Im 16 ive been dating this guy for close to 2 yrs bout a 6 wks we decided to have sex, we knew what could happen, we knew we decided if i get pregnant we'll take care of the baby, cause thats the outcome of our desion, we used protection, and ive been talking bout gettin on the pill, but it hadnt happend yet... and of course, the protection didnt work, i think it broke. Anyway im keeping the baby no matter what, we decided we are gonna get married, it probably wont happen before the baby comes but it will happen, We just arent sure how to tell our parents, im afraid my parents will kick me out, and his parents wont agree with this, and they deff. wouldnt let us stay there, and we have no $$ to live on our own, and try to get an ed. if you jus give me suggestions or something, i really want the baby now that i know im pregnant, and i know i can trust him not to leave me. so plz help if you can
2006-10-18 23:53:18 · 14 answers · asked by theres this boy... & I love him 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
yea, i want to tell them now, before they find out the hard way
2006-10-18 23:59:06 · update #1
he'll be 17 in january, and he has a job already, but hes thinking about looking for a different one, onr that pays better, if possible
2006-10-19 00:05:39 · update #2
we arent gonna get married anytime soon.... but its an option.....
2006-10-19 00:18:21 · update #3
There are lots of facilities that can help you with all the questions involved in this. Look for a Planned Parenthood online near your city and go visit them.
As for your parents, they won't kick you out (unless they're sadistic and hate you). They won't be happy, but hopefully they'll help take care of you. I don't know if the guy you're dating is going to be safe from them though!
This is going to be extremely tough for you and there's no avoiding the fact that they will notice as you get further along in the pregnancy. Talk to them now, so you have the most time possible to deal with it.
2006-10-18 23:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by Seraphim 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your to young to be a mother thats what your parents are going to say and they are right but you are already pregnant so thats a moot point unless you want an abortion
you can not get married at your age without your parents pemission and why would you want to when it sounds like yall are both still in high school
sit down with wichever parent that you can talk to easiest and tell them if they kick you out then there are several orginizations that will help you if you are that sure that they will kick you out when you tell them call the nonemergency no. of your local police befor you tell them and they can direct you in the proper direction
you do need to tell them asap you need prenatel care for you and the baby and the stress of not knowing what will happen is not good for you either
but for everyone concerned do not give up on your education if you do then you will never get anywhere in life
good luck
2006-10-19 00:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by prissymiss1968 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not screwed. Your going to be a very young mommy. You should make sure 100% that he's going to be there for you through thick and thin. Im 19 and pregnant with my first one, and with the mood swings, and cravings, etc etc, pains you will have your other have should be there to comfort you. My fiancee says sometimes its even hard on him to deal with me. The best way to tell your parents is to just go out and tell them. They cant kick you out at 16. You have to be 18 to be kicked out, because at 18 you are a legal adult. But becarful because if your parents are going to be too happy about this baby then it could come down to them making a decison for you for abortion or adoption! Becareful, and think everything through! Being a mommy at 16 will not be fun, you gotta think about finishing school, being able to take care of the baby right, money wise and everything else. My boyfriend and I are both working to make sure we are prepared for this job. If you have too right now, since your not too far along, go out and get a resturant job maybe. Goodluck!
2006-10-19 00:45:32 · answer #3 · answered by xxlilmekristyrae32xx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think very hard about this decision. You both are very young. I understand you are in love, and plan on marriage, but I also felt that way about my 2 year boyfriend when I was your age. We were very much in love, but broke up before our 3 year.
I do hope things work out for you, though. I know my mum had me when she was 16, [by the way, their young love didn't last past my first year] and she turned out very well, but she also had the support of my grandparents, and aunts.
You do not sound this lucky. You really need to talk to your family. If you got kicked out, it sounds it would be very hard for you to find help out there. Think about living options, school, work. It will be very hard, especially finding a place to live.
I know you don't want to hear this, but if abortion is out of the question, adoption may be a good idea.
I really think you should wait, and grow up, before considering raising a child.
2006-10-19 00:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need supporting through this time, especially at such a young age, and no matter how difficult it will be to approach this with both your parents, you must confide in them as they have the support network you are both going to need with this huge change you are going to experience. Your parents may not let you board with them, but they can be there for you in another ways, such as emotional support and helping you receive the benefits and such you may be entitled to. I should think that after the initial shock of discovering this has subsided and they accept that the situation is real, they will be glad to hear that the two of you have made plans to do the best you can together for your baby, and will be pleased to help you on your path to parenthood. Good luck.
2006-10-19 00:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell them w/ a close friend there too, but NOT
w/ the boy friend there, it will break there hearts @ first,
but if they really care about & love you they will help you
Since I don't know where you live I don't know if you could find a home that helps pregnat teens, but that's
what a friend of mine did years ago ( in NJ) , too
bad we lost contact, I've been trying to find her for years,
but have had no luck
If neither one of those ideas work then try to stay w/ another relative if you can
best of luck to you & take care
2006-10-19 00:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to your parents together, just tell them you need to talk to them and tell them straight, you have been together for two years so it's not like a one night stand. I'm sure at first your parents will be in shock but they will support you. You have nearly nine months to sort yourselves out, is he also 16? Time for him to get a job to support your baby.
When you have had the baby just go to college part time to get your education and so you have a better chance of getting a job when you are ready.
Good luck, let me know how it goes with your parents x
2006-10-18 23:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by vanessa s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww young love, I'll give the father until the first diaper change until he starts denying the child. Make sure you get him to sign the birth certificate before you wind up on the Maury show. I also like the old " I think it broke excuse" nice touch.
2006-10-19 00:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Darth Vader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you NEED to talk with your mum.. but of course you must be sure she can keep a secret with you.
Secondly, i think youre too young to start thinking of getting married.. you have a lot of life ahead of you, and beleive me, after 6 months of running away together, you and this chap will probably feel like running away from each other .. Please think of your future, and what you may be doing to yourself.. look at all the people around you who got prgenant at 16.. find out how they are doing with their lives now, and if they wished they had taken the other choice.. please dont be in a hurry
2006-10-19 00:08:26 · answer #9 · answered by busola h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since your are pregnant and you are very seriuos about ur baby you have nothing to worry.
you love ur unborn baby, who is in your tummy then how can ur parents hate ; u are there baby;they have brought you up
so take a step with full courage tell your parents, they may get angry or peace off but they cannot kick you off. you have to accept their anger as they are best people to help you.
second way is if you bf is serious about his baby u ask him to talk to his parents.
the parents of ur bf and ur parents can sort it out well
otherwise if you really really want the baby @ age of 16 and are so daring then be a good mother who fights for her kids right to live
go and talk and tell them
take care of yourself and all the best!!
2006-10-19 00:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by may_minu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋