I have been with my boyfriend for a month & a half now, and he seems to sulk alot. Yesterday he lost one of my cds and when I asked him to look for it he replied "i can't find it!" and sulked, he hadn't even looked properly, then he sulked. Other times i have mentioned to him that the way he has behaved has upset me and his response is not to talk about it, but instead sulk!!
How can i stop this reaction? And why is he doing this?
Whenever I ask whats wrong, he says "nothing" and i feel like saying YOU ARE THE ONE IN THE WRONG, I SHOULD BE THE ONE SULKING - but i don't :( Help me please :(
2006-10-19 02:12:36 · 38 answers · asked by Tamara 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Punch him in the face
2006-10-19 02:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by laura b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are the biggest pouters out there. If they feel they don't have an answer to something or they have failed in some way then they sulk. What they are doing is going into their "cave" as they call it. The best thing to do when he does this is leave him alone. When he is done sulking he will come to u. Women like to talk things out, men like to "think" it out in their own mind. Sometimes it takes an hour, sometimes it takes a day, but however long nothing brings them out of it except for time.
2006-10-19 02:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you've only been with this guy for a month, and you've tried talking to him. If he can't take this on board, then just imagine what it will be like in a few more months. You'll just be unhappy and unable to get out of the relationship, as he'll sulk and make you feel bad. End it now before you get too involved. Good luck x
2006-10-19 02:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by Poppy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that you are having these problems with your boyfriend.
In order to prevent your boyfriend from sulking, you need to know why he is doing it in the first place. It could be that he is shy, or perhaps has trouble expressing himself. It sounds like he is taking any form of request or criticism very personally, so he just goes into his shell.
You need to sit him down when he is a good mood and ask him why he behaves this way. Politely tell him that it upsets you when he behaves like that.
2006-10-19 02:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me, there is no way to stop a man sulking! they sulk as kids, teenagers, middle aged men and pensioners!
there's no point having a go at them for sulking, no point trying to talk to them, no point trying to snap them out of it and NO POINT GETTING UPSET ABOUT IT!!
the best thing to do is let them get on with it, and if possible go out and leave them on their own, and when they're ready to behave like a mature adult they'll forget their little paddy strop and be nice again.
You're not alone, the vast majority of men I've known are sulkers, its nothing personal. Just let them sulk and ignore them.
2006-10-19 02:18:10 · answer #5 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have all my sympathy. A few years back i had a friend who's husband did the same. Like a spoilt brat he was, if her leg was sore then he had two legs that hurt, if she needed a haircut he will moan and groan that he needed one ages ago as well. A real miserable git. He would sit on a chair all curled up with his lip hanging on the ground if he could not get his own way, everything had to be his way. He manipulated her that way. She was to scared to have her own mind, always agreed on what he said or kept quiet just to hold the peace. He never argued just sat like a sad monkey on the settee looking sorry for himself, i often felt like shouting at him to wake up and smell the roses , eventually i stopped visiting her because he would tell her how wonderful i was etc and made me feel terribly uncomfortable. My advice to you would be leave him , you don't want to spend your life tense and unhappy. He knows exactly what he is doing.
2006-10-19 02:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you think you need a break and see how he reacts to that... see how he changes
before that take a day off and go somewhere fun where he cant sulk at all... do whatever he wants to do unless youre really not into it...
tell him when he thinks hes ready to come back sulk less to call you...ask his friends awell if they know or the can find out
2006-10-19 02:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by ██████████ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him his sulking is affecting the relationship. the reason he`s doing it is because he just hasn`t grown up. i think u`ll have to use some tact though because even saying that will make him sulk but if he`s made to realise wot it`s doing to ur relationship wiv him it might give him the kick up the backside that he needs. i wish u luck
2006-10-19 02:51:43 · answer #8 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds really immature, tell him to grow up. You've only been together 6 weeks, maybe he thinks he's being cute? Tell him it's immature and not cute, and that you don't like it. If he sulks, dump him.
2006-10-19 02:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant stop it- its just an immature and / or a insecure response he has developed. apparently he doesnt take any level of critisism well. faults like this take time to develop and even longer to resolve and correct. if he's truly an adult, i'm not sure that the kind of guy you want to be with. maybe it has just taken this long to really see him as he is and recognise there are some issues?
2006-10-19 02:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by barn cat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change the way he reacts, he is immature and you will have to wait for him to grow up - it may take 20 years or more, so you may not want to hang around with a sulky person for that long.
You have only spent 6 weeks with him, that is enough - drop him!
2006-10-19 04:03:46 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋