My short temper and anger problems - help?

Question

Foreword: Please keep an open mind. I know that this isn't as serious a topic to everyone, but please, do understand that this is a serious question.


To put it shortly, I'm a very polite guy, probably one of the nicest and most generous you could meet, but I'm very short tempered, mostly because of the fact that I feel everyone's making me feel inferior (which in reality isn't always the case) and that I have self-anxiety and self-conscious problems. So whenever I'm faced with comments like sarcasm or even playfully rude comments, I get angered easily, and it completely and already ruins my day and maybe even my week. A response like "Okay??" when I comment on something can send me to go through an angry and then depressed phase. Don't get me wrong, I'm not very physical, my anger is always trapped inside, and it does NOT feel good.

What should I do though? I feel like the anger is tearing me up inside and there's nothing I can do about it.

Answer 1

Just because you're paranoid, it doesn't mean that everyone isn't out to get you. Ignore the tree-hugging hippy **** about anger management and counselling. You're probably too intelligent for the people around you, that's all. Intelligent people have a tendency to see things in simple terms, so others think they aren't capable of deep analysis and don't treat them with the respect they deserve. Denial is also a basic reaction when people find themselves threatened by something unusual or new, which is very frustrating for the individual who had the idea...I've got an IQ of 154 and I get the same feelings whenever someone belittles me or my ideas. Take an IQ test and if you get over about 145 you've probably found the problem.

Answer 2

What Causes Short Temper

Answer 3

I used to have trouble with anger. If I was hurt I would lash out horribly. This may not be the popular answer, nor the only thing to do but it changed my life immensely. Turn to God. It doesn't matter if you have no relationship with Him or not. When I started going to church I was so skeptical and determined it was a joke. Then I found that not to be the case. I found a love that can get me through my day. I drive a lot and it is in a very populated area so I get cut off or have people driving recklessly around me all the time. I used to get SO angry, but now I try breathing and then praying for the person to have a better day. It helps me to control my anger and that is just one example.

Answer 4

I feel a little differently from the other people who have replied to you.

It seems to me that what would help you most is to build up your self esteem.

I think your anger is caused by your sensitivity about your feelings of self worth and your worry about how others view you.

A few suggestions for this:

Some sort of outdoors adventure course aimed at boosting self esteem and team building. See what is available.

Volunteer work - join an organisation to help people, read to the blind, help at a homeless shelter, train to be a Samaritan, help someone learn English.

Do something for yourself - something you have always thought about but been a little scared to try. It might be rock climbing, sky diving, bungy jumping, ballroom dancing - you know yourself best.

I think that when you begin to value yourself these feelings will gradually recede.

I hope this helps :)

Answer 5

Nope, not at all. The problem seems to be you are too young to have the responsibilities you are carrying. You are playing mother to 3 children, councilor to your mother, and in all, just too young to handle the stress (I would have a short fuse were I you also, and I am anything but young.) I hate to say this, but it may be time that you seek foster parents so you can devote your time to school and making something for yourself, not your mother's boyfriend...for in effect, that is exactly what you are doing. He assumes no responsibility for any of this, and lives off your mother...there is only so much to go around, and he is taking none of the responsibility. It is he that should be taking care of the kids, or his money going to pay a day care! Since this is not the case, get the hell out of there now! GW

Answer 6

You need to find something that you can do to relieve the stress and the build up of the anger you hold inside.I would suggest go to a gym or even just out for a walk or jog.If this does not work I would try to look in to getting into the local anger management classes and counseling...hope this helps

Answer 7

I have these problems too, to some extent. You need to visit a doctor for some self - help, or like me and take the easy route, and get on anxiety medication. Low dose of valium works wonders for me at those peak moments. It should help you with those racey nerves and quick anger problems. You'll feel much better in no time.

Answer 8

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My short temper and anger problems - help?
Foreword: Please keep an open mind. I know that this isn't as serious a topic to everyone, but please, do understand that this is a serious question.


To put it shortly, I'm a very polite guy, probably one of the nicest and most generous you could meet, but I'm very short tempered,...

Answer 9

It seems you have a problem with logical thinking. Use logic to think your thoughts through. Most likely you're bored and your imagination gets the best of you. Put a brake on whimiscal thinking and try to think the problem or situation out logically. What's causing others to make you feel inferior? You could have a strong quality, and the competition is trying to sabotage your asset. Who knows? Don't have enough information to deduct the logical reason for your behavior. But I could use my imagination, and simply guess.

Answer 10

Seriously, seek some counseling, get some anger management classes into your schedule. They are very helpful and beneficial. This is a issue that many people suffer from. good luck to you and God bless