I am so in love with this man! We have been dating 2 1/2 years on alternate weekends. I don't see him on weekends we have the kids. Both r divorced w children and r raising our children seperately in r own seperate homes, which is ok.. He told me a number of times he would never marry again. I , on the other hand would. He never includes me in works functions, travel plans or work dinners, which really bothers me. I am a homemaker so I don't work outside the home. He is a really great person, just has alot of baggage, more than me. Is this a dead end relationship? We could never b married till the kids grow up and move on. Roughly about 6 - 7 years. Neither one of us r seeing other people. Am I wasting my time?t I really do love him!!!! Help!!!!!!
2006-10-19 00:52:27 · 11 answers · asked by Brooke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My take is that he is seeing you for sex alone. He doesn't even want people/co-workers/friends to know he is in a relationship with a woman. He will never marry you. It might not be so dead end afterall because he still wants to carry on just the way it is now. If you want to "get married" to a guy, he is not the one.
2006-10-19 05:15:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you wrapping your life round a man your just dating, and why should he have to take you to work functions etc. Why don't you go out you may be a homemaker but you also need a life of your own then maybe make some friends and then you won't be so bothered about what he's doing all the time. And he's told you marriage isn't the thing for him so why hold it against him do you badger the poor man? You said yourself your not seeing other people and you have your own homes and you are wasting your life by moaning about him not always including you in his time when maybe he doesn't want that from your relationship, get yourself out there make friends.
2006-10-19 01:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by sez75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have said to wait him out but there a couple of things you need to look at before you take that advice. First the baggage. Remember that your kids assume this baggage as well as you. Second is why he will not include you in any work functions. HIs first foray into marrige sounds like it stained him but good so it will take a lot longer for him to be ready for whatever reason. Its just how long are you willing to wait for him to come around.
2006-10-19 01:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by ktar0420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he can't be that great a person if in the two years or so that you have been together, the only two people who know about your relationship are the both of you. he does not seem so proud of you as to let you meet the people he works with. i think you just want to believe what you want to believe. he has told you a number of times that he would never marry again never mind that you would want. you just seem to have a hard time accepting what you apparently know in your heart but just refuse to come to terms with it. and yes it is a dead end relationship.
2006-10-19 01:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by shang1253 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moments in Life.....
There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real!
When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has been opened for us.
Don't go for looks; they can deceive. Don't go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile, because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile.
Dream what you want to dream; go where youwant to go;
be what you want to be, because you have only one life
and one chance to do all the things you want to do.
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet,
Enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people do not necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
Don't count the years-count the memories...........
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take;
But by the moments that take our breath away!
Give him a hug today!
"We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.
Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive & forget. Love one and all.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them". -- Mother Teresa
2006-10-19 01:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by ashok kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he's made his intentions clear and after 2 and 1/2 years he's proved he isn't changing his mind.
2006-10-19 01:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-19 00:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he won't marry again, u gotta accept the fact n' respect his dicision unless he changes his mind suddenly.....can u bear it??? can u leave him??? just go on with this man since he's sincere......love still can go on without marriage as long as there's still passion, love, respect, loyalty,etc......if not, leave him n' find your happiness.....up to u....true love is hard to find, at the meantime, appreciate him.....best of luck!!!
2006-10-19 00:58:17 · answer #8 · answered by Marijuana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, you don't need the baggage.
2006-10-19 00:58:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him
2006-10-19 00:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋