2006-10-19 00:56:28 · 19 answers · asked by lady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't u know him enough by now not to be asking this question? It sounds like u don't trust him to begin with. If he hasn't done anything to make u doubt him then u have serious trust issues and u need to work on that.
2006-10-19 01:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unless you know of a surgeon, an electronics expert, an anestethiologist, and you can pay them all to knock your hubby out and put an audio/video implant in his head that records and transmits via satelite everything he does, you will never be covident . . . . . or confident, either.
You can also look for signs but pilots tend to have all the traits I would tell you about so that won't help. People who are pilots tend to be risk-takers, mavericks, independent. The do not like being micro-managed. So they all may seem like they are cheating, whether they are or not. I am in a similar field and am that way. It is in my nature to be all of the above. When my wife pushes me, wanting to know where I am all the time, I get very resentful. The same as when my supervisor does the same. Marriage is about trust. If it is not there, you need to wonder why it left. You knew what he did for a living when you married him, did you not? You probably thought he was an exciting man. Now you are probably paranoid about the very personality traits that attracted you to him in the first place.
You need to work on your own self-esteem. Get some counseling. When you are confident that you deserve a good partner, then you will be a good partner to that person. If he is cheating on you, and you get some self-esteem, then you will quickly realize that he does not deserve you.
A lot of people, maybe most at one time or another, marry or hook up with someone they think will fix them or complement them, or complete them. It doesn't work that way. The people around us are teachers that help us grow emotionally and spiritually. They point out our flaws to us and give us an opportunity to improve ourselves. Ask yourself what you are supposed to be learning on this journey.
2006-10-19 08:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jack P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the one thing you will not ever tolerate is a man cheating on you. If you ever get wind that he is, he will never see or hear from you again. And if doesn't believe you, there's only one way to find out. And another thing, don't believe that crap about the "wife is always the last to know."
This is real easy to comprehend and there should be no questions. Have a nice flight and don't forget what you said.
2006-10-19 08:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard, My husband works in the industry and is working towards being a pilot. This is something I worry about too. You have to be open and honest with each other. I try to keep up on the romance (he never will) I send him cut little text messages when he's at work. Not to check up on him, but to keep him thinking of me. My husband calls me at night when he is away to say good night. I trust him I just don't trust the job. I try and give myself the confidence to trust him. I have lost weight, had my hair done and try to boost my self-confidence. I find this helps me to trust him as I have the confidence in myself. When you know he is coming home dress up for him a little. Maybe one time you can pick him up at the airport when he gets home. Look as hot as you can. As the saying goes "why have hamburgers when you have steak at home?" I find this has helped in my relationship and my trust in my husband.
2006-10-19 10:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by welshmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While true love can be blind, it is also the true tie that binds. Unfortunately todays society seems to be accepting infidselity as a condition of marriage. We are definately on a bad course but all you can do is be totally true to yourself and open and honest about your feelings without tones of accusations. We are victims of the insecurities that our society infects us with daily. You can only love with your whole hearty and mind and hope that it is returned. People generally seek someone outside a relationship because they feel something is missing (it is not always the sex) So please ask your partner as well as advise them our your needs so that you both can feel every emotional avenue has been travelled and that you know you have given to eachother completely. Remember though that humans are weak minded, history has demonstrated this time and time again. It is quite easy to sway people with the right stimulus but usually these are the people that feel something is missing in thier lives so as corny as it sounds you do need to complete eachother.
2006-10-19 08:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by sunfiregeetee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For all that you know he might just be feeling the exact same way about you too. That is why when you are committed to one another there should always be Love, Trust, & Devotion, in a marriage!
2006-10-19 09:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have trust unless he has given you a reason to think that way, not all people cheat, trust him and keep showing him you love him
2006-10-19 08:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by a1_friend64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bet the farm he bangs those stewardess's two at a time plus all the whores that are every Airport. You must be simple. Let it go, never ask and never pry, just make sure when he gets hom you are the best he gets xx
2006-10-19 07:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oral exams 2 times daily
2006-10-19 07:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him. Until he gives you a reason not to and handle the situation from there.
Don't stress about the what if's until it happens.
2006-10-19 09:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by BB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋