She's my best friend but I just can't stand her kids...They're so badly behaved and I really don't want to tell her how to rear her kids!! I have two also and I would never let mine run riot the way they do!!! If we're in a restaraunt they won't sit for more than 5 minutes and she just lets them.They're not babies they're 8 and 9 years old..What should I do??
2006-10-18 23:40:18 · 20 answers · asked by prettywoman 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well i dont really no hows about just telling your friend your experience of being mum she may take a few things on you never no just try not to make it to loud(obvious) ok if you dont wanna hurt her feelings though she probably will forgive you hope it helps chick **chris**
2006-10-18 23:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by chris j 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
wow thats a tough one. since i had my 2 kids I am so intolerant of other peoples kids that misbehave. My kids are polite and mostly well behaved (at least in public) so why can't other kids be. If you have the balls then you could say next time you're out for food maybe you should tell the kids to calm down a wee bit we're getting dirty looks or something similar? good luck
2006-10-19 06:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by xxx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im in exactly the same predicament. I hate the fact that my friends kids run wild and can tear my whole house apart in minutes, they even hurt my pets and one of them actually poured half of the container of fish food into the tank when he knew exactly what he was doing. She doesnt say a thing but when my kids go to her place they are so well mannered and ask before they can touch anything. I know my kids are not perfect angels, but they are certainly not constantly naughty.
I love my friend and I think I would really offend her if I said something, but what annoys me the most is she tries to tell me what to do with my kids.
It was slowly killing our relationship because I was avoiding spending time with her so that I didnt have to put up with the kids. So what I do now is, I take one of them each for a week in the school holidays and re-train them. I know this sounds completely mad, but I enforce manners and tidying up after themselves and even a little house cleaning. I have now found that when the kids are around me they continue to use their "Katie Manners" (My secret name for it) and I also hope that my friend will realise how well they are behaved when they go back to her and ask what I do.
I know it seems like a lot of work, but it was worth it to keep our friendship...you know what would make things so easy, if they had puppy classes but for kids. Then all of our kids would be brought up knowing the correct manners and behaviours. LOL
2006-10-19 06:49:48 · answer #3 · answered by katie.sugar 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is never an easy situation to handle. My friends kids behaved like that and I just started avoiding being with my friend when she had the kids with her. Today they are a little more grown up and better behaved.
If you don't feel like talking about your friends kids to her, tell her about other peoples kids who behave in a similar way and see if she sympathyses with you. That might make her think...
2006-10-19 06:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by IC 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out and go place with her and leave the kids out of it. If you are not able to do this then why not tell her how you feel. I bet she thinks that she is doing a goo job raising the little darlings
2006-10-19 06:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Label Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't eat out with her anymore. If she's a good friend, tell her it bothers you. Then tell her you'ld like to keep hanging out, but only when it can be just you two without the kids.
2006-10-19 06:44:30 · answer #6 · answered by Velken 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tolerate. Such children would stop behaving mischeivious if you start praising them 4 anything they do. State ur friend abt a X family wid such naughty chilren. build a new story stating those. went useless when they grew up. come on
take it easy
2006-10-19 07:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by Aravi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell Ur friend she wont feel SO bad about it
hope they dOnt trouble u bye
2006-10-19 07:59:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's the worst age for kids to be little nutters, at that age theres no stopping them, she is prolly used to them being like that...she should discipline them more and threaten to take them home if they don't behave....the best thing for you to do is not eat out with her any more...just go out for drinks on a weekend without the kids...or just say to her...look sort them out or i will not be spending time with you any more...kids eh...cant be without them...
2006-10-19 06:48:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Aproach her in a friendly manner. point out the fact that its disrespectful and it will only worsen if it continues. Tell her you know from personal experience and that your only trying to save her the trouble.
2006-10-19 06:43:56 · answer #10 · answered by Dj Valor 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋