this has nothing to do with sex but i want my girlfreind to be more dominant... i basicly want her to wear the pants in the relationship.. i dont think she would have a problem with it .. for example i want her to tell me i cant go out on fridays but she is going out on friday till 2 in the morning.. and i want her to make me call her before i go anywere
2006-10-19 01:54:25 · 31 answers · asked by please 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what im trying to say is how do i tell her so in a way she is bossy to the extreme... any ideas
2006-10-19 01:55:26 · update #1
Ohh,send her to me,I would teach her how :-) I think if she's not that way,she won't be.People keep saying that it's trusting yourself and believing yourself crap makes you more confident .So you never get jealous or bossy.Because you believe in yourself,right? NOOO,it's not like that,I trust myself,I know that I am good,but I still control my man.İt's because this is the way I want.I don't want his friends over all the time,I want him to help when ever I need it,of course I am always good to him,love him like he's my baby,clean after him,I work(he doesn't,he just got back from the army) I rented the house and bought everything in it right from the start.Of course I want some things to be done in a certain way.İf she doesn't do that,that's because maybe you're too into her.Show her that you could also get lost and meet with the guys,see how she's reacting to that.Don't tell her to call you make her call you.I hope it works :-)
Thanks for this question,I guess I needed to let it all out too :-)
2006-10-19 02:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dominant and bossy are not the same thing. Just like aggressive and assertive are 2 different things.
Talk openly with your gf about what you are looking for in a relationship. Communication is the only way to ensure that you will at least have a chance at getting what you need in from your SO.
2006-10-19 01:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times are you going to post this question? 10 more, 20 more? What answer are you looking for exactly?
Grow some balls! Why would you want to be treated like she's the mom and you're the kid? Have some respect for yourself and for her. Make up your own mind. If she's telling you what to do all the time, she'll lose respect for you and you can't love someone you have no respect for. Grow up.
2006-10-19 02:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the expression--"Man of the house"? This is what you described then some. Not only do you want her bossy but controlling. Just tell her this is what you need to be satisfied.
2006-10-19 01:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by sandraper02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that naturally if you are doing things right, She should feel comfortable. When she feels comfortable, she will get the feeling to just go with it. On the other hand, watch your back!
2006-10-19 01:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are joking right? If not whatever floats your boat man! Just tell her straight up. To get it going be shy about it. That might work...
2006-10-19 02:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like u want her to be like that with u, so u can be like that with her. She is the one going out and obviously not calling and I don't think u like that.
2006-10-19 01:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ifs she's not that way now you sure as hell are not going to make her that way...if that's what you want then i think you should find another girl that is that way!
2006-10-19 03:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by Interested Fish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol most women already wear the pants in the family..you need to do nothing, she will take that leadership role..if you want her to do it immediately, just marry her ! :)
2006-10-19 02:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by lassss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy I'll tell you what to do! believe me she will come around sooner or later. The one think women love to do is to tell men what to do!
2006-10-19 02:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by ao23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋