He's a new acquaintance and i know he's got no malice in him. he'd be a loyal, lovely friend and we have lots in common but i can't shake an uncomfortable feeling that he'll suddenly put his hand on my knee one day. he behaves as though we've known eachother a lot longer than we actually have and he's not that socially adept. I feel guilty feeling like this and have no solid justification for it but...here's the question... How do i deal with him? keep going and hope the weird feeling goes or let it cool?
2006-10-19 01:32:19 · 15 answers · asked by peeve 3 in Travel ➔ United States ➔ Orlando
Is it because he invades your personal space? Some people seem to have no concept of this and it can be a real problem.
I have an acquaintance, just like yours, he is a perfectly nice guy, no malice etc etc...and like you , he gives me the creeps...
If you are with a group of friends and he is there, try bringing up the issue of personal space and socially acceptable behaviour. you will probably find that everyone has an anecdote about someone who makes them feel uncomfortable... maybe this guy will take the hint and think about his own social graces... if not , I guess you will have to make moves to ease him out of your social circle... I do know how you feel.
2006-10-19 01:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by ragdoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should drop the friendship for the sake of both of you. If you know that you are not attracted to him, PLUS you get a feeling that he will possibly want to take it further, stop it now.
What if you drop him as a friend and find out that he is the nicest person in the world? Oh well, your loss.
But what if it turned out the he had his signals crossed and misinterpreted your friendship as something more, and then he became obsessed with you, stalked you, and made your life miserable? Then, you'd be doing yourself a favor by dumping him.
You can even be direct and let him know point blank that you don't have feelings for him and don't want to mislead him, but you feel like you are becoming too close. Simple as that.
2006-10-19 12:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by tweetymay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not me, is it? From a guys perspective - I have plenty of girl pals I find attractive, but have learnt from experience to do nothing about it. I think some of them sense I like them, and are a bit weirded by it. But he cannot help the way he feels if he does like you, so long as he doesn't try anything, you'll just hurt him and yourself if you end the relationship. If he does try anything, then you have every right to stop seeing him. But don't punish him for something he hasn't done and might never do.
You could try talking to him about your misgivings, see how he feels. I'm sure he'll appreciate you more as a friend and not want to loose that.
2006-10-19 08:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mudkips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah give the guy a chance, he's done nothing wrong at the end of the day.
You'll probably end up treating this guy like dirt, and when he gets upset/angry at the way he's treated and has a go at you, you'll think you were right all along.
You're the one with the problem not him, and you dont deserve a decent guy like this at all.
2006-10-19 08:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Adrenaline Rush™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just want to be friends that way he don't get his hopes up and think of it as more. Do not give him a reason to try to get closer to you. HE might be mad at you for a moment but he will move on. You can also hint at setting him up with someone else and maybe he will get the idea you don't want him.
2006-10-19 08:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♥c0c0puffz♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should make it clear to him that u don't like him in that way, he might start getting ideas and it will make things much worse and put u in more difficult position that u already are. has for the friendship, if he accepts that u cant be with him and moves on than there is no reason why you cant talk to him, if he cant deal with rejection very well then you shouldn't be friends with him either. x x x
2006-10-19 08:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by odeta c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone gives me the creeps, I tend to try and trust my instinct and steer clear of them.
If you can hear those warning bells in your head at all I suggest you let it cool. Just try to keep your distance from him, and each week make that distance longer!
2006-10-19 08:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by Sara P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel attracted to him and he tries a move on you you'll just have to tell him like you would with anyone else your'e not interested in
2006-10-19 08:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by IC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go withur feellings if he gives you the creeps you out then ur never really gunna have a true freindship. ditch him now before it becomes too hard too handle
2006-10-19 08:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by wwe_champion_adam_copeland 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy a chance. He hasn't actually done any of the things that you fear. However, don't play TWISTER with him, lol.
2006-10-19 08:42:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Bernstein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋