Before my wedding 09/16, I received an email from a friend that she was to ill to make the wedding and I accepted that. After the wedding she emailed me back and said that she would have come hell or high water if I had asked her to be the the maid of honour. I was so upset when I seen the email and I haven't soke to her since I saw the email...
2006-10-19 00:32:03 · 20 answers · asked by Ms.Deb 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You cannot change the past and there is no way to fix what has happened.
Well it sounds like your friend expected to be the maid of honour and was hurt that you didn't ask her. Now you are hurt that she didn't come to the wedding. The only thing you can do if you want to salvage the friendship is to explain why you didn't choose her for the maid of honour and tell her how hurt you were that she didn't come.
If she is a true friend she will also want to make up and clear up this rift.
2006-10-19 01:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Y do u even bother calling her a "friend" she is not a friend. 4 her to tell u she can't make the wedding cause she is sick fair enough. However, if she had the hide to email u again and was ultimately "rude" 2 u she is not worth it. She prob had no intention of going 2 Ur wedding in the first place BUT did not no how 2 tell u the truth so she made up an excuse. 4 her not 2 explain 2 u y she feels the way she does is wrong as well. If it was me I would leave her alone 4 a while she is obviously angry 4 woteva reason. After a while I would try contacting her 2 find out the reasons behind her feelings. If she is a true friend she should explain herself. If not, move on with out her.....she obviously has some serious issues that u can do without. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-19 07:41:12 · answer #2 · answered by bammbamm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww i bet you felt really bad, but as long as you had a great day , what does it matter who u chose to be your maid of honour, it was your choice and no body elses, just tell her you didnt ask her as you wanted another person to b your maid of honour instead, so if she is a true friend she will forget bout the past and think bout the future you and your new husband have, wish you all the luck in the world, and congrats. x
2006-10-19 07:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend would of sent sincere apologies for not being able to attend the wedding, sent a card and gift and offered their congrats to you and the groom.
This so called friend of yours has alot of growing up to do and she needs to learn the meaning of what a true friend is all about.
2006-10-19 08:07:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not worthy to be called your friend. She wants to be seen
as high in esteem... when in fact, she's a lousy lady. The important was your wedding happened as scheduled. You
can still communicate with her but don't trust her anymore.
2006-10-19 08:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by dodadz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By saying that shes looking for a reaction from you, dont let it upset you, have some time not seeing eachother an things will eventually work out...
2006-10-19 07:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by hjo~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
[sigh!] i dont really know what to say.. its just that i have one advice.. dont come the same path as me.. i am always the forgiving type..
o would really feel bad if i was in your place.. but.. on the other hand i would have thought it to be as a plain joke. but then, why not ask her.. having a cut off communication with her would do you now good.. i honestly say.. you have been friends and being one.. one has to accept one's mistake and or lack.. :)
cheer up! dont think too hard about it. okay?
2006-10-19 07:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Pilar B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure it was meant to upset you,,it could mean,and you do know your friend better than any of us,,that she would have forced herself to be there as it meant so much to your big day,,being a bridesmaid or matron of honour,if she is this type of person,let her go but it may have just been a slip of the tongue,so to speak,and not meant to offend,,you be the judge.you could just ask her.
2006-10-19 07:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No doubt that she's not a friend.I don't think you need friends like her and don't ever contact her again if you ask me.I wouldn't think of it twice.Congrats on your wedding,I wish you all the happiness :-)
2006-10-19 07:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a friend but a maid - that's what she wants, thats what she should get (Due respects to all the maids).
2006-10-19 07:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by Tom Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋