I have been dating my boyfriend for a year, and we're both Christians in college who have prayed daily about whether our relationship is God's will for us. My pastor told me yesterday to pray to God "Is he the one I'm supposed to marry?" in those exact words. Pastor said that if I get an answer, great. If not, then no problem either. That makes me really scared. What kind of answer am I supposed to expect-- what kind of conviction if the answer is "no"?? What do I even look for? Please help us... Thanks. And for the ones who like to answer "just marry him!"... it's really not that simple... :-( We want to do God's will.
2006-10-19 01:16:57 · 15 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What does your age have to do with the will God has for your life?
God uses whom he chooses. If he has ordained for you to marry at your age, then you will. Don't so much listen for an answer from God, but rather lean more towards him leading you in the right direction. Sometimes God will audibly speak, other times he will lead and guide and all we have to do is follow. Watch for his leading of you in the right direction. Be blessed, and just think, if you get married now, hopefully you'll have 50 + years of marital bliss. That's something to look forward to!
2006-10-19 02:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good you show your faith in pursuing what is right. You ask a question that most would like an answer to. No one knows the mind of God and things are done in His time and not ours. I know that you are aware of that. Your pastor is a man as well and can't give you a direct answer. Life is about choices and changes is the best thing I can say. In all humanity it seems there never is a perfect moment or decision just go with your feelings and look deeply in each others eyes and profess your love, perhaps your answer lies there.
2006-10-19 01:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by AJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've only been dating him for one year, then I think you should wait a bit. See, if you ask God now, he might say no, and you might take it as that and break it off. But He might have more behind it, such as, "No, it's not the time now. But just take it slow and steady, and after you've both gone through some more things and grown in some areas, then it will be the time." Or something like that. I don't know.
And if He says yes, that also doesn't mean right away either...unless you're ready, of course.
If you're not sure about asking God...you shouldn't ask Him! Maybe wait until later. Remember, whatsoever is not of faith is sin.
Btw, for those who are interested, I'm 18, married to a wonderful guy, and have a gorgeous son who's the love of my life. Kisses!
2006-10-19 01:23:18 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I want to say you are a very stong person! And that is really wonderful that you both want God's will!! When we follow His will we are happier, because we know God is happy!
Next, you just have to believe God will show you the way... He'll make it quite obvious if he wants you tow to be together or not... Just pray for the grace and courage to keep going, and to find it, and for when you do know, that you follow it whole heartedly!
I know this is not easy my friend, But it will make you stronger! I am going through this too, and I am 21.. so not much older... And its not too soon to pray for your future marriage... It doesn't mean you are rushing into marriage, it just means that it means enough to you now (even when you aren't sure who your husband will be) to pray that it is God's will.
Marriage is meant for two people to love each other and God. To help eachother get to heaven, and to have a family and bring them up to be good people, and to get to heaven too!
Don't give up! God rewards those who are devoted to His holy will!
This might not have been a direct answer, more of encouragement!
May God bless you both and keep you both safe.
2006-10-19 01:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by lily 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First are you thinking of marriage yet? You are still very young. Maybe your pastor is worried that you are too serious for your age and the fact that you have been dating for a year. If you are thinking about marriage your pastor is right pray. God will let you know if it is the right decision for you. You have to have faith and your answer will come. You are a very lucky person to have found a boyfriend with the same beliefs. Hang in there .
2006-10-19 01:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by elainecynthia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think your pastor wants you to take some more time. I'm glad to hear your devotion to God is so strong but it is also a matter of the heart. If you feel the answer is NO you are not ready for marrige because I think you yourself question weather you yourself are really ready for marrige. Before you marry you have to be totally 100% ready it is a lifes commitment
2006-10-19 02:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by ktar0420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is kind hard when feelings of love are involved.
but God will give you peace in your choices, and if this is the man you are going to marry then everything will fall into place if you have to force it then it might not be from God,
basically what the pastor is getting you to do it to put your relationship in Gods hands and not yours so you will have a wonderful and strong marriage.
the sign will be peace in your heart towards him, and you will not doubt your choice.
i hope that helps
2006-10-19 01:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God's will is never something you can force. All things happen for a reason and you have to trust in that.
And remember, God answers every prayer. Most of the time, the answer is NO. You need to trust in that too.
2006-10-19 01:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 15 years. Marriage is about love first, but must of all about commitment. Commitment in yourself and commitment with your couple. I truly believe there is no Gods will, it´s what you want and what are you willing to do to make it happen.
Best of wishes.
2006-10-19 01:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by adsomx 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to have faith in God. God always answers prayers. Sometime He says no, sometimes He says yes and sometimes He says wait. God knows what is best for you.
2006-10-19 01:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋