If someone is joking around and says something that shouldn't be offensive, I take it to heart and think about it long after the conversation ends. This indicates a lot of things about my personality, but in short, I'd like to learn how to let such comments roll off my back.
It's actually similar to how some girls react. If a girl is insulted, they might end up crying and sharing the pain with her closest friends. That's exactly what I would do, and being in an all-boy's school doesn't really help, because things as simple as name-calling can make me feel belittled and inferior. This of course is seldom the case. In short, I just need to learn how to take things lightly. I'd like some advice, if you have any.
I'd also like to teach my kids (should I have any down the road) how to be less sensitive to bullying against them and more sensitive to the emotions of others.
2006-10-19 00:38:38 · 3 answers · asked by Link 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
I feel your sadness in realising we can not control that which is outside of ourselves. Nor is it easy to emotionally detach ourselves from finger pointing, in whatever way it appears in our lives. This is human conditioning, what you are experiencing is initiation into adult hood. The bullies just get bigger. You will attract them like a magnet if you allow your mind to entertain this idea, and the thoughts will help manifest your most feared of realities.
Thoughts create our reality. What are you constantly focussing on? Being hurt?...then you will be...Being Bullied?...then you will be Being emotionally manipulated....then you will be and so forth and so forth and so forth...for every thought.
This is our reality. We are what 'we' make out of our lives. We can only change what is outside of ourselves, by changing how we 'think' of ourselves on an inner level. Know you have the same 'power' as your bullies. Love your bullies, send em 'good thoughts' and believe you can make a difference within yourself...take back your power...for you have been allowing yourself to give it away on a level you have not been aware of ....until now. This is what higher thinking is about. Knowing you are not alone...knowing you have help from a higher source within you. Seek this power, this divine connection you have with all that is within you and outside of you, you are in the hands of a Universe, one that works for us and not against us as many would love to have us believe. You are a soul source of power, amazingly brilliant and wonderful and you wear the face of God as much as anyone else. No one is better or lesser than anyone else. Judgement keeps us in fear, to hurt one other, is because one is hurting inside of themselves, to hurt another blocks them from healing their own pain.
Love, Light 'n' Happy Thoughts!
Harriett Potty ;)
2006-10-19 00:57:34 · answer #1 · answered by harriettpotty 3 · 58⤊ 5⤋
Some folks are just more sensitive than others. This isn't a bad thing and as you get older it'll mellow a bit. Yeah, like that's a big help. I used to cry for everything, very embarrassing. One day I just said, "it just doesn't matter' it worked to a certain point.
Kick some insults right back, all in good fun, of course. This does work, a lot of folk like to hand it out but they sure can't take it. You may have to learn how to defend yourself though, I got into a lot of fights this way. For some reason people think if you're bawling your head off you're a pushover. I may have wiped a lot of snot from my nose but they wiped blood. I'm NOT advocating violence, just letting you know how it turned out for me.
The 'it just doesn't matter' mantra worked best.
2006-10-19 07:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 2⤋
can you answer me if you are a teenager going to school or older ?i guess you are a teenager, so let me tell you what i think. letting others get to you, apart from being sensitive it also shows insecurity and a bit of low self-esteem. you shouldn't pay attention to any kind of remarks, because the same person who makes them, has some kind of insecurity and it's being expressed as hostility to others. you are not what other people think of you. if you think about it long as you mentioned, means that you partly accept and agree with what they tell you. don't let anyone get to you. logical people discuss, insecure people attack. don't play their game.
2006-10-19 07:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by mar 2 · 9⤊ 1⤋