10-19 14:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jude M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only real thing you can do, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on with your life.
2006-10-19 09:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
choices must be made by you and only you can decide what u can and cant live with, so make them and go from there.
2006-10-19 13:16:03 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋