a friend you've rated so high,that you loved so much.you can sacrifice so many things to satisfy him/her.how do you feel if this person decide to let you down at the last minute you need his/her help.
2006-10-18 23:33:16 · 18 answers · asked by oluwafeyisayofunmi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'd feel completely lousy and heart broken. It's so hard when there is no explanation just silence. Especially as it sounds like you were there for him/her and now they haven't been there for you. If you still have a relationship with this person there is hope of reconciliation if you can talk it through. It's always worth fighting for relationship's that are important to you.
However relationships can't work if one person is doing all the giving and the other is just lapping it up. Sometimes we need to let go and spend our energy on people who are our equals and who openly care for us. All the best, oh and look after your heart.
2006-10-18 23:48:43 · answer #1 · answered by debzadon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would break my heart babe. Its gonna sound really stupid but I don't have a particular best friend, never have and its always worked wonders for me. If you think about it... You have this one person in the world you tell everything to, and i mean everything. Then one day something happens and that person knows all there is to know. Where do you stand then? Everything you've ever told her could be up for everyone to hear. I have a lot of friends and a lot of good friends, I only tell certain things to certain people, that way you can't be let down x x x
2006-10-18 23:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by I-Love-My-Boys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend about a year ago who really let me down. I have only been living in the UK for a few years and have had a lot of trouble meeting people. Finally someone came into my life from my home country and it was great. We had so much in common, and was wonderful to see eye to eye with someone other than my husband. At the beginning of the year I decided to leave my job, and I have been unemployed ever since. I left because it was very unchallenging and also I had started to notice she was making fun of what I did and the company i worked for. I think subconciously I blocked it out at the time. Now I know if she had been supportive I might still be there. But because I didn't have any other friends, I guessed she might be right. So I left and fell into a huge depression, being unemployed and having nothing. She got sick of me complaining (eventhough I always try to have a postitive outlook on life) and told me one day she can't help me anymore. Honestly she didn't help me to begin with. I thought we were friends, but in the end, I have no idea why she wanted to come into my life in the first place. My husband always had a bad feeling about her, but I liked her. A few weeks later, she showed up with one of her friends at my door step drunk when my husband was out of town, and demanded me to let her in to show her friend my new kitten. I told her I was about to go to bed, and I have never heard back from her since. I didn't know what to do so I left the ball in her court. Now I still don't have a job, don't have any friends here, and am at the lowest point in my life. I'm not laying the blame on her, but I would never treat anyone that way. It sucks losing trust in people, but this world is very competitive even when it comes to friendships. I was her "in case she has nothing else to do friend" since she was a student with loads of people around her, and she was my "only friend I've got and I'll be there when you need me" friend. Joke was on me I guess. Sorry to go on , but I know how you feel. Keep your chin up. :)
2006-10-18 23:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by ~♥~mama-to-be~♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my best friend never lets me down in a drastic way but sometimes she's due to come after work for dinner or a chat or whatever and she'll phone at last minute to say she's either delayed (by at least an hour) or has to cancel. Often dinner is ruined but the worst thing is my 4 year old gets very excited that she's coming round and gets really upset when she doesn't.
2006-10-18 23:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by xxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is happening to me right now... I feel like i have no one. Im sad, hurt and at the same time very angry. I dont think i can ever think of them as a best friend anymore. Being let down at a serious time of need can really scar someone.
2006-10-18 23:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by coffeejitterzz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that is not a real friend. You need to let this so call "friend" know that he or she disappointed you deeply and let the person know that they were not being a good friend. If you don't say anything it's going to eat at your head as well as keep on breaking your heart. I hope you and your friend can mend this situation for the better.Good luck.
2006-10-18 23:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I agree that this is not a real friend.I got similar situation, but I had to forgive my friend because he was bagging me to forgive.Now we're friends again, but these things you can't forgot and you will remember that all the time and of course you won't count on your friend so much next time.Well I suggest you to do what you like, you can forgive your friend at first time, but if that repeats don't stay in friends with that looser no longer!
2006-10-19 00:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
makes you feel pretty low, i had a best friend who pulled me away from my other friends to join another group in which she liked better(i thought this was the better decision because i trusted her), worst mistake of my life to follow her, now im out of school and back with my old groups of friends and i dont even speak to her anymore! So in the end, if they let you down in a huge way, maybe you should reconsider your friendship or if it wasnt anything major.. give them another chance everyone stuffs up!!
2006-10-18 23:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by Jess B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like I wasted a lot of time & I'll never do it again, cause it's easyer to not have friends & know what to exspect these days, everyone only think of them selfs.
2006-10-18 23:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you put so much trust and energy into someone how is a friend then you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
2006-10-18 23:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by Label Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋