I have feelings for her, she says she doesn't for me,but we agreed to stay friends. The friendship is getting too close again and making me feel uncomfortable, seeing nothing will happen. I believe this is the best solution or not? Any suggestions? Is doing it by txt gutless? Will she feel hurt?
2006-10-18 23:55:30 · 14 answers · asked by Machine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
How would she feel after I told her?
2006-10-19 00:09:25 · update #1
1 more thing---what if she says I'm over reacting and doesn't agree?
2006-10-19 00:10:35 · update #2
Hi just tell her exactly what you have said here, Being honest is the best way, especially if it is hurting you, you want to think about yourself and if you know nothings going to happen and cant deal with it maybe it is best for her also. Its either that or move on and find another person you like and you will probabley forget all about her. But as you are friends she may well be insulted you dont want to be friends no more. I wouldnt say have no contacted but maybe just talkiing on the phone or Email would be best for you. Rather than seeing her in person. What do you mean by the relationship is getting too close again. If she has told you she doesnt have feelings for you how can the relationship be getting close. If she is giving you mixed signels then maybe no contact all together would be the best. You can do it whatever way you want. Its not like you are dumping your girlfriend. Just text her and then turn your phone off for a while incase she tries to ring you. Because if she rings you, you will here her voice and because you like her she may be able to win you round to still having contact. But it will be no good as you still have feelings for her.
2006-10-19 03:50:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-22 01:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her the truth (to her face) just let her know that its hard for you being around her due to your feelings and you'd rather have some space for a while until you learn to deal with them and your not giving up on the friendship but you just need to get your feelings for her sorted before it can continue.
if she's as good a friend as you think then she'll completley understand and wait until your sorted.
2006-10-19 00:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she really doesn't have feelings and isn't just scared of admitting the feelings she does have!
If you know you aren't going to get the relationship from her that you want, you need to admit it to yourself and try and move on - if being apart helps that then try it, but experience says that it doesn't help as when you see her again the feelings will come flooding back!
2006-10-19 23:44:31 · answer #4 · answered by Both of us! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to let go Dude. You cant be friends with someone you love, if they dont love you, and no amount of time will change this. Feelings of envy, jealousy, hurt and anger will rear its ugly head, and you'll end up despising her.
Just walk away, and start avoiding her today, until you eventually don't think about her anymore. It will take time and be very heartbreaking, but the opposite will hurt even more, especially once she starts dating someone.
Give it some time and find someone who will love you back.
2006-10-19 02:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Adrenaline Rush™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your so d*mm close you will be able to say to her upfront we are getting to close again... and its screwing with mey head... i need space... im not saying we cant be friends but i need to get over how i feel for you and feel its unfair on both of us... then part
have some time on your own and get over it... move on.... if this cant be accepted then the phrase "cake and eating it comes to mind"
2006-10-19 00:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply need to communicate to her that you need to be away from her for a while to evaluate your feelings and you need to do that face to face not in a text or e-mail...be a man...not just some guy she knew once...make it memorable and she'll know that you intend to remain friends with her.
2006-10-18 23:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time wont make u get over her. you cant be friends with this woman at all. once love gets in the way everything getsa screwed up. you cant have feelings for your friends; it never works.
2006-10-19 00:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by jimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree I find it easier not to see them if I have feelings and they are not reciprocated !
2006-10-18 23:59:04 · answer #9 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her the truth that you need abit of space but maybe your better off with her out of your life fullstop?
2006-10-19 03:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by danni.k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋