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Y is it that if u have female friends, ur wife assume that ur having affair, just because she didn't know her. I have guy friends she don't know about, maybe I'm having an affair with them too. Then when u tell her ur not. Then she say u want too that's way I'm her friend. Now she say she want a divorce, for me having a friend. I told her if it make her that upset I wont talk to her anymore, It's not like we talked everyday. But she insist that I cheated, she say emotional, but it wasn't. the chick was just someone to talk too, she knew nothing about me, or my family. I was upset with my wife when I meet her, but that was it . I told her I was married, and we just became cool. I mean we don't hang out or anything, just hi & bye every now and then. So what is happening? Should I stop trying

Answer 1

I just went through the same thing with my husband. Read my previous asked questions. I just decided that I have to trust my husband more and not stress about what he might do. If it's going to happen it will. and no matter how you try to prevent it from happening. If he decided to go that route, then handle it from that point. If you always accuse the person of cheating, sooner or later the person will say " I might as well cheat" and push that person even further away. Divorce is extreme, does she just want to get out of the marriage? Communication is always the key.

Answer 2

Well, if it's just a cordial friend like hello and have a nice day, that's what you'd say to a clerk at a convenient store, or to someone at work so that is not a big deal. BUT, I think your wife is scared/jealous b/c you met this woman when you guys were in a fight. That's what's wrong. She is fearing that you cheated on her b/c you were mad. Sit down with her and talk to her. Don't call other girls or hang out. If you guys are in a group, that's fine, but don't do anything behind her back. Sounds like she is scared that something might happen. So back off a little. You married your wife b/c you love her, so work on that first.

Answer 3

No i don't think u should stop trying, it's your marriage, and no woman u just met is worth giving up your marriage for. I don't blame your wife for feeling the way she does, I feel the same way. First of all if u had to tell this other woman that u were married means she was approaching u for other reasons then friendship. Then u say she was just someone to "talk" to.......well how about trying to "talk" to your wife. Women don't want other women taking care of "our" men, whether it be emotionally or physically. You should cut this other woman completely out of your life and stick to your guy friends. If you need a woman's advice on something talk to your mom or sister etc. Every man I have ever known in my life has said the same thing........men don't seek out women to be "friends" with it just isn't like that......so do what is right.

Answer 4

You were seeking the comfort of another when you were upset with your wife! I would be upset too! If it was a old friend it might be different,but looking for another woman to meet your emotional needs can lead into your physical needs also! You need to explain to your wife that you were wrong and you want do it again,unless you plan on it then let your wife go!

Answer 5

Your wife is bugging and I would NOT dump a friend because of her insecurities. I have like 5 male friends and I wouldnt trade them in for NOTHING in this world. She needs to get a grip...or give her the divorce.

Answer 6

If she wants out and doesn't believe you what else can you do. Maybe try talking to a counselor. Oh yeah if you want to save your marriage stop talking to the other woman.

Answer 7

IF IT MAKES YOUR WIFE UPSET THAT YOU HAVE TOO MANY FEMALE FRIENDS OR THE FACT THAT YOU'RE MAKING NEW FRIENDS THEN MAYBE SHE FEELS THAT YOU TREAT HER DIFFERENTLY FROM YOUR FEMALE FREINDS. SHE ALSO FEELS THAT YOU ARE GOING TO GROW INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM THAT YOU SHOULD ONLY HAVE WITH HER. INSTEAD OF WORRYING ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR FRIENDS FEELINGS, YOU NEED TO SET YOURS ASIDE AND PUT HER FEELINGS FIRST. EMOTIONALLY, SHE PROBABLY FEELS YOU ARE GOING TO GET ATTACHED, AND SHARE ALL YOUR FEELINGS WITH THEM AND NOT WITH HER. IN ORDER TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE WORK, YOUI HAVE TO DO WHAT PLEASES HER AND NOT JUST YOURSELF.

Answer 8

girlz nd women r stuped,,,dont bother ur self,,, not even the stupediest dude ever can get to thier stupid mind,,,,nd u know ts all bcoz of those dirty shows, like Opera,,,,nd other shittt like that

Answer 9

your wife is overreacting, give her a divorce you are better off without a psycho like that

Answer 10

maybe take your wife out and meet your friends
so she can stop judgeing u so much