Did you get spanked as a kid?

Question

Who here was spanked as a child...?
I mean swatted as a consequnce, not savagely or needlessly beaten. For those of you who were spanked as a child, do you think it had any negative effects on you? I was spanked when I was young, always with an explanation of what I did wrong, and why it was wrong. I'm now a loving mother, and I look back and see that spanking didnt hurt me in any way. I grew up in a loving home, and usually just a warning did the trick for me, but sometimes I just needed a swat, and I even KNEW i did. Does anyone out there think that spanking had a negative effect on them? What were your experiences?

-Experiences with YOUR children dont count, unless they are grown. Otherwise, you dont really know HOW they turned out, do you? I am asking for YOUR experience. Thanks! Just trying to get some insight.

Answer 1

Yes, I was spanked as a child, and I don't beileve it had any negative impact on me whatsoever. My parents never spanked me for meaningless things, only if I had done something very wrong.

I agree with spanking, as I do not know anyone which it has affected badly. (Like you say, spanking, not abuse!!).

I spank my son, in the same way my parents did me - only when he has done somthing very bad, or when it is a situation where he is putting himself in danger.

Keep being a loving mother and teaching your child the way you are.

:-)

Answer 2

YES! I got spanked. Not all the time my mom & dad were an are still very good people. I don't feel an any way that it made me a bad person. I get real mad at some of these people that gave this [cry me a river story] I was beat as a child when only they were doing some thing they new was not right. Now I understand that they are kid's out there that are beaten an are killed by there mother or father that went to for an there are some that are just dawn right mean to kid's an that is a sad thing. I have a 28yr. old son that I think I mite have been a little to stern. I have had people tell me I did a very good job with him. I think he has turn out to be a very repectfull an helpfull young man tell me how many kids now days go out the very next day afther getting the driver license an get a part time job put there self through high school an now cottage. TO ALL THE MOM & DAD OUT THERE THAT SAIDS TO THERE KIDS NOT JUST 1 OR 2 TIMES BUT ALL THE TIME NOW NOW STOP THAT [AN THEY KEEP ON] YOU ARE TELLING YOUR KIDS THAT IT REALLY IS OK TO DO BAD THINGS AN THEY KNOW THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH IT. If I toll my son not to do some thing he new not to do it. I did not have to said it again.

Answer 3

Yes I was spanked as a child, and no I dont believe it had any negative effects. There's a difference between discipline and abuse. I dont think any child should be abused, but on the same hand, sometimes spankings are in order. Whenever I was spanked, I was always given an explanation as to why. I feel like it's just a part of growing up.
I also think that people are having children at a far younger age, and they just hit their kids for nothing, and with anything like extension cords, shoes, hangers...etc. I think something like that is too extreme just to get a point across.

Answer 4

I had an Italian mother, so I was always spanked with a wooden spoon. It's the disciplinary tool of choice, lol. Anyway, yes I was spanked, but my mother would always apologize for it afterwards and tell me what I did wrong. I think my generation was the last generation that was spanked and you can really see the difference. We know to respect our elders because we respected our parents. The kids now a days don't respect anybody or anything. I mean, look at how they are punished. They are sent to their rooms where they have a tv, computer, and video games. That is hardly a punishment. Kids need to know there are negative consequences for their bad decisions. I am now a successful travel nurse, who drinks occaisionally, and does not do any drugs. I am actually thankful my mom spanked me.

Answer 5

My Dad spanked me only once, when I was about 8 or 9 yrs old. I never forgot it. Did it have a negative impact on my life? No, not at all. It was an upsetting experience though because I got a spanking the one and only time in my life for something I didn't even do.

Answer 6

I was a little more than spanked, I was hit with a thick belt, or sometimes whatever was available, and yes, I think it did have a negative impact. I think its one of the reasons why I'm rather neurotic and moody. When I see people arguing, I almost expect it to evolve into a violent encounter.

Answer 7

Yeah. I was more than spanked. But like you said always with an explanation. My parents love me and I know that. I think I've become a prettry respectful, respectable adult, and I know that my parents had most of the part in that. Good job Mom and Dad!

Answer 8

2 times only but my dad just looked at me and i knew better ,if we went to someones house my mom said sit on the couch and dont move or ask for anything,kids now a days dont do that there all over the place and even open the fridge my parents would have put me in check quick,strict italian parents

Answer 9

Yea, I was spanked alot. I would just look at my mom and she would chase me around the house til she caught me. And then she would beat my butt with a board until i screamed her name over and over again. one day i hid the board and i havent seen my mom since, i think she ran out of street drugs.

Answer 10

With my experience, it was violent abuse, so when I was taught the difference between Healthy and abusive, This taught me how NOT to treat my children, and yes, sometimes the Emotional effect can never really go away.