He's a really great friend and all despite he sometimes has snobbish ways but he honestly has either poor hygiene or something along those lines because he oftentimes has this scent that's pretty much horrible...And what's worse...people that have given him car rides also state the same thing. It's not a kind of no deodorant scent, it's more like he barely showers O_O and in a place like Puerto Rico, where the heat is constant, a shower is practically a requirement. I don't know how to even aprroach him of this...and what's worse...his more closer friends don't want to say it either...and I wouldn't like to avoid him and more so because of something that can be fixed...but...it's plain horrible >.<
2006-10-19 01:31:21 · 22 answers · asked by Meeko 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you say --- take a shower
2006-10-19 01:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly his friend, you may have to take the hard line and just tell him he has a bad odor and needs a bath. But you also have to remember that if he smells that bad, then his clothes are also dirty and have to be washed. There would be no use in him taking a good bath and then putting the same dirty clothes back on his clean body.
I know that if it were me that smelled bad, I would hope that someone would tell me so that I could do something about it.
Years ago when I was very young I went to school with a little girl who had the same problem. None of us said anything to her until a teacher embarrassed her in front of the whole class and made her cry. What the teacher didn't know was that she lived in squalor and her whole house smelled bad. She was never taught any better.
Please do your friend a favor and tell him.....he may be embarrassed but he'll never have that problem again. God be with
you and your friend
2006-10-19 08:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by KieKie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him (as a Friend) tell him. There might be sth wrong with his health (some people smell even after taking a shower, it is an indication of sth going wrong & they go to the doctor-endocrinologist) or it could be that he doesn't know that he should shower more often or use deodorants. Be polite & show hm how much you value him as a person, it will be good for him and for the rest of you.
It might be akward but you will both get over it.
2006-10-19 08:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by marissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a male friend to invite him to go to gym or a swim or leisure activity.
When in the changing room your friend can suggest to the smelly one that he loves freshining up after gym etc and in fact he takes at least three showers a day. Then ask smelly many he takes.
Depending on reply he can say you should be takin so many in this heat, etc.
That way the conversation seems natural. And hopefully the smelly one gets the message. Your clean friend can sugest certain shower gels that girls love the smell of etc.
I reckon if anybody says anything he will be totally offended and embarrased. Do it my way.
2006-10-19 09:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by SunGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A shower is a daily or more requirement regardless of where you live. This is a very difficult thing to say to someone, however, truly the only way is to say you really had a bad odor, or you need to take a shower, people are talking. Please wash your body you stink. Just say it. He knows he stinks, how could he not. That is really gross and i am sorry you are having to deal with this. God bless
2006-10-19 08:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, if this person is your TRUE friend then you take them by the shoulders, look them square in the eye and say "Shower!! Now!!". I'd rather have someone tell me I need a shower than to go around thinking all is fine when it is not. When you do tell him though, do so in privacy so that he doesn't get too embarrassed.
2006-10-19 08:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to take a deep breath and say something. Be nice about it, and make it clear that you're doing this out of concern for him. I had a similar situation with my brother. He just always seemed to have bad breath. So I sat him down and said "Bro, I love you, but I have to tell you something. You might not be aware of it, but you tend to have really strong bad breath." He was surprised and a little hurt at first, but now he's aware of the problem and he does something about it. Your friend might get mad at you at first, but that should pass once he realizes your good intentions.
2006-10-19 08:37:02 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpeanc1245 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way, You would be doing him and everyone around him a favor to tell him of his body odor. If you can't tell him to his face write a nice note.
I would say, I really like you as a person and a friend, and because of this I have to tell you something that you may not be aware of. You have a body odor issue. I don't want you to be embarrassed, it happens to a lot of people. I just wanted to make you aware, because you are my friend.
Or something to that effect.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-19 08:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe buy him a men's shower gift set for his birthday or for Christmas, or anothe holiday? Also if for some reason one day he doesn't smell bad, make sure that everyone compliments him on how good he smells.
2006-10-19 08:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every time you're around him (as well as other people) just say "Man, something REALLY stinks!". If you keep doing this, he will put 2 and 2 together and start showering if he's smart.
2006-10-19 08:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i worked in a hot stockroom once with a friend that had the
same problem. everyone was complaining but wouldn't say
anything. so i got an aerosol can of air freshener & sprayed
him from head to toe. although i got in trouble from my boss
i got the point across.
2006-10-19 09:52:33 · answer #11 · answered by pipnparts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋