He's a new acquaintance and i know he's got no malice in him. he'd be a loyal, lovely friend and we have lots in common but i can't shake an uncomfortable feeling that he'll suddenly put his hand on my knee one day. he behaves as though we've known eachother a lot longer than we actually have and he's not that socially adept. I feel guilty feeling like this and have no solid justification for it but...here's the question... How do i deal with him? keep going and hope the weird feeling goes or let it cool?
2006-10-19 01:32:55 · 23 answers · asked by peeve 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Peeve............follow your gut instinct, it's there for a reason. 9 out of 10 times you'll be right if you just listen to what's going on inside of you. I think that you already know what to do, I think your just fishing yahoo for comfirmation.
2006-10-19 01:46:54 · answer #1 · answered by Linda 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Is he actually a creepy guy, or are you just worried that he fancies you and will make a move on you at some point?
If he's creepy and makes you feel uncomfortable, then it's probably better to try and distance yourself from him. You don't have to hang out with him just because he's socially inept, that's not your problem so don't feel guilty if you don't want to be with him.
If you're just afraid that he wants a serious relationship with you, then you might want to make it clear that you're not wanting any more than friendship with him. Again, you can't feel guilty for not having feelings for someone, he'll just have to deal with it.
2006-10-19 09:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no do not go there.i met this new boy at my church and the first day i said hi to him he said hi back. then we start saying hi when ever we see each other no big deal to me. now he thinks i like him b/c i'm nice. so if he makes u feel uncomfortable don't deal with it b/c he will start telling himself that u oh him something. so let him know from now that he makes u feel uncomfortable and that there is nothing between u. b straight up before it's too late.
2006-10-19 08:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by sweet143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loyal friend, or loyal stalker? Trust your gut feelings on this one. Your senses aren't going to lie to you.
If you really want justification to eliminate any feelings of guilt, do some back ground checking on him. He won't know, and it won't hurt anyone.
You can't be a true friend with someone you have these type of feelings toward.
2006-10-19 08:45:50 · answer #4 · answered by LucyLinnae M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there has got to be a reason you've got his feeling. People don't normally get gut feelings without a reason. So just be wary and on the lookout.
Good luck tho xx
2006-10-19 08:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Jodi ♥ Kaydi's Mummy ♥ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep up the friendship but make it clear to him that, that is all it is......
Say to him we get on so well as mates im glad there is no sexual attraction there cause it would upset the relationship we have and we wouldn't be able to have a laugh the way we do now........
It will give him the opportunity to come clean if he feels a different way or he will agree with you
2006-10-19 08:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
keep the friendship for now, and the next time you meet tell him you really don't like him to touch you. then wait and see if that resolves things. if you still get a bad feeling end the friendship.
2006-10-19 09:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you pretend you have a boyfriend, or just talk to him and make it plain that y ou's would be really great friends but nothing more, if he still doesn't take the hint then leave it awhile but otherwise he might just really want to be friends with you and you're worrying yourself over nothing. Good luck anyway and I hope yous don't fall out
2006-10-19 08:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by xx_lush_xx 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Listen to your instincts. If I were you, Id not see him again. Avoid him. Tell him youve been busy. Make an excuse.
2006-10-19 09:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better follow your feelings. It it walks like a creep and talks like a creep, it's a creep.
2006-10-19 08:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋