How to get hubby to pick up after him self.?

Question

I have a good husband works loves me good guy. Hes a slob I work a full time job. Have to come home and work a part time job to pick up after him.I'm tired of nagging. Should I let it go Good men are hard to find. He knows how I hate it (thus the nagging part)lol please help

Answer 1

Put his stinky socks and dirty underwear inside his pillow case. That should give him the message !

Answer 2

Sorry to say but some men are just NEVER going to get it when it comes to housework or picking up after themselves. I know, I have a hubby the same way. But, as I've aged, I've also realized one very important lesson in life - the more you nag or ***** and complain, the least likely the man will hear you. Stop picking up after him and sooner or later he'll have no choice but to do so. And stop doing the little things also, like laundry for instance. Tell him ONCE and ONLY ONCE that unless his clothes is in the hamper, they don't get washed. Can do the same thing with dishes, unless he helps you with them, he'll be eating off a dirty plate.

But definitely stop the nagging, surely you've realized he has now tuned you out when you do nag. Nagging doesn't work for men, doesn't work for women.

Answer 3

You have my sympathies. My ex partner would never pick his stuff up and when I complained he blamed me, saying if the house was tidy in the first place he would make an effort, but he can't be bothered as it's such a mess! Tell your husband you both need to work together on this, and that you're tired too. You need to sit him down and tell him clearly that this is upsetting you and you need his help. If he doesn't listen to you it's a sign of a bigger problem. You need to communicate and tell him what you want and expect from him, but in a constructive way rather than criticising. After all a clean house is for both your sakes, and both your responsibilties.

Answer 4

My husband is a true chauvinist. He feels it is my job to clean the house and that means he can be a slob. I have told him if his laundry isn't in the hamper I will not wash it. I have left the dirty laundry on the floor for a week and not washed it before. I did that a couple of times and he had no pants to wear and he got the hint. I still need to remind him sometimes, but he gets the general idea.

Answer 5

I do the same thing. I huff and I puff too. Yes your husband is a good man, and so is mine. This is a small thing to live with, but it just reaaaaally bothers me too. My will to be less huffy fails if someone is coming over, as my home is a reflection of me. SO, basically my messy home says that I am messy, as the wife and keeper of the home. So I understand your need to have a clean orderly home. I do have one small trick. Put his stuff away, a place he cant find it. New places. Then he MAY start putting his stuff away in a place where it doesnt bother you, and he still knows where to find it. I hope this helps. ;)

Answer 6

Why do you have to pick up after him? Women are always saying things like 'i get so angry when he leaves the wet towel on the floor coz I'm the one who has to do it" Just don't do it. Hell,, he will be the one with the wet towel. Be his wife, not his MOTHER!
I work with all men & their BIGGEST complaint about their homelife is the nagging wife. Men don't want to be married to their mothers. They hate it! Seriously.
All these women on here are talking about punishing him like a child and that way of thinking isn't right

Answer 7

do what I did to my daughters that were once young...there stuff stays on the floor more then 24 hours I tell them to pick it up or it goes in the trash the next time I tell you...well needless to say the dumpster divers had a good field day...expensive but it worked now they pick up after themselves.

Or tell your good husband that your going to take his stuff away and really hide it some where. He does these things because he knows your going to come home and do it. Your a wife not a maid. Next time pack his stuff up and hide it if he refuses to pick it up and if he gets ugly and has an attack...tell him he can have it back if he picks up after himself if not then dont give it back.

ask him do you see an apron on my body or are you looking at your wife.

Answer 8

my husband has a full time job and i don't. i try to clean up after myself, honest i do. but he always comes home and vacuums, does the dishes if there are any, sweeps the driveway, picks up leaves that have fallen, wipes counters and cabinets (and the kitchen floor), pays any bills that have come in the mail, etc. - even if i've already done it!
i , sometimes, feel like i just don't do it right. i think i'm giving up on even trying.

Answer 9

LOL thats the question we're all asking.... if ya find a miracle cure, let me know. I've tried leaving his crap where he drops it, and it just stays there....and piles up til I can't stand looking at it anymore. And then it looks like I do nothing around the house. I've complained, and he'll make a brief effort... with an annoyed look on his face, but its always only temporary. Shoes, coffee cups, newspapers, tools, ect.... it makes me nuts. Its bad enough to fight with the kids about it... and even he makes them pick up after themselves.... but I'll be damned if he will.

Answer 10

nagging does not work for guys,what my wife did was we sat down at dinner and she was very calm about the deal and said she needed help cleaning the house, we divided chores and when one cant for some reason or another I do hers but she always makes it up to me one way or another
its not one persons job to keep house clean,but maybe hes a natural slob and likes it like that, just tell him calmly to say I need help cleaning the house...worked for me, if he loves you he will help i do dishes,laundry and well cooking (the boys dont like her cooking) i used to be a slob untill we had a talk and it work..guys dont like to be told what to do at least this one dont but if asked nice things i wouldnt do for her....

Answer 11

We are insensitive like that. Doesn't take much to pick up after ourselves. Leave everything the way he did, without nagging. When he complains, talk without arguing, telling him you need his help. Good luck.