Im a lesbian...but I have not told my parents and Im19...should I?

Answer 1

If it isn't too difficult on you, it would probably be easier for everyone if you wanted until you got out on your own.

If you don't want to wait, then DO IT. There is a group, named something like parents and others with gay children, the local Gay and Lesbian Community Center can tell you where. It might be a good idea to attend a meeting by yourself and find how others have broken the news to the parents. Many parents already know and it's no biggie; others have fits, and don't understand at all.
Good luck.

Answer 2

I'm 24 and still haven't came out to my family, though I'm out to pretty much everyone else. The reason is, I'm not really close to my parents and don't feel comfortable discussing my love life to them. But if you're comfortable with your sexuality and feel at ease with them knowing, then go ahead and tell them. Pretty much the only time you should think twice is if you're still finacially dependent on them, and you fear they are homophobic and may react to your sexuality in an extreme way (like kicking you out or something). Even if they are ok with homosexuality, they may still need some time getting used to the idea that their own child is gay, but in the end, they will love you and support you as they always have.

Good luck!

Answer 3

i was 19 when I told them. They said they had already known. If you don't feel ready, don't tell them. I never understood why anyone has to say anything... I originally said it as a sort of courtesy, but then I realized, I don;t hear may heteros "come in." Why should we "come out" ? We should just BE. Feel free to contact if you need anything. My wife and I certainly understand. 19 must be a magic number. She told her parents at that age too. 13 years later, she and I are still going strong. My mother in law and father in law recognize that we are married and are very happy with me. They consider me their daughter. My parents feel the same towards my wife.

Answer 4

Tell them whenever you're ready. If you're tired of pretending to be straight or lieing to them, then tell them. If you're comfortable being very out, tell them. If they'll take away everything they've bought for you and will live you without money, food, clothing, or shelter, then maybe wait. It all depends on what your situation is and how out you want to be.

Answer 5

If you feel like you should tell your parents then yes. Most of the time your parents already know. My mom did. When i told her she wasn't even shocked or disapointed and she is in my corner when I need her.

But then again it depends on your relationship with them if you know your parents will be against it then its in your best intrest to leave it to yourself, until you feel they can hadle it.

Answer 6

Tell them when youre ready. Don't let anyone pressure you.

My mom found out a year ago and she swears up and down that it's a phase because i've been hurt alot.

with that, good luck

Answer 7

if you have a good reason to tell them, ok, than you could. But why should you tell it when you don't really have a good reason. If you have a gf or you think you have to call yourself to account according to your parents (sorry if my grammar isn't great) than you should tell them
I haven't told them yet, cause I am single and I have no good reason to tell it to them. I think they might accept it more easy when you have a girlfriend. Then it isn't a stupid joke (in their opinion) but they see that you are serious.

Answer 8

wait until you are completely independent of them, emotionally and financially, and that usually happens after college. that way, if they do react to you negatively, then you can shrug your shoulders and walk away without feeling anymore obligations towards them. you have to look out for yourself first. do not burn your bridges until you know for sure you won't be turning back.

that's what my brother did. he was rejected harshly and he just went skipping off into the sunset happily.

Answer 9

I'm not out yet 'cause I'm terrified too. We talk about homosexuality a lot at my house, and I think its cause they suspect me. I'll tell them when I'm ready, but right now, at not at place were I can handle them being upset. I know they will be. But, that's me. If you feel that your parents are understanding and can handle it, tell them.

Answer 10

It depends on your relationship with them and how much you depend on them. If you you rely on them financially in any way and you know they will freak out then I wouldn't recommend it. When to come out and to whom is someone's own personal decision.