i feel my husband lost interest in me since the first week of marrage?

Question

well i have been married for about 2 monthes now...my husband was so loving
before marrage ...we only knew each other for about 1 month chatting...then met
for 1 week then chatting for another 2 monthes then we got married...before
marrage we had no full intercourse only kisses and hugs...and he really had a
great desire in me...yet after marrage he changed a lot...he is no more
romantic...he never asks for sex..i am the one who always asks for it...he is
always distracted ...and i am the one who always asks him to talk with me...any
quarrel between us..he hurts me with very bad words...and although he is wrong
he never asks for forgiveness ...but he makes me feel wrong about it...i found
he knew many girls before me...and i read hot emails he used to write to
them... he says that he loves me..but i feel that he was so romantic with his
previous girlfriends ...and he lost all his romance and desires and love when we
married...that what i feel...i am very depressed

Answer 1

I feel depressed now to after reading that. I am sorry to say but you got out of the marriage exactly what you put into it. You two did not even know each other very well. Of course he is going to have a lot of online activity with other women. That's how he found you. Same thing happened to my friend AND I MEAN EXACTLY! Here is the ending to her F-UP deceision to marry someone she met on online........she became very depressed, she became convinced it was her fault, something SHE was doing wrong. Her days were spent calling me time after time asking me what can she do to change it back to the way it use to be. To the days of him romancing her. She desperately wanted to see the look of desire for her in his eyes again. She often spoke of the loneliness she had to endure even though he was home, she felt so alone. One night about a month ago, around 11p.m. I received a disturbing call from her. He had come home drunk and started arguing with her, said that she was snooping into his past checking out his e-mails and he wanted her to stop, she confronted him on the things she knew and hit her so hard it broke her nose. That's when she called me, again, I advised her to get out of the house and calll the police but she didn't. She did not want him to get arrested. So they continued, sometimes everyday, arguing and he keeps hitting her, sometimes leaving bruises. He convinced her something is wrong with HER.That she's over jealose, that she's a paranoiod B****, that it is al her fault that he becomes angry. After repeatily begging her I finally convinced her to leave him after he choked her and she felt faint. She was suppose to call me back , he wasn't going to be home untill after work so she didn't feel in danger, when she was packed and ready to leave. After 2 hours I tried her house and there was no answer. I tried again a little later and still no answer, so I decided to head to her place to check on her. I was a little worried do to the mere fact that sometimes you just never know. When I arrived her car was there and so was her husband but when I knocked no one answered. I looked in the windows and saw no one. A neighbor came over and informed me that she was taken in a ambulamce to the hospital and the husband had been arrested. The neighbor had called the police because of loud arguing. When I entered into the room where she was recovering from surgery she looked dead. If it wasn't for all the machines she is hooked up on she would be. It has been a week now and she shows no signs of recovery. So after all this I say to you, your husband loosing interest in you could only be the begining of the nightmare, for you have married a man that you know little about. Forget about all the rest of the horrible things he is doing now, think of what may come next from the man you met on the internet.

Answer 2

Dear Friend,I think it was a very short time that you decided to get married after you' ve known him for a little while.I am sorry to hear that he has changed ,this is the worst thing that could ever happen to a person.I can understand what you're going through.Do you think he was unsatisfied after you had sex? Do you also think that he thought that he was in love but he just lost interest? I hope this isn't the case.I hope it's just a thing that goes away.But in any case,you should be aware of what could happen.You should be ready for anything.I think the mistake was you've gone into marriage before you get to know him.But since it's already happened,I think you should just try to talk things over.Ä°f he's still in the same aggressive mood,then you have to think of yourself and maybe let him go.This is the only way that you could understand if the love is real.I wish you the best!

Answer 3

I dated a man like that .....I am glad it didn't work between us ..I now know what I was missing!! I never did find out why he was like that, he said touching a girl was like touching raw hamburger meat, gross! Maybe he's not into women?? Have you asked him why he's not interested any more? Tell him it's not fair to you and that you need more than what he has given you in the marriage. You need the emotional as well physical attention and not just being his wife on paper.My ex has lots of women friends that he flirts with and that is why we broke up, I saw the emails he wrote them. Why he wasn't like that with me I will never know. I do know that writing is different from doing it. These women don't really know what is on the other end and that they are being led on. That he will never measure up. Sounds like the guy needs help to figure out what it is he wants. Ever thought of leaving for a while or forever?
I am thinking on here as I answer you is all...sorry if it hurts.
~best of luck~
You deserve to be loved and it's out there .....

Answer 4

I understand that you are very shocked and upset to find out that your husband has been seeing his ex-girlfriend. You need time to understand the meaning of that. What you need to understand is:

What kind of relationship does he have with her? Maybe a friendship, maybe an affair?


Such a discovery brings you to ask yourself the same question about you and your husband -- it is about time to look at your marriage and to investigate seriously the quality of your relationship.
The main point in your letter is the fact that your husband didn't tell you about his ex-girlfriend and this brings distrust into your marriage.

I suggest that you and your husband relate to this crisis as an opportunity to have a more open dialogue between you, a dialogue that may lead to greater mutual trust.

All of us want a harmonious and happy marriage, but most of us forget that it is only through crisis that we can learn who we are. Only then can we grow and become able to understand something about harmony, happiness and love.

Answer 5

Most men turn like that after marraige, and it's part ur fault. Be strong and send the message that u need to be shown respect or else he has to face ur wrath.Another thing is u could be at fault for expecting him to be the lover boy, he was b4 marraige, that always changes, Men then take woman as thier own and start considering it not important to impress u any more after marraige. However u need to carry on the argument with him to show u more love to keep him on his toes.

Answer 6

Good for yo azz! He likes the chase. You are the conquest. It's over now. You might as well get an anullment and try love the old fashion way. Build real chemistry.

Answer 7

the geat mistake you made was marrying him too soon. are you richer than him maybe he married you for money, or may be his family has been disturbing him to get a wife,or may be he still loves playing around with girls. whatever it is try to find out what the problem is so you know where and how to start solving it.

Answer 8

whatever d reason,whatever ur stategy to handle this atleast DO NOT HAVE A BAY unless things are clearer.
having a bay will complicate things all d more and the child will suffer throughout his life without ant doing of his.
u can always take a reasonable decision by giving it time energy patience counselling ....

Answer 9

Turn your depression around girl, hope is just around the corner. Try playing hard to get and see if he bites, or just get curious. Food in the bedroom? Blindfold? there are many things you can do to spice up your love lives. just take the bull by the horns!

Answer 10

sorry to hear that youare not very happy in this marriage, it sounds to me as if you didnt give urselves enuff time to sort out how well you suit eachother. you can't make someone fall in love with you or find you physically attractive but you can be honest with yourself and ask why you are prepared to be in a marriage that you are not satisfied with. Talk to your husband and tell him that neither of you wants to be unhappy, therefore if he can't be civil with you, you will leave him.. explain that although you may love him, you love yourself more! good luck,