your turn ladies..... what do you expect from a husband?

Question

what do you honestly think is the criteria for a good husband?

Answer 1

Honesty, sincerity, spontaneity, and faithfulness. I want a man I who will work with me, not against me. One who considers marriage a team effort. My husband needs to share at least some of my interests, but not all, as we are individuals and have separate tastes.

Answer 2

First and foremost, he has to be my best friend.
I have been married for 34 yrs.. We not only love each other as man and wife but it goes much deeper than that.
This man stood by me through bouts of illness that almost ended my life, one being cancer. He saw me through the most difficult time of my life and never complained once, or left my side. He saw me at my worst and loved me anyway and encouraged me with hope and understanding, but the most important was showing me what true love is and put my life before his and did it willingly.
Never once did he buckle under from all the added work that was put on him, and would scold me for showing any concern about all the stress he was under. The only time I saw him break down was when the doctor told him to take your wife home, make her as comfortable as possible, there is nothing else we can do for her. But, he never gave up and that's why I am here now, and I am able to write about it.
There is so much more to my story but that's not the point I want to make.
What I expect from my husband, is to be a "real man" and I have been given this most precious gift and I thank God for him, I know I would have never made it without him.
So ladies look for that very special friend and, you will have a wonderful husband.

Answer 3

A good husband should walk beside you as he leads, not run ahead without you. A good husband should make you feel protected, loved and the center of his universe, and you should do the same.

A good husband should be someone that matches & is compatable with your intellectual, spiritual, physical and sexual needs, and someone you can dream with, yet someone different enough to offer a challenge & a different viewpoint so that in times of difficulty you can "brainstorm" your way out. But these are all different for everyone, so first, know what your needs are on this level, then look through those at the man you are with. Don't expect him to change.
"Aisle change him" does not work.

Answer 4

I expect him to be a life partner some one to turn to when you need him, some one to laugh with, some one to grow old with, some one to bicker with, cry with, be my best friend. Know that he will be there 360 days of the year.

Because when its all said and done and all the pictures are hung on the wall you can turn to your husband say "see what we created during the past 50 years".

Answer 5

in a good relationship, a husband should treat his wife with the same respect as he expects her to treat him with. unfortunately in what i believe are majority of failed or failing relationships the men somehow live with a whole separate set of rules than what they expect their wife to live under. if 2 people do not have genuine respect for each other as the basic building block, everything that is built on top of this will be lopp sided and eventually crumble.

Answer 6

Taqwa (I am no longer certain if there's an English phrase that fits this...it approach to be conscious/in awe/worry of God). Honesty, kindness, mercy, religion, humbleness, and humility earlier than God. Being robust adequate to be the non secular chief of the loved ones (ie aid his youngsters and spouse to arrive their ambitions, and gain knowledge of extra) however shrewd and being concerned adequate to understand whilst to sit down again and realize. Knowing that actually the whole thing is within the Hands of God. From what to devour for dinner or his automobile operating or no longer, to the quantity of kids he has and the piety of his spouse.... Everything he has on this international is way to God. :)

Answer 7

What you expect and what your get are 2 different things. I am in my second marriage and the one thing I learned is guys change after they put that ring on. The one thing I learn is not to expect anything! If I get my hopes up...I am always let down and upset. Try to live life happy. I wish you the best

Answer 8

Someone you loves you for you
Someone who is caring
Someone who can always say your the most gorgrous thing in the world, no matter what you look like
Someone romantic
Someone full of suprises & ecitment
Someone who will always be there & Can tell you the truth
And someone who would do anything for you.

Answer 9

All I ask iis he tells me what he wants...I will never refuse him ANYTHING and would and have done everything he has ever desired. MMF FFM Spanking A O Public BDSM CLUBS Swinging, Video Public Stuff and he knows he only has to ask me...I will do it...and in exchange, I expect total honesty.....14 years and going strong who is right? me? having the time of my life with the man of my dreams... or the dried up old religious nutters or fat bitter sexless cows who post.....

Answer 10

I have read your question and the answer of 15 different women. I am partly amazed at some of the answers. It seems like a lot of women think only of themselves in that they want a man to take good care of them as well as make them happy. Several women made clear points about men in their lives essentially making them the most important thing in the world. But my amazement turned into understanding, because the other half of the women who responded were a bit more grounded in their answers. There seems to be a contradiction these days in what role a woman plays in a relationship. Some people believe the old fashioned way where women are to at home taking care of family and the kids and the husband works, while some relationships have both spouses working. The one thing I still see a lot of is the idea that a woman’s role in the relationship, whether she works a full time job or has a career, is about taking care of not only the family, but the husband as well. It's almost like men marry in order to have their Mommy back, so they maneuver their wives into fulfilling the role. The reason for this isn't the focus of this note, but women aren't our mothers. They aren't here to serve men or to raise children alone. They aren't responsible for a man's happiness and they don't need our past problems. Women and men are meant to be partners.

When I saw the answers to the question, the very idea that many of the women responded by wanting and needing a man to treat them like a princess and be honest and caring led me to believe there are men out there who take advantage of today’s women. Women certainly aren't perfect either, what with all the "gold digging" young women (and older women!) who think its ok to have sex with older men so they will shower them with gifts and money for being a "good girl", but I see an almost collective consciences of women being taken advantage by guys who verbally denounce men who treat their women as second class citizens, while demanding their wives complete another chore while they play golf or go hunting.

You see, their are roles in relationships and unfortunately, early in the relationship the man and the woman put their best foot forward and it's not until later in the relationship do we realize things haven't worked out the way we thought they would. Of course if we would realize outside of a relationship the reality of a relationship, then our expectations of how we should be treated and how we should treat our spouses wouldn't be skewed.

Our parents taught us with the best information they had at the time. We watched our parents fight, we watched them interact and we took those examples and created our own little set of expectations for a spouse. Unfortunately, that's not necessarily how a relationship works. Our expectations are not the recipe for a perfect wife or husband. We have to learn that in order to forge a good relationship and a good life together, we all have to WORK together.

A marriage is a partnership in which two people work towards common goals equally and fairly, considering each other’s needs and the needs of the family as it grows. Men, you're not a little boy with a new Mommy who takes care of your needs while you work your 9 to 5 job, nor are you the person who showers your wife with gifts of love and make her feel special because of a lack of love she didn't receive from her Daddy. And women, you are not a man's little housemaid, running around taking care of him because he got special attention from his Mommy and needs you to continue the role for him to be able to function. You are both individuals and are together to raise a family and create a wonderful and fulfilling relationship and marriage by communicating with each other constantly, discussing your past, your future and planning and making decisions and developing honesty and trust and confidence in each other. These are the criteria for a husband or a wife.

There is always room for romance and certainly I am not saying none of us need to be treated as special from time to time. Romance and obviously sex are important parts of a marriage. We all want to feel special and made to feel important, but not at the expense of the other person. Respecting the idea that we all have needs, wants and desires is key to a good relationship and understanding that although both spouses can and need to try to help each of us with those needs, they can’t be all we need, for they have needs too. We each have to realize our needs, wants and desires aren’t always going to be met, but we can take comfort in the fact that we have chosen the right spouse by how willing they are to WORK with us and not against us.